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post #21 of 85
Oh, and to answer the OP, I don't think anyone is jealous that I have twins. Most people kind of have the attitude of "thank goodness it's not me." Maybe I make having twins look really hard?
post #22 of 85
I think some people are jealous but I think most people are just glad it is not them!
post #23 of 85
I mostly get the typical, 'better you than me" kind of remarks, but I do think there is a certain amount of jealousy. Perhaps the competitiveness mentioned earlier is a part of it too. Everyone wants to have the best kid ever that also gives you the worst time ever when it suits you. How can they compete with my 2 angelic boys, (that are so much easier than their sister so far) who on the rare day the planets are aligned right, manage to pull of such feats of twin terrorism, that store managers page extra staff to help me to my car at Target? It just isn't possible.
post #24 of 85
People are jealous when they are all happy and wearing cute clothes and playing nicely, or when they spontaneously hug each other on the playground, or kiss each other's booboos. When I'm maneuvering the giant car cart with screaming children through the checkout lane at Stop'n'Shop, jealousy doesn't seem to be the top emotion.

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But, it drives me nuts when I see those occasional threads about "How do I get twins?" "I'm measuring 45w at only 6w pregnant, am I having twins?" "My hcg level is 15253623235462342523624 x n^5324645654 power at 11dpo. Do you think it's twins?" The only way to confirm twins is by an u/s. (I'm sure some mama will come in here and disagree with me. "But a twin can be missed on an u/s!" Then tell the tech that you think you're having twins and to please confirm that there's only one/three/eighteen babies in there.) If you think you're having twins, go get an u/s. My magic 8ball is still in a box in the garage.
Have I told you lately that I love you?

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It also makes a difference whether or not she is AP. I know a mother of 8 children and her twins were her 6th and 7th. She said it was very easy but I know she sleep trains and is not AP. I think having twins wouldn't be so bad if you didn't care if they cried, sleep trained them, passed them off to others to feed, etc.
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post #25 of 85
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It also makes a difference whether or not she is AP. I know a mother of 8 children and her twins were her 6th and 7th. She said it was very easy but I know she sleep trains and is not AP. I think having twins wouldn't be so bad if you didn't care if they cried, sleep trained them, passed them off to others to feed, etc.

MMMHMMMM, exactly, totally, WERD!
post #26 of 85
I'm one of those who wishes she had twins, but I actually have multiple reasons.
First off, my first miscarriage was twins.
Secondly, I have twin brothers, twin aunts and my great-great grandma was a twin.
Third... Well, I've always just wanted multiples! When I was a little girl, I used to walk around with 2 "babies" in my stroller and one in a sling (which I fashioned myself- my mom was not an AP). I'd even pretend they were all crying at once because they were hungry/tired/dirty and ask my mom to feed one (with a bottle, I'd never seen a baby be bf) while I "changed" another one and rocked one in the stroller with my foot. I know it's a far cry from the real deal, but yeah.
Of course, I am also naturally odd, so it could just be that.
post #27 of 85
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I'm one of those who wishes she had twins, but I actually have multiple reasons.
First off, my first miscarriage was twins.
Secondly, I have twin brothers, twin aunts and my great-great grandma was a twin.
Third... Well, I've always just wanted multiples! When I was a little girl, I used to walk around with 2 "babies" in my stroller and one in a sling (which I fashioned myself- my mom was not an AP). I'd even pretend they were all crying at once because they were hungry/tired/dirty and ask my mom to feed one (with a bottle, I'd never seen a baby be bf) while I "changed" another one and rocked one in the stroller with my foot. I know it's a far cry from the real deal, but yeah.
Of course, I am also naturally odd, so it could just be that.
That's really cute!
post #28 of 85
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I can't imagine she means their infancy was easier! Maybe she had a lot of help? I don't know but this past year has been MUCH more difficult than the first year of either of my singletons. I could do pretty much anything wearing one baby and almost nothing trying to wear or hold both.
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It also makes a difference whether or not she is AP. I know a mother of 8 children and her twins were her 6th and 7th. She said it was very easy but I know she sleep trains and is not AP. I think having twins wouldn't be so bad if you didn't care if they cried, sleep trained them, passed them off to others to feed, etc.
Yeah, I did wonder both those points. I *can't function* with crying baby, so I know I'm totally in for it. LOL. Although this time round if the older siblings are somewhat obliging and upset by the crying as much as I am, then I might be in with some willing arms and extra slingers to rock a babe!?! I can see having older children will be a help to some extent, depending on how they take to their siblings. The eldest is adamant he's not impressed about the whole shebang, the next is also 'boy' and kind of indifferent, but also into cuddles, so may be persuaded!!! Just about to turn 6 year old declares she's going to be half the mummy and dd age 4 ( edit: poor child, I'm already making her older than she is. weep. and blush. she' still my baby 3 year old but I keep thinking how old they'll be by the time babies arrive. bad, bad mummy), is pretty tearful at the already disappearing lap - she has been queen of babyhood and had twice as much time being the youngest compared to the others, so that's going to be interesting too...

I might add the 6 year old is mega annoying as a half mother, lol, but I'm hoping she'll start to listen to the babies a bit better than she did when she was in her 2's and her sister arrived!!! I love the fact that she perceives motherhood to be the world's best and most fulfilling career when I have struggled so much to surrender to be being at home with children.
post #29 of 85
Heyyyyy....I was one of those 46w at 6w ladies...lol jk.
post #30 of 85
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I still think having twins is easier (ON ME personally) than having them 17 months apart. But perhaps my perspective is a bit screwed up since my twins ARE 17 months younger than their older sister!? There is something to be said for the "not having to chase another one" part of having two non-mobile people. Nursing two babies and having my daughter run, arms open, into trouble is a huge PITA.
You just wait till your twins are mobile! LOL I am one of the ones who thinks my closely spaced singletons are much easier than twins.
post #31 of 85
The only jealousy I have ever seen is from a friend who has always wanted twins and has had all singletons. She was convinced that she was having them several times. Then she watched my twins for 2 hours one day and changed her mind.
post #32 of 85
I always wanted twins and was alittle sad when I had a sono with my 1st and there was only 1 baby. I don't think I told anyone that. When we found out there were 2 babies with my 3rd pregnancy, DH and I were super excited but the rest of the world thought we were nuts since we had a 1 yr old and 2 yr old at home already. I do get alot of jealousy comments but get my share of 'better you than me' comments too. It all balances out-lol.

I am jealous of Heather......
post #33 of 85
I was one of those moms who had never thought I might have twins and when I found out at my 20 week ultrasound I freaked out and all I could say was 'oh no!'.

When I was pregnant and people said to me 'I always wanted to have twins--2 for the price of one (pregnancy)' I sometimes felt really annoyed because it was a lot of stress to be working full time and have doctors tell me I should quit my job early in order to not go into pre-term labor when I knew I couldn't for financial reasons. However, I could tell that the people that said that meant well and just really didn't know that twin pregnancies could be very high risk.

My pregnancy went full term to 38 weeks and I worked until 36 weeks and really had no major complaints other than being very tired. Now that my girls are 15 months old I can understand why people want to have twins. I feel really lucky to have been blessed with twins. They have brought my family (and even total strangers who only see them for a moment) a lot of joy. It still isn't easy, but it definitely isn't as hard as I thought it would be. I do remember wishing that I had a twin when I was a little girl and I think that my daughters are very lucky to have each other.

Kristi
post #34 of 85
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I am jealous of Heather......
Me, too!
post #35 of 85
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Me, too!
Me three! :

Shhh, don't tell my dh!!!!! :
post #36 of 85
I'm not jealous of Heather! I'm still too close to the newborn/pregnant stages.
post #37 of 85
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Jennifer Lopez and Angelina Jolie can both kiss my tushie.: I had my twin girls before they had theirs, JLo had a boy/girl, Angie's having twins and there ain't no darn way that their twins are any cuter than mine. 2 little ringlet covered girls??.........come on!! We get stares a plenty in our local grocery store, some of the cashiers know them by how many times they've seen them. When they were under a year old we never got thru a mall without being stopped for the ogling session.
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My identical twins are the most beautiful thing ever But I don't think people are jealous of me for having twins, they practically say that we have a zoo in our house, they just think that they're to beautiful for words.
One of DD's friends couldn't stop saying once "Oh my god i wish i could have a twin sister becuase that will be the coolest thing ever you know, and oh my god look at that!. One of them is right handed and the other one is left handed seriously that has to be the cutest thing i've ever seen, it's like the cutest thing!":
post #38 of 85
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Me three! :
Me (sort of) four! I know now isn't a good time for us, but I do miss being pregnant with twins, giving birth to them, and all those special moments we've had so far...

Heather, we love you!! Even if you think we're insane!
post #39 of 85
My mom would be jealous. She always wanted twins. She had six singletons. I've always kind of wanted to have twins, because it would be so amazing to phone my mom and say "Finally! The twins you wanted!" I know it's a terrible reason and I don't doubt for a second that I'd lose my mind for at least the first 5-10 years But yes, some people are jealous!
post #40 of 85
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Me (sort of) four!
You're all completely nuts! My twins are great, I always wanted them, but one set is PLENTY!
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