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post #21 of 61
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Originally Posted by perspective View Post
Or I had a photography assignment for my class and I asked my female friend to take a few shots for me in the park because I was worried someone would think I was a creep because I was a guy in a park taking pictures of children.
Uh. If there was a guy taking pics of my kids in the park I would think he was creepy and act accordingly.

That's good that your dh is onboard with your decsision now OP! Although I do think it's a little funny to use the word 'beautiful' to decribe a little baby's penis. Not the word that jumps to mind for me
post #22 of 61
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Originally Posted by mamajama View Post
Uh. If there was a guy taking pics of my kids in the park I would think he was creepy and act accordingly.
Would you have the same reaction if it was a teen-girl, or a woman, then if it were a teen-boy or a man?
post #23 of 61
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Would you have the same reaction if it was a teen-girl, or a woman, then if it were a teen-boy or a man?
no not really although I would walk up to her and talk to her about it.
post #24 of 61
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Would you have the same reaction if it was a teen-girl, or a woman, then if it were a teen-boy or a man?
It really annoys me when people like to pretend statistics don't count. Like the fact that the majority of sexual predators in this country are male.
post #25 of 61
Great title....totally agree. Leaving DS alone was one of the best parenting decisions we have ever made. He is beautiful, whole and pure. And I clicked on this thread because I *knew* what the OP meant. It never occured to me to think anything else

You know, I am as concerned about pedophiles as any other parent but OMG, a parent should be able to gush about how beautiful, natural and perfect their child is without it raising an eyebrow.

Congrats on the beautiful baby and for being such an advocate. Thanks for sharing.
post #26 of 61
That is wonderful!! I have already told my DH that if we have a boy thta there is no way he'd be circ'd. I think he secretly thought he could change my mind until we talked more about it one night & I used the fingernail comparison & he kinda sat up straighter & said "hmmmm' Like it turned something on in his head.. maybe I won't have to fight hard.
post #27 of 61
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I admit the title was a shocking for me (as I already said) but now thinking about it, I know what he means. Like sometimes I think of a intact penis (not in a sexual way at all) and imagine what it would be like if my penis was like that, and this comforting/calming feeling sets over me.

I grew up always wondering why I had a scar, and what was changed. The calming feeling can best be described in words as "thats how its suppose to be"

Sadly I dont think most people who are intact, never fully understand the gift they were given.

I think this was a click moment where you husband finally understands what "intact" really means. Not the idea of having a foreskin, but what it really means to be "whole".
That was such a beautiful way of looking at it.
post #28 of 61
Sadly my own dh was called out for taking pics-and I was with him, as were his 3 kids! Ridiculous, I'm sorry, but it is. We just encourage pedophiles by being so puritan, ugh.
post #29 of 61
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I'm not sure how I feel about the thread title at all :\
I was a little put off...but I think all my children, and all their perfect parts are beautiful. So yes, I suppose I think my sons' whole penises (penii?) are beautiful too. Though I don't generally mention it to my friends!!
post #30 of 61
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Would you have the same reaction if it was a teen-girl, or a woman, then if it were a teen-boy or a man?
Personally, I totally would.
If anyone I didn't know was taking pictures of my son I would be automatically be very angry and assume the worst.
I can't think of a single good reason anyone would have for taking pictures of kids they don't know without permission.
Case in point, M, J and I were at the fish store and J made friends with the cutest little girl. They really hit it off, J followed her everywhere and they ended up sitting next to eachother on a display. I made sure to get her mother's permission before taking a pic of them together. I didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable, but it was too cute to not catch on film.
It's sad but that is the reality of the world we live in today.

I think it is a strange title to a post and a strange thought to have but I have thought the same thing about my son many, many times.

After being exposed to circumcised penises, especially newly circumcised penises - an intact penis is a beautiful, perfect thing.
post #31 of 61
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Would you have the same reaction if it was a teen-girl, or a woman, then if it were a teen-boy or a man?
I don't think it's okay to photograph other people, especially minors, without permission first...regardless of who is behind the camera.
post #32 of 61
I'm by no means puritanical, but honestly my son is more than his foreskin. I can't imagine telling my DH that I wanted another boy to have another foreskin in the house. I guess I just don't get the foreskin-worship aspect of not circumcising.
post #33 of 61
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Originally Posted by Yulia_R View Post
what an awesome mama you are to protect your baby like that!!!!
This looks like, "The hands of God are clapping for you."
post #34 of 61
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Originally Posted by heatherfeather View Post
I'm by no means puritanical, but honestly my son is more than his foreskin. I can't imagine telling my DH that I wanted another boy to have another foreskin in the house. I guess I just don't get the foreskin-worship aspect of not circumcising.
Maybe it has something to do w/ living in a rare circumcising Western countries (U.S./Canada). We praise its value because it's so disrespected (ripped off, discarded). But in a non-circumcising country like Sweden, it's just accepted as natural part of the male genitals, no more treasured - no more disrespected.
post #35 of 61
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It really annoys me when people like to pretend statistics don't count. Like the fact that the majority of sexual predators in this country are male.
Well its also annoying when people dont look at statistics correctly. Most pedophiles generally happen to be men, but most men are not pedophiles. Thats like saying you always keep a close on black people because more crimes happen to committed by people in their racial group, while most black people are certainly NOT criminals.

If you are more worried about men then women, then your not being very logical. Everyone has the same chance of being just as good, or just as bad.

Also my example was not going up to kids and taking pictures of them, but taking pictures in a park for a photography class, and children would most likely be in some pictures.
post #36 of 61
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Originally Posted by veganf View Post
I don't think it's okay to photograph other people, especially minors, without permission first...regardless of who is behind the camera.

I agree.
post #37 of 61
Circ info is why I came to this board a few years ago. My DH had the same views. He often says how glad he is that we decided to not circ :
post #38 of 61
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Well its also annoying when people dont look at statistics correctly. Most pedophiles generally happen to be men, but most men are not pedophiles. Thats like saying you always keep a close on black people because more crimes happen to committed by people in their racial group, while most black people are certainly NOT criminals.

If you are more worried about men then women, then your not being very logical. Everyone has the same chance of being just as good, or just as bad.

Also my example was not going up to kids and taking pictures of them, but taking pictures in a park for a photography class, and children would most likely be in some pictures.
Give me a break. How am I not looking at statistics correctly??? Most pedophiles ARE men. I didn't say most men are pedophiles. Two separate things here. I just asked my husband what he would think if a strange man was taking photos of our children in a park and he said he would think he was "probably a pervert and demand that they stop." My husband is a man and yet he didn't have a chip on his shoulder and wasn't offended by the question. He knows most pedophiles are men. It is what it is.

If I see a man alone in a park staring at kids or taking pictures I am suspicious. I once confronted a man sitting alone in a play area at Burger King because he was just staring at the kids. He wasn't even eating. I asked him why he was in there and he got up and left. I don't choose to live in fantasy land. Perverts are everywhere. (Have you ever looked up registered sex offenders in your neighborhood using Megan's law website? It's frightening.) If I end up insulting someone by acting suspicious I don't really care. My kids come first. That's how I roll.

And as a woman I have no problem admitting I automatically have more fear of men then women. That is logical. The chances of me getting raped by a woman as opposed to a man are pretty slim. You are just being silly. Everyone may have the "same chance of being just as good, or just as bad" but that doesn't mean everyone makes the same choice.
post #39 of 61
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Originally Posted by knucklehead View Post
Give me a break. How am I not looking at statistics correctly??? Most pedophiles ARE men. I didn't say most men are pedophiles. Two separate things here. I just asked my husband what he would think if a strange man was taking photos of our children in a park and he said he would think he was "probably a pervert and demand that they stop." My husband is a man and yet he didn't have a chip on his shoulder and wasn't offended by the question. He knows most pedophiles are men. It is what it is.

If I see a man alone in a park staring at kids or taking pictures I am suspicious. I once confronted a man sitting alone in a play area at Burger King because he was just staring at the kids. He wasn't even eating. I asked him why he was in there and he got up and left. I don't choose to live in fantasy land. Perverts are everywhere. (Have you ever looked up registered sex offenders in your neighborhood using Megan's law website? It's frightening.) If I end up insulting someone by acting suspicious I don't really care. My kids come first. That's how I roll.

And as a woman I have no problem admitting I automatically have more fear of men then women. That is logical. The chances of me getting raped by a woman as opposed to a man are pretty slim. You are just being silly. Everyone may have the "same chance of being just as good, or just as bad" but that doesn't mean everyone makes the same choice.
All I was saying is there is a difference between the general gender of a pedophile and trying to determine the chances a person standing on the street is a pedophile because he is male.

My question was if you would have a different reaction to a adult in a park taking pictures depending on their gender. Of course if there was a man or woman sitting in a park looking at little kids alone and taking pictures, almost ANYONE would find something weird about that.

But if there was adult just in the park with a camera, (as photographers are randomly everywhere taking pictures) would you feel more concerned if the photographers gender was male?

That was the question I was asking.

Men rape women, but women also rape men. (1 in 3 woman have been raped or sexually assulted, while the rate for men is 1 in 22) Both genders cause crime, and death. Granted usually in different ways. (For example most male pedophiles are the creepy guy on the street corner, most female pedophiles are their homeroom teacher.) But to judge people simply by gender is naive.

It also limits people in society to more sterotypical roles. A man in a park must be a pedophile, and a woman in a boardroom must be some power hungry witch.

Its important to protect kids from stuff in the outside world but because of things we see as odd, not because of assumptions based on gender, race, or whatever. We need to be cautious to protect children, but at the same time not limiting the world we pass on to them.
post #40 of 61
I am really sorry for the OP's sake that this thread turned into a discussion about pedophilia. I for one never thought of pedophilia, I immediately knew what this thread was about just by looking at the title. People need to pay attention to context (which should be obvious considering the purpose of this forum) and lighten up.
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