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post #221 of 468
: tigermiep! And thinking up-moving thoughts for that placenta! We can write a new version of the theme song to "The Jeffersons"... movin' on up, a deluxe placenta sitting hiiiiiiiiiiigh...

quasar and smartycat, I was very taken aback when I met the OB who signed off on my paperwork for #1 and she just sort of blithely tossed off "oh, well, once you have a baby, you'll get rid of your cats...", like they were old shoes or something. Excuse me? When I said no, we wouldn't, she just looked at me with this patronizing smile and said "that's what you say now, but things will change. TRUST me." Some of my favorite pictures of T when he was tiny are him in my arms or on my breast and the cat sitting on my legs. We came to call it the Lap of Love. Lately we've been struggling with T's over-effusive behavior to the cat and the fact that he can't just pet her, he has to lay on her and rub her too vigorously and frankly, we don't know how to change - we must say "gentle, gentle, gentle, gentle" at least 20 times a day... one day it will sink in right? :

There *have* to be other people who agreed with you, but didn't speak up. And it will inevitably be so big that you won't necessarily have to even interact with those people who may think you're an animal rights activist, nor they with you...

There are nearly 200 women in my DDC some of them give me a pain but it's just like those people in life whom you have something in common with and see now and then...
post #222 of 468
My "morning" sickness is letting up some as well. I feel it wasn't terribly bad (sorry PiGirl I know you've suffered), but the quesiness I'd have on and off throughout the day is becoming less intense. I, too, am still tired! I hope my 2nd trimester brings lots of energy and "my old self again," as the doctor put it.

Found out today that I carry the CF (cystic fibrosis) gene. That's an interesting piece of information, I have to say. Thankfully, that will not in any way affect my baby for the donor is not a carrier (checked that out pre-insem). Both parents have to be carriers.

Wow, being pregnant is just full of surprises. Really.
post #223 of 468
Hey y'all!

We are doing okay over here - I found out my M/S was the vitamins, if I don't take them, I am Excellent the next day, although the hunger doesn't stop for anything - jeez! So, no vitamins for me for now.

Pigirl, thank goodness you're getting a break!

Pranava - it's interesting that you say your donor isn't cute. Neither is our KD. He is an awesome guy though, and almost a twin to my DP personality wise. And I have a theory: One fairly UNattractive parent (let's say a 3 on a 1-10 scale) , one OKAY parent (lets say a 6) = a Gorgeous child (8-10)

I have seen this happen several times now, and with this super-scientific method, I am pretty sure it's true! My daughter is stunning, and we cannot go out in public without a ton of people fawning over her and waitstaff bringing her free things (even ice cream at Chick-fil-A). So don't you worry.

Oh, and I have seen plenty of super attractive couples produce barely so-so offspring.


Sending random thoughts of love and joy to you all ::
post #224 of 468
On the subject of pregnancy and cats and dogs and the stupid comments people say about it all ... MEH, to them all!

We just got a puppy! :

http://www.flickr.com/photos/22089658@N04/2741942336/

In the background is our old girl, Sailor. She's limpy and tired, but thrilled to have the new little guy around. We also have The World's Greatest Dog Also Known As A Cat (but don't tell him that most people read him as a cat ... he thinks he passes).

They're our family. It is unthinkable to try to rearrange it otherwise just because we're bringing in another member of the family. We're playing very toddler-like with Jasper, the pup, so that he's used to being handled like that and knows not to put teeth on anyone. We're also practicing taking his toys away and bugging him when he's eating, also in prep for a kidlet who might do just that. That's the only difference this time. Otherwise it's the more the merrier!

As for folks on the DDC boards ... I think that they're way less crunchy than the rest of MDC. And they're vastly overpopulated.
post #225 of 468
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Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post
On the subject of pregnancy and cats and dogs and the stupid comments people say about it all ... MEH, to them all!

We just got a puppy! :

http://www.flickr.com/photos/22089658@N04/2741942336/

In the background is our old girl, Sailor. She's limpy and tired, but thrilled to have the new little guy around. We also have The World's Greatest Dog Also Known As A Cat (but don't tell him that most people read him as a cat ... he thinks he passes).

They're our family. It is unthinkable to try to rearrange it otherwise just because we're bringing in another member of the family. We're playing very toddler-like with Jasper, the pup, so that he's used to being handled like that and knows not to put teeth on anyone. We're also practicing taking his toys away and bugging him when he's eating, also in prep for a kidlet who might do just that. That's the only difference this time. Otherwise it's the more the merrier!

As for folks on the DDC boards ... I think that they're way less crunchy than the rest of MDC. And they're vastly overpopulated.

congrats on your puppy...he's cute..

what's the DDC board?
post #226 of 468
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what's the DDC board?
The Due Date Clubs ... they're under the "I'm Pregnant" section off the main part of this site. Full of women due the same month. A lot of women. Who don't have much in common except for going into the labour around the same time.
post #227 of 468
Jasper is sooooo Cute!!! Congrats on the new little puppy! :
As for our pets, I know I am going to have a jealous dog. He's already kind of high strung and gets upset when we show affection to each other (sits and looks at us and whines for attention). So I am getting him back into classes during this 'waiting' period. I doubt he'd turn aggressive, but I know he needs an outlet for his nervous energy and constant interest in things that are going on around him.

I'm driving smartycat nuts. I went in Tuesday for my beta and I didn't end up calling the doctor to check on the results. I went in again today for the second draw, and smartycat asked, "So what were the numbers from last time?". I said, "I didn't ask...", which completely made her crazy. But , I should find out tonight what both levels are.
post #228 of 468
Thanks for all your comments. I feel sane again.

We are off to go run some errands and might stop by the very uncrunchy Babies R Us to just soak in all the baby-ness
post #229 of 468
Hey everyone,

Still no baby here, though I have continued my regime of air hockey, ocean frolicking, and paddle ball on the beach in hopes of bringing it on. My best friend left this morning, without getting to see the kid (obviously). On the bright side, we had a really great visit, and I was able to spend more quality time with her than I would have otherwise.

On the exercise note, I have done a lot during pregnancy, and I think it's helped me stay relatively comfortable and sane. I swim a mile or so 3 or 4 times a week (though, this past week that's shortened to about 1/2 a mile). Until week 24 or so I was using the elliptical machine at my gym for 30 minutes or so at a brisk clip a few times a week. Once that got uncomfortable, I switched to walking, and would do a three mile loop several times a week. Once the weather got really hot, walking just seemed impossible, so it's been pretty much all swimming all the time for the past couple months, which I highly recommend. Once I started getting bigger, the water was the only place I felt normal. Even if you're not a big lap swimmer, just bobbing around and treading water, or walking laps back and forth, might feel really good.

Hmm, I was going to go to the pool, but it looks like rain, so I'm going to take a nap instead. Hope all is well out there. More later...
post #230 of 468
Hmmm. . . No Angela for 3 days now. Busy? or Maybe Baby? :

ETA: There you are, we must have been posting at the same time!
post #231 of 468
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Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post
The Due Date Clubs ... they're under the "I'm Pregnant" section off the main part of this site. Full of women due the same month. A lot of women. Who don't have much in common except for going into the labour around the same time.

Oh, ok! Duh! It seems so clear now...lol

I just don't explore much on mdc...I pretty much lurk around here.

Thanks!
post #232 of 468
Not pregnant, but just popping in to say - 2 dogs, 4 cats, 2 rabbits, and 2 fish + one young boy (now 3) and 4ish daycare toddlers on weekdays = a little crazy, but absolutely doable. (but you guys all know that.. ) Although, somedays I do feel like a crazy person keeping the cats off the sleeping child and then later the child off the sleeping dogs... but life with out them? sad. boring. lonely.
Congrats on the new canine baby!
post #233 of 468
I've started lifting weights again at he fitness studio I used to go to. I love it. I feel all big and strong. I hope to continue at home once school starts up again, as I won't have time to go in and lift for an hour 2x a week like I am now.

JeninMpls has tried to get me to go to yoga with her, and I might do that this fall...

what kind of birth prep classes did you take/ are you taking? I am a bit flumoxed, though I'm pretty sure DW would not be into the birthing from within, and I think we might skip Bradley as well.
post #234 of 468
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ack! the cuteness! it burrrrnnnnssss!
post #235 of 468
Very cut pup, S&D!

I've been reading "Mother's Intention: How Belief Shapes Birth" I really like it. It's a little preachy at times, but highly motivating. I'm thinking of looking into the hypnobirthing method. I've been watching a lot of birth videos on You tube and the hypnobirthing women seem the calmest.

I saw a video yesterday of an episiotomy - horrifying!!!!!!!!!! I will avoid that at all costs.
post #236 of 468
Cute puppy, S&D!

I did Hypnobirthing, which was great. Though, I can't yet give you the report on how it worked in the end. Soon, hopefully. I really liked the in-class relaxation exercises we did- I felt like I got more out of it than just having information from a book repeated to me. I had already read so much about pregnancy and birth, I didn't want a class that felt repetitive, or like it was preaching to the choir. With Bradley, I was afraid I'd feel that way. I felt like Hypnobirthing gave me actual skills and tools to practice.

So, adding to my repertoire of things to try and induce labor: spending $40 at the farmers market on fresh produce. Nothing says "come on, Baby!" like the thought of that many vegetables rotting in the fridge during labor, birth, and the immediate craziness afterwards... Also, realized that I have ONE prenatal vitamin left. Come on, surely this is a sign...
post #237 of 468
Coming out of lurking to say I am in the middle of hypnobirthing classes and loving them! Diddo Angela's comment about wanting something different in class. Also, I was surprised by how much we see many many chances for using the skills throughout life. It has been very therapeutic for DP as well in both relaxation and realizing some of the possible reasons she and her mom have such a rough relationship. Anyways, just wanted to put in my 2 cents and can't wait to hear your report Angela.
post #238 of 468
Dang, Angela, you're still hanging around here?

I got my two betas back from this week:
18 days: 1156
20 days: 2213
: So it looks like it's doubling nicely. I don't go back in for another one, but I am pretty happy with the numbers!
post #239 of 468
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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
There *have* to be other people who agreed with you...
There are. You can find us in the Pets forum, mostly.

<ducking back out, having sufficiently checked on all of you>
post #240 of 468
Hi frog!

Now that we have some numbers to obsess about, it has renewed smartycat's belief that it's twins... Actually I think my doctor thinks it might be twins. When I was at the appointment the other day, she made no mention of an early ultrasound, other than one maybe at 10 weeks, but now she wants me to schedule one for next week.
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