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post #1 of 16
6/29/08 at 1:57pm
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Everything went so well the first 2 weeks. Billy nursed great, every 2 hrs....he slept 3-5 hrs at night. Byron was doing really good with him.

Well thats done!

He nurses all the time, just to spit it all up. I am thinking he is reacting to stuff in my diet. Elimination diet to come soon. He was up from 2am to 9am this morning. He just won't sleep....tried nursing to sleep, rocking, bouncing etc. DP took him from 3:30 until 7 so I could rest a little. DS1 was up at 5:45 of course.
I feel like all I do is nurse, burp and rock. I am totally neglecting my 3 yr old and it is showing in his behavior. He has taken to throwing tantrums and punching and scratching everyone. Dp is trying so hard with him and babe, but its wearing him out too. I don't know how I am going to manage this week when he goes back to work.
Right now dp is sleeping on the couch, ds1 is plugged into a movie in my room, ds2 is finally sleeping in his carseat (the only acceptable place apperently....my baby is going to have a flat head) and I just spent 45 mins dealing with all the freaking laundry.
I have no clothes that fit. I have to do laundry every day because I only have 2 nursing bras that get covered in leaking milk or puke everyday. I have one pair of maternity capris that fit....thats it!

Did I mention we have to go to freaking BBQ tonight and I have to bring something? I bought the stuff to make 7 layer dip (which should take me all of 15 mins to prepare) and I can't even get up to do it. I wish I could beg off from this stupid thing, but its a huge family event for MIL's family and I haven't even met any of them. We have to make an appearance. I am praying that the baby doesn't puke on these pants before 5 pm tonight.

*Sigh*
Can't I just put him back in for like 6 hrs to get some sleep? I could deal with today much better if I wasn't so freaking exhausted. :yawning:
post #2 of 16
6/29/08 at 2:50pm
mama, my DD1 was like that. Hang in there is the only advice I have, do whatever you need to do in the moment to rest and relax as much as you can. I hope the diet will help and/or that it passes soon for you!
post #3 of 16
6/29/08 at 3:19pm
Try dairy. It is really hard, but TOTALLY worth it. DS was like that until I cut out milk.
post #4 of 16
6/29/08 at 4:06pm
Right there with you... Ijust brushed my teeth for the first time in two days. My clothes situation is just about as dire. There is a mountain of clean unfolded laundry in the basement. It's all I can manage to just make sure there's SOMETHING clean. So I've just been getting dressed down there. Ack...
post #5 of 16
6/29/08 at 7:04pm
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Is it just my toddler who is being a monster? How are your other kids handling a new one around?
post #6 of 16
6/29/08 at 7:38pm
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Is it just my toddler who is being a monster? How are your other kids handling a new one around?
nope, not just yours...my DS1 was like that when his brother got here, and surprisingly, it's him again having difficulty w/ DD's arrival at age 7! He's just really sensitive to change, and he's resenting the little time I'm able to give him. It doesn't help when you're so tired.

as for the elimination diet, I totally second the dairy elimination thing! DS1 was the same until I cut dairy (he turned out to be anaphylactic...not that that is what you're in for)...it really isn't that hard to live w/o. there's lots of good substitutes these days.

GL!
post #7 of 16
6/29/08 at 8:08pm
My DD is already being a monster and the baby isn't even born yet
I'm seriously in tears over it today, she is totally acting like she hates me, screaming for daddy when I try to lay down with her for a nap, hitting and kicking me, etc, its like she can sense the impending change or something.
I'm scared to see how she'll act once I have Libby to take care of too.........
post #8 of 16
6/29/08 at 8:24pm
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Originally Posted by JustVanessa View Post
Is it just my toddler who is being a monster? How are your other kids handling a new one around?
mine's not a monster .... but if I have to hear "Daddy, hold me" one more time, I may puke. It's her mantra.

That, and she wants to .....
drink from a bottle
swing in the baby swing
sit in the bouncy seat
climb in the bassinet
bathe in the baby tub


So ..... we've been letting her .....
post #9 of 16
6/29/08 at 9:13pm
crashing here, but when my dd was little she spit up a lot and the doctor said as long as she's gaining, it's probably just comfort nursing and to just deal with the constant spit-up- don't know if this is helpful to your situation, but I thought I'd chime in. Another mom said she told her doctor the same thing and they said it was because her milk wasn't "heavy" enough, so he said to give formula mixed with rice cereal to her weeks old baby. Crazy!
post #10 of 16
6/29/08 at 9:48pm
NO, it's not just your toddler. I woked up at 4 in the morning a few days ago cause the baby was screaming because dd1 was sitting above her smack her face and body. She wedges herself in between me and the baby and is running around screaming and crying saying she has oowies which she doesn't. She's just being horrible. But with everything else to take care of, I just can't give her the attention she needs. And the older kids could care less to play with her. they just push her away and slam doors in her face.

and of course theres the endless laundry and dishes and crap all ove rthe carpet. I have to vacuum twice a day just to make it not disgusting, so of course it's REALLY disgusting right now. And I have to the pile of clean laundry next to my bed. There is some sort of smell coming from the front bathroom, so i'm completely avoiuding going in there. And milk EVERYWHERE! Breast pads are useless. I started stuffing wash clothes in my bra!

Your not alone!!!
post #11 of 16
6/29/08 at 10:59pm
Vanessa, I'm so sorry you are going through this difficulty right now. I loved your comment about putting him back in for about 6 hours to get some sleep. I'm anxious for my LO to be born, and this reminds me to be patient. Hang in there!
post #12 of 16
6/30/08 at 1:18am
Amen to solid sleep sister!
That's sooooooo a thing of the past. Gone gone gone is that idea.

I'm sorry it was going so well and then crashed... makes me nervous for us to go through the same thing. This is the first one to be... kinda ok... and not screaming their little heads off and hearts out - it's absolutely heart breaking when they do that and SO impossible to figure things out when there is so little you know about them/the relationship, let alone what that cry/scream/impatience means.

:HUGS:
I'll send a prayer of patience and hope you get some sleep... but if nothing else, I'm there/here with you in heart.
post #13 of 16
6/30/08 at 3:14pm
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Is it just my toddler who is being a monster? How are your other kids handling a new one around?
Yup mine is a lunatic half the time though is doing amazingly well today - ffirst day im alone with both kiddos.
post #14 of 16
6/30/08 at 5:33pm
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Originally Posted by JustVanessa View Post
Is it just my toddler who is being a monster? How are your other kids handling a new one around?
My toddler is Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde He is so sweet on minute- kissing the baby, saying he loves her, asking how we are doing. The next minute he is trying to slay me with his sword (he often pretends he is a knight or the handsome prince charming), kicking the dog and throwing a tantrum. I know part of it is because he is two and part of it is the new baby. It could be worse.
post #15 of 16
6/30/08 at 5:51pm
I think spending time outside is helpful.

The baby seems to fuss less, and even if the toddler makes messes you don't have to clean them up right now.

Some quick ideas that you can do while sitting in the shade.

If you don't have much of a yard, a bag of aquarium gravel seems to keep the interest for a long time and is easier to clean up then sand. Even if all you have is a porch this can work. Throw some cars or animals in there.

A baby pool is well worth the money, too. And it is nice to put your feet in there. Again those little ones will fit in most any space.

Preschoolers seem to be fascinated by stopwatches (and most cell phones have them). Time how long he can stand on one leg, be quiet, run back and forth across the yard, hold up that rock, ect.

When my first two were little I made it a point to spend at least 3 hours outside everyday. It meant going out as soon as they were both awake, before it got too hot. Then going for a good walk in the evening when dh could help.
post #16 of 16
7/1/08 at 3:37pm
Mine has just started throwing what we are calling "level ten" temper tantrums for the first time. Wild stuff!

Good luck with the elim diet!!!
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