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post #121 of 468
7/21/08 at 2:59pm
AAM update: I think my m/s is actually a little better these days. My midwife started me on B6 last Thursday, and I don't feel *good* by any stretch, but I don't feel as pukey, either. I've put back on the weight I lost, and I actually enjoyed myself during whole stretches of yesterday. I have a two-day business trip to Boston this Thu/Friday, and I've been really worried about being able to keep my self together for the duration (fancy dinner, presentations, the works), but maybe there's hope.... In any case, I might tell folks at work that I'm pg before the end of this trimester after all, if our ultrasound next week goes okay. It's just so much energy to hide feeling this lousy, you know? Those of you later in pregnancies, how did you handle telling at work?

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post #122 of 468
7/21/08 at 5:05pm
Hi Pi!

I'm still only 10 weeks and a bit, but I thought I'd chime in about telling at work. At my paramedic job, I told my Unit Chief right away, just in case I had to book off on short notice, or if I was suddenly unable to work. I've told my various work partners on a need-to-know basis, like one time when we had to do a three hour lights and sirens drive up and then down a winding mountain pass ... i was in the back for about five minutes before I was going to throw up (it was about 7am, when my m/s was the worst). I made my partner pull over and I told her that I had to drive. I later told her why. I also told a couple partners early on when I wasn't sure if I'd have to pull over the ambulance and puke at the side of the road. All told, I've maybe blabbed to about five of my paramedic colleagues. My DP on the other hand, has told her entire restaurant staff AND anyone else who will listen.

I've also been avoiding very heavy lifts and making patients walk whenever possible, just to be on the safe side. And I told the nurse at the local clinic who was a certified MW in Australia ... our midwife is three hours away, so the one here (she can't practice as a mw, too far from resources) is going to be our unofficial backup.

As for my other job ... I'm a professional writer, and I haven't told a soul. Not a soul. I'm a little worried that it will affect a contract that I'm working on with my publisher. I haven't even told my agent. I was at a writer's festival this weekend, and while I was on stage, I kept thinking that the audience must be sitting there thinking how chunky I've gotten as of late. Ah well.

Trust your instincts, mama pi.
post #123 of 468
7/21/08 at 6:06pm
Hi S&D! Good to hear from you. I'm glad you're doing well. . . Well, except for the morning sickness that is
post #124 of 468
7/21/08 at 6:28pm
Hi Pran! So good to see the mass exodus from the TTC board to here! :

You've chucked your thermometer out, right, hon?

The m/s has pretty much stopped ... which, of course, makes me nervous. But I've still got tonnes of food aversions (I have to flee the house when DP is cooking, and she's a professional chef!) and my pasty chalk-white self is covered in bright blue veins, like I'm being colonized from the inside out, and I pee every two hours at night and my boobs are not my own ... they are some other, more shapely woman's. So I guess I'm still pregnant! No bleeding, no cramping, no pain (other than ligament pain ... ouch) so I suppose all is well.

We traded DP's super butch off-road truck (can't put a car seat in it) for a rather sedate Escape yesterday, so we're thinking positive. Although we're not buying anything major (other than dealing with the vehicle!). Each time we visit the midwife we buy something from the consignment store next door to the midwife clinic. DP is so cute about it, it makes me cry. She bought tiny little socks with grinning whales on them, and showed them to everyone! Awwww ... bestill my hormone-addled heart. I love her. She's so cool.
post #125 of 468
7/21/08 at 7:29pm
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Each time we visit the midwife we buy something from the consignment store next door to the midwife clinic. DP is so cute about it, it makes me cry. She bought tiny little socks with grinning whales on them, and showed them to everyone! Awwww ... bestill my hormone-addled heart. I love her. She's so cool.
I hear you on the little socks thing. My DP bought little socks that say "I Love Daddy," and has been carrying them with him to work, sleeping with them under the pillow, etc. He even danced them on my stomach during the 10-minute post-IUI wait, the IUI that got us pregnant. It makes me tear up, even thinking about it. Ain't love grand?
post #126 of 468
7/23/08 at 3:21pm

Awesome website!!!!

Hey all! I just had to share this incredible web site http://www.ehd.org/index.php

There are lots of ultrasound movies of babies at all differnt stages of develpoment. Really cool!
post #127 of 468
7/24/08 at 2:25am
Pranava -
That site rocks!!
post #128 of 468
7/24/08 at 6:24pm
umm...

has anyone been having highly sexual dreams since they have gotten pregnant???

i heard that it was common...
post #129 of 468
7/24/08 at 10:51pm
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umm...

has anyone been having highly sexual dreams since they have gotten pregnant???

i heard that it was common...
Yes. In one funny early one, I dreamt that I got it on with my sperm donor. Never mind that I used a bank, and have never actually met or seen the guy.

And, once my morning sickness passed (~11 or 12 weeks), I was, um, friskier than at any previous point in my life.
post #130 of 468
7/25/08 at 12:10pm
Sign me up

Angela and Sammie Due around April 1 (havent gotten an exact due date yet!!)
post #131 of 468
7/25/08 at 8:48pm
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umm...

has anyone been having highly sexual dreams since they have gotten pregnant???

i heard that it was common...
Yes, at least once a week or so, and some VERY WEIRD ones. Like having sex with an older male coworker (who I'm now throughly embarrassed to see again). Then again, I'm having very weird dreams of all sorts. The other night, I dreamt I made Karl Rove cry by telling him the story of our marriage, and how we would be treated like legal strangers if we left Massachusetts, and all the bad things that could result from that, and that I was 7 weeks pregnant and his anti-gay attitudes were going to HURT OUR BABY. Bizarre.
post #132 of 468
7/25/08 at 9:49pm
OMG I would LOVE to have a dream about making Karl Rove cry!

I am just a bad wife tonight. No, I'm not. I am tired of my DW always being right. About everything, she has to know best. I shouldn't be hanging the laundry indoors, I should either be doing it in the dryer, or hanging it outside, nevermind that the dewpoint all day has been in the upper 60s and nothing would dry outside, because the humidity in the house is making her uncomfortable. Even grocery shopping at the co-op was a fight, she and DS fought the whole time, they are constantly butting heads every waking moment. I couldn't even walk with them. And then on the way home SHE CHANGED THE RADIO STATION WHEN JOHNNY CASH WAS ON. We always have to listen to what she wants. So I am rather short of temper and really wishing I could have a nice Surly Bender (local very dark beer) but I don't have any in my fridge and don't feel like making a beer run for a beer I won't be able to finish (16 oz can) anyway.

But she's making a fire so I am going out with newspaper to try to mellow out. Sigh.
post #133 of 468
7/25/08 at 11:20pm
Sorry for your bad day Jen. I hope a good night's sleep for all will help tomorrow be a better day.
post #134 of 468
7/26/08 at 9:21am
Does it count as a good night's sleep when you wake up around, oh, 4, to find your kid in your bed (when did that happen?) and your partner snoring (i.e. refusing to take the sleeping child back to his own bed), and then getting up at 7 with the kid?

Normally he sleeps until at least 7:45, and last night he even got to stay up late because we had a nice little fire in our fire bowl.

yawn.

Oh, and of course Mr. In Utero was hiccuping at about 6.

Gosh, I'm going to be a party with sleep deprivation... DW gives people the reason "because we miss getting up 3x a night SO MUCH" as one of our reasons for having another one hopefully at least #2 will sleep through the night before he's two. :
post #135 of 468
7/26/08 at 10:12am
Aw, Jen ... how about a nap? Send DP and DS out on a field trip so you can hunker down and recuperate.

As for me: 11w1d today! Not really showing, but having a hard time doing up my pants.

We have this ridiculous festival in our town this weekend ... with Coldplay and JayZ and Tom Petty, etc, etc ... so for three days our little hamlet of 2,500 has swollen with obnoxious outsiders amounting to about 50,000. I'm working as a paramedic all weekend, and my fuse is just so short. I'm hoping that's a pregnancy thing? I don't want to this negative or narrow-minded! But I am! I am SO ANNOYED by all these people who've descended on our beautiful town and are chucking their garbage around and getting hammered and doing stupid things like rioting because the festival ran out of beer, while all the while making a knot of our one tired road that goes in and out. End of that rant.

Oh! And then DP did the WORST THING SHE'S EVER DONE TO ME (according to my pregnant brain). She took my library books back before I'd finished them! I have nothing to read! I cried. I honestly cried. She laughed. Which made me cry some more.

End of rants in general. Hope everyone is doing great. Have that nap, Jen! I'm going to try to do the same, although the paramedic station is full of extra paramedics all weekend, and I seem to hate all of them. Will someone bring back the sweet, kind, totally non-judgemental me? I miss her!
post #136 of 468
7/26/08 at 11:03am
S+D, that sounds really annoying. Ever see the South Park episode where they were having a film festival? The sewer system was being overwhelmed with all the pretentious poo from the Hollywood types and it was killing Mr. Hanky. OK, I'm 12, I know... but that is all I could think of while you were telling that story. :

And I think you have every right to be crabby... that sound awful. You take good care of yourself and your little one and stay away from rioting tourists.
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post #137 of 468
7/26/08 at 5:19pm
S&D, she'll come back, just give it, oh, either another half a year, or another 18 years...

And I want to make you a little promise only you have to SWEAR you aren't going to hate me for saying it: when you are no longer pregnant and have fallen into the swing of being a mom and can laugh about your pregnancy, you and DP are going to have the biggest chuckle about 'remember that time when you cried because I took your library books back?'.

A woman whose blog I used to read lives in Crested Butte, CO and feels the same way every year when there is a college spring break festival in CB, except that it's inundated with obnoxious college students who get violent when they can't get their starbucks. Oh, heck, here's the link.

I'm off to get that nap... we have a bday party for one of T's friends this afternoon (just down the street, thankfully), but it's in an hour, of course... kid is sleeping and wife is out of house investigating why the board is off of the front door of the abandoned, condemned house behind us - yeah we don't really live in the ghetto, I swear - so

ps: pigirl: when I was pregnant the first time and still working I told all of my colleagues right away because I had such horrific morning sickness and couldn't hide it. Still, it was a Waldorf school faculty, we were awfully tight. I told the children after I had gotten through my 1st tri by writing a riddle for the 4th and 5th graders, letting them guess, and then letting them tell the rest of the school, the same day I wrote a letter to all of the families and included it in the school newspaper...

probably not the route you're going to take, but that's what I did!
post #138 of 468
7/28/08 at 2:27pm
Had some slight bleeding/spotting the other day and the doctor did an ultrasound and said everthing looked great (saw heartbeat). Couple spots since then. It just makes me nervous.

Can anyone relate? I need to calm myself. Thanks!
post #139 of 468
7/28/08 at 3:40pm
um... rolled in the hay recently?

DW got a little too carried away once and I spotted for a few days after that. Cervixes are very, very sensitive right now.
post #140 of 468
7/28/08 at 6:10pm
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um... rolled in the hay recently?

DW got a little too carried away once and I spotted for a few days after that. Cervixes are very, very sensitive right now.

Nope, no rolls in the hay recently. Thanks, though!
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