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post #21 of 468
7/6/08 at 10:34pm
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I'm glad to have made it here! Due March 8th...please add me! :
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post #22 of 468
7/7/08 at 12:08am
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Originally Posted by MujerMamaMismo View Post
Have you had a poke around MDC? There's lots of mums with GBS success stories - women who have gone hard on a diet/vitamin/probiotics and something else (???) regime and retested negative prior to labour. It's worth a try methinks.
Can't believe you are so close!!!
Yes, I've done some research. Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of time left for massive dietary changes, but did try doing several hibiclens douches (which is what homebirth midwives use to treat GBS) and then retesting. I'll find out tomorrow if anything changed. Fingers crossed...

Yeah, I can't believe it's so soon. Crazy! Utterly crazy!

Welcome to all the new members. This can be a bit of a quiet thread sometimes, but I'm really grateful to have this little queer pregnancy support group.
post #23 of 468
7/7/08 at 10:14am
Hi there I want to play too!!! I'm 4 weeks 2 days and thinking sticky thoughts.

I just realized how much knowledge I've gained about TTC in the last 12 months. I was beginning to feel like an expert with that. So, now that I'm in completely uncharted territory for me, it feels daunting to have so much to learn about pregnancy and birth!
post #24 of 468
7/7/08 at 12:18pm
Angela, I can still remember your post: OMG. OMG. Two lines! TWO LINES!!! And now you're a month away from holding a baby! To that I say: OMG, OMG!! If I had been faster on the draw I could have given you my beat-the-GBS-test regimen which I took with #1 to beat the test. It came back negative, so either it worked or I was GBSneg to begin with?!

I am just sick of the heat, and tired and cranky. The whole weekend was, unfortunately, little fun. OK, the fireworks were nice, and I really enjoyed walking back from them, pushing our big little guy asleep in the stroller and actually talking to my wife. I feel like we don't have any quality couple time together anymore. She also spent much of the weekend painting half of the trim around the porch windows. I don't envy her the job, I'm glad that she did it and not I. There was just a lot of yelling at our son which always makes me sad. they have such a combative relationship somehow.

Yesterday was 90 (32C) and very humid, and everyone around here is raving about it finally being summer, but yeah, thanks, you can keep your summer heat like this. If I wanted hot like this, I'd live in Texas.

grouse, grouse, grouse. :
post #25 of 468
7/7/08 at 8:24pm
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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
pigirl - I've got a good tipster... a friend of ours is a 36J and can only wear custom, cantilevered bras. No kidding - cantilevered.
J?! Cantilevered!? Holy smokes. Nothing like a little perspective to help a girl feel better. (Now I'm imagining, like, the suspension bridge bra, and the flying buttress bra, ...)

Welcome, pranava and Erica!
post #26 of 468
7/7/08 at 9:28pm
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Originally Posted by pranava View Post
Hi there I want to play too!!! I'm 4 weeks 2 days and thinking sticky thoughts.

I just realized how much knowledge I've gained about TTC in the last 12 months. I was beginning to feel like an expert with that. So, now that I'm in completely uncharted territory for me, it feels daunting to have so much to learn about pregnancy and birth!
I am so glad that you are here! We have been waiting for you!!!

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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
Angela, I can still remember your post: OMG. OMG. Two lines! TWO LINES!!! And now you're a month away from holding a baby! To that I say: OMG, OMG!!
I know, it's crazy, right? I'm so excited. And, just trying to get my head around what it all means, becoming a parent. Whoa...

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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
If I had been faster on the draw I could have given you my beat-the-GBS-test regimen which I took with #1 to beat the test. It came back negative, so either it worked or I was GBSneg to begin with?!
Heh heh, douched with hibiclens and retested, and CAME BACK NEGATIVE! My MW wants me to retest in two weeks just to make sure, but I'm assuming that if I repeat my protocol, hopefully I'll retest negative as well.

And yes, it's hot here too. Been spending more time in the pool than cleaning my house. Not ready for baby. Oh well...
post #27 of 468
7/8/08 at 11:36am
can you please add me to the list? i'm due on march 14, 2009.

thank you...
post #28 of 468
7/8/08 at 12:00pm
ok, Angela, I'm trying to remember my regimen for you.. I know it involved garlic and vitamin C and echinacea. Like 200% of the RDA of garlic, 500% of Vitamin C (might not be hard considering the doses that are in vitamins nowadays) and a normal dose of echinacea, for 7-10 days prior to your test. If you do it, remember to stop the echinacea after a week because your body needs a break from it to normalize.

No guarantees, of course, but it sure can't hurt, if you are up to it. *shrug*

giggleblue!! Woohoo! You are so mellow about this whole being pregnant thing. And I'm loving seeing all of the future pisces babies! :

ETA: yes, cantilevered... actually they are a lot like a nursing bra in that they have an extra support that is sewn up at the shoulders to support the cup, it's just not detachable to let the cup down. They're pretty serious. And, like major construction, they also have metal trusses. Her bra sets off the metal detector when she goes through airport security and she usually just flashes the person with the wand to speed up the process. "See? Look! It's just my bra. Really." Although she uses her bra for carrying things all the time... cell phone, cigarettes, money... she once got an entire place setting out of the college cafeteria, I've heard. (My wife went to college with her.)
post #29 of 468
7/8/08 at 12:54pm
i am really mellow about it. i feel kinda bad for the other woman who have been trying for years that aren't pregnant yet, and so i don't want to be "screaming from the roof tops", because i'm really concious of how they may be feelilng. i tried for two months only doing home iuis.

a lot of people told us we were stupid for doing them at home, that we didn't know what we were doing, that it wasn't going to work because no one they knew got pregnant at home. that we needed a doctor. how we were going to puncture our uterus. all that stuff. i deleted a lot of comments from the blog that were left like that. i don't know. so i'm still kinda in a bit of a shell about it.

sometimes i want to cut off the blog, cause i feel like that could be preceived as "rubbing it in". i don't know. i just have mixed emotions. in addition to that, i really want dp to be pregnant too. she should have an insemination sometime this week, and i hope that we have fixed our timing issues.

so that's that. me being mellow-yellow...
post #30 of 468
7/8/08 at 12:58pm
oh, and much like pranava, i realize that it didn't read anything past pregnancy, so now i feel like i really don't know what the hell i'm doing. i need to find a good pregnancy diet book. any suggestions. my mom had pre-eclamsia with both me and my brother, which caused us to both be delivered by c-section.

i'm scared of developing it. we are walking at least a mile everynight, and i've started cooking at home and watching what i eat. no more junk food.

but i heard there was a way to at least prevent or reduce the risk of pre-eclamsia with food choices, but i haven't been able to find anything online about it quite yet.

i tried calling the birthing center, but i didn't get a call back - i'm guessing because i'm not 12 weeks yet. i think that's when they have you come in.
post #31 of 468
7/8/08 at 1:19pm
protein, protein, protein. Milk and eggs will become your new best friends once you feel healthy enough to eat them. (I'm still working on getting there.)

More than one midwife has told me now that you will carry, labor and deliver more like your sisters than like your mother...

And I don't know... to me, it seems logical that you should be thrilled about being pregnant and that it took so little time for you. What great luck/fate (however you look at it). Is there any awkwardness at home that you got pregnant first instead of your partner? I think people realize that each person's path to parenthood is different. Some get pregnant quickly, some work at it for years, decades... and some don't ever get pregnant at all and find different ways to become moms. At the risk of violating the UA and talking about a different thread, I think that the Queer TTC thread would have planted a boot squarely in our virtual butts and told us "get out!" if they felt like our presence or our joy about finally getting that BFP was rubbing it in. Instead, the 'graduates' have been encouraged to stay. If anyone feels bitter about you writing about your experiences on your (emphasis: YOUR) blog, they can just stop reading it. I find my own blog fairly cathartic... but I have found the blogs of some other people - primarily moms I refer to as über-moms - so personally frustrating that I just stopped visiting them in order to preserve my sanity. If others need to do that, they can do that for themselves, you don't have to do that for them if you enjoy blogging. It's your space.

Just my two cents.

I'd call the midwife back, usually they make your intake appointment between 6 and 8 weeks... at least that's been my experience. And if your first appt isn't until 12 weeks, they should call you back and tell you that!!
post #32 of 468
7/8/08 at 2:12pm
awww, jen! thank you for your words, and you are 1000% right.

there is no tension in the home about me being preggers first. we honestly think we got the timing wrong for dp. both of her tries were two inseminations: one right at the positive opk and one 12 hours after. i think we were missing the egg by inseminating too early.

what worked for me was 18 hours past positive opk, and then 12 hours after that. so we are going to try that this month for her.

she has become quite the mother hen, and cooking me eggs every morning for breakfast! she's a wonderful partner and she's super stoked about becoming a mommy and really doesn't care much about who's uterus it's coming through.

i honestly expected her to be first, because i'm a chicken, but it's going to be okay. when i took the test, i had a bit of a panic attack, because i had never seen a positive pregnancy test before! it was a shocker, and i was super excited! and i shouldn't be running around her like debbie downer for the sake of other people.

i am excited! really really excited! and i hope that our little bean has settled down for a long ride!! : and i'm happy for each of you that have made it over here! for me, when i saw the positives i didn't have a sense of envy so much as a sense of hope that this will happen for me too, one day really soon!

again, thank you jen. you are wonderful and you are right.
post #33 of 468
7/8/08 at 2:34pm
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Originally Posted by giggleblue View Post
i am really mellow about it. i feel kinda bad for the other woman who have been trying for years that aren't pregnant yet, and so i don't want to be "screaming from the roof tops", because i'm really concious of how they may be feelilng. i tried for two months only doing home iuis.

a lot of people told us we were stupid for doing them at home, that we didn't know what we were doing, that it wasn't going to work because no one they knew got pregnant at home. that we needed a doctor. how we were going to puncture our uterus. all that stuff. i deleted a lot of comments from the blog that were left like that. i don't know. so i'm still kinda in a bit of a shell about it.

sometimes i want to cut off the blog, cause i feel like that could be preceived as "rubbing it in". i don't know. i just have mixed emotions. in addition to that, i really want dp to be pregnant too. she should have an insemination sometime this week, and i hope that we have fixed our timing issues.

so that's that. me being mellow-yellow...
Hey girl,

Dont worry about that, we are just happy for you

Coco
xxx
post #34 of 468
7/8/08 at 2:44pm
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Originally Posted by giggleblue View Post
again, thank you jen. you are wonderful and you are right.
shucks you're welcome, any time - just me and my big mouth running over
post #35 of 468
7/8/08 at 10:34pm

pain?

Anybody get occasional sharp pains around your uterus in early pregnancy? These aren't like my normal af cramps. If I move the wrong way, or sneeze, it feels like I've pulled something in my lower abdomen. It's a sharp stabbing type of pain and lasts about 20 seconds. Now I'm paranoid it's ectopic. Somebody tell me this happened to you.

Angela - How did you get the timeline thing in your signature? I want one too!
post #36 of 468
7/8/08 at 11:41pm
pranava, those are most likely round ligament pains. It happened to me a lot around 5 weeks and again ... um ... *thinking* around 12? And with me it's a sign that the baby is growing and my uterus expanding and my body adjusting. With the 5-week ones I would move too quickly in bed and lie there saying "ow, ow, ow" and holding my lower belly for about 15-20 seconds. The 12-week ones were just nearly constant for a few days. Sometimes I would walk around holding my belly "up" and jokes about the do-it-yourself jogbra were made (don't know if you've ever seen that cartoon of a woman in office attire running and holding her breasts with her hands, with the caption "do-it-yourself jogbra"). Right after them, my chiropractor commented that my uterus had "popped out". I still get the ligament pains now and then. Just make sure the cramps aren't accompanied by any kind of spotting and I think you are squarely in the realm of normal pregnancy aches and pains.
post #37 of 468
7/9/08 at 12:36am
hey pran ...
So wonderful that you're here! :
I've been having the same pains on and off for several weeks. Yep, sounds like round ligament pain.
post #38 of 468
7/9/08 at 3:37am
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Originally Posted by pranava View Post
Anybody get occasional sharp pains around your uterus in early pregnancy? These aren't like my normal af cramps. If I move the wrong way, or sneeze, it feels like I've pulled something in my lower abdomen. It's a sharp stabbing type of pain and lasts about 20 seconds. Now I'm paranoid it's ectopic. Somebody tell me this happened to you.

Angela - How did you get the timeline thing in your signature? I want one too!
Yep - your pains are completely normal...so is your paranoia! We've all been there.

And I know I'm not Ange but I can answer your question - You have to make it yourself. Perhaps copy and paste one that you like or start from scratch. You then have to move the indicator each week. It's tickers, old skool.

BTW - have I said how thrilled I am for you? It's so exciting to finally see you in the ranks of the knocked up queers :
post #39 of 468
7/9/08 at 10:31am
I totally bet that Angela would give pranava her ticker code, though, if she manages to do it before having a baby, and between hibiclens douches.
post #40 of 468
7/9/08 at 11:50am
Thanks everybody for putting my mind at ease!! I'll stop being paranoid about ectopic - there's plenty of other things to worry about
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