My 7 year old dd A is beautiful and extremely intelligent. She is very outgoing, very well spoken, and very likeable.
Ever since she was 4 or so years old, when she is around other children, A is mean to other girls. She'll be really mean and hurt their feelings ("you're not my friend") There is a family that we see frequently and they have a daughter around the same age. For years I have been telling A that if she is always mean to this particular friend then this friend is not going to want to be friends anymore. A seems to understand this but always turns right around and is mean again.
Recently, this friend has started being mean back and the other children have been teasing and being mean to A. On Sunday, I knew something was up with A because she seemed to be on the verge of tears all day. I asked her what was wrong and she finally opened up and said the children at church didn't want to sit by her and everyone was teasing her (making fun of her name, etc.)
I just don't know what's going on in her mind. I feel bad for her because what I told her was going to happen, is happening. Actually, I wonder if I was like that as a child. Even to this day I have a hard time making female friends.
I'm not sure what to say to A anymore... maybe I should just let it go and let her learn the hard way.
Ever since she was 4 or so years old, when she is around other children, A is mean to other girls. She'll be really mean and hurt their feelings ("you're not my friend") There is a family that we see frequently and they have a daughter around the same age. For years I have been telling A that if she is always mean to this particular friend then this friend is not going to want to be friends anymore. A seems to understand this but always turns right around and is mean again.
Recently, this friend has started being mean back and the other children have been teasing and being mean to A. On Sunday, I knew something was up with A because she seemed to be on the verge of tears all day. I asked her what was wrong and she finally opened up and said the children at church didn't want to sit by her and everyone was teasing her (making fun of her name, etc.)
I just don't know what's going on in her mind. I feel bad for her because what I told her was going to happen, is happening. Actually, I wonder if I was like that as a child. Even to this day I have a hard time making female friends.
I'm not sure what to say to A anymore... maybe I should just let it go and let her learn the hard way.
