wow so many things!!!!!!!!!! i don´t know where to begin, 11pm and i´m falling asleep but i loved your responses.
i agree with never going back to a person who hurt you in those ways (name calling, never meeting his child, etc.).
i also agree completely on not staying for the kids. never. i have cousins whos parents stayed together for them, and most of their marriges are the same way, not a good example at all.
my parents got divorced when i was 4, it has always always been hard for me not having my father in my life. until he died, only then did i feel i got the oportunity to "talk" to him, but his absence has always been very dificult for me.
but never stay together for the kids, no way.
BUT...what if...
what if you got separated for other reasons? never treated you badly, no name calling, always took care of his son, took on 2 jobs cuz we needed the money, loving, caring, etc. but just got off the trak. it´s his personal story so i don´t like to share it but i´ll just say, so you can understand: depressed, bored, got into drugs and didn´t stop until he lost his job, home, wife, son, etc.
we´re divorced and am going back home cuz there is no money now, he has too many debts but we love eachother inmensly. just that i can´t help him now, i´ve tried absolutely everything, and saw that it´s up to him now to pay everything off, leave this life, get help and put ting in a "priority list".
so if this is the case, and lets say he gets help, a job, his life backl on track...it is viable to get back together, right? maybe i´m thinking ahead of time...time to time, right?