BTDT! I told my husband that was the way it was going to be and that's that...
If he read a little of the stuff that's out there, he would be on board. I literally had to shove the info down dh's throat. He is half deaf anyway,so I had my work cut out for me. I am glad I started before I got pregnant, cause man 9 months hardly seems enough time.
I did enough research about vbac for about ten women, so my husband knew I was making an educated decision. I had planned for the what ifs. And I know what I am capable of.
I don't know how many kids you want, but if you want more than 2, that's enought reason to steer clear of hospitals all together. Just placing foot in a hospital makes it even more likely you'll have a repeat. I agree to telling your husband exactly how your cesarean made you feel, and why you feel the need to birth at home. Make your case and stick to your guns. After all, it is your body, and you ultimately have the last word.
And besides, they say to stay home for as long as possible(to avoid interventions and not waste their time). Don't you think it would be more responsible to have a skilled midwife there keeping watch, in case the what ifs came up instead?
Good luck I know what a battle it can be, but I know that the facts add up in our favor . Just keep reading and there is no way you would be able to change your mind.