HeatherRenee, one thing I would suggest is that if you haven't already, it might be helpful to probe a little deeper instead of just accepting a stand-alone ODD diagnosis. ODD is really more of a symptom of other underlying issues. I heard one clinician compare a diagnosis of ODD to a diagnosis of "fever of unknown origin." A fever of unknown origin is still just a symptom, and without knowing what's causing the fever any treatments for the fever are likely to have limited effectiveness. Same with ODD: the diagnosis of oppositional defiant disorder describes a cluster of symptoms, and there can be many causes for that cluster of symptoms. The more you know about what else is going on within your child, what factors lead to those symptoms, the more effectively you can help him. Many people recommend a thorough neuropsychological evaluation to help pinpoint areas of difficulty for your child.
My dd received a diagnosis of ODD. She also has Tourette Syndrome, generalized anxiety disorder, and a general difficulty learning social/emotional skills needed for tolerating frustration and being flexible/problem solving (something for which there is no diagnosis)--all of which are what lead to the ODD behavior. The ODD is a symptom of her difficulties. It's the red flag letting us now something is up. When we addressed the other, underlying, things, we saw a huge decrease in the ODD behavior.The Explosive Child
by Ross Greene and Treating the Explosive Child
by Ross Greene and Stuart Ablon are great books. There's some great info at www.thinkkids.org
. The Foundation for Children with Behavioral Challenges has a nice, but slow, message area and some good information-all related to the approach from The Explosive Child (for now it's at http://www.fcbcsupport.org/
They have merged with ThinkKids, so there will be changes coming up for this site). You may also find some helpful information, and more on the whole issue of ODD as a symptom rather than a disorder in and of itself, at conductdisorders.com.
Above all, take care of yourself so that you can take care of your child. If you ever need it, there's a book called Raising Troubled Kids
that talks about how to care for yourself and the rest of your family while caring for your challenging child.