Originally Posted by knucklehead
Give me a break. How am I not looking at statistics correctly??? Most pedophiles ARE men. I didn't say most men are pedophiles. Two separate things here. I just asked my husband what he would think if a strange man was taking photos of our children in a park and he said he would think he was "probably a pervert and demand that they stop." My husband is a man and yet he didn't have a chip on his shoulder and wasn't offended by the question. He knows most pedophiles are men. It is what it is.
If I see a man alone in a park staring at kids or taking pictures I am suspicious. I once confronted a man sitting alone in a play area at Burger King because he was just staring at the kids. He wasn't even eating. I asked him why he was in there and he got up and left. I don't choose to live in fantasy land. Perverts are everywhere. (Have you ever looked up registered sex offenders in your neighborhood using Megan's law website? It's frightening.) If I end up insulting someone by acting suspicious I don't really care. My kids come first. That's how I roll.
And as a woman I have no problem admitting I automatically have more fear of men then women. That is logical. The chances of me getting raped by a woman as opposed to a man are pretty slim. You are just being silly. Everyone may have the "same chance of being just as good, or just as bad" but that doesn't mean everyone makes the same choice.
All I was saying is there is a difference between the general gender of a pedophile and trying to determine the chances a person standing on the street is a pedophile because he is male.
My question was if you would have a different reaction to a adult in a park taking pictures depending on their gender. Of course if there was a man or woman sitting in a park looking at little kids alone and taking pictures, almost ANYONE would find something weird about that.
But if there was adult just in the park with a camera, (as photographers are randomly everywhere taking pictures) would you feel more concerned if the photographers gender was male?
That was the question I was asking.
Men rape women, but women also rape men. (1 in 3 woman have been raped or sexually assulted, while the rate for men is 1 in 22) Both genders cause crime, and death. Granted usually in different ways. (For example most male pedophiles are the creepy guy on the street corner, most female pedophiles are their homeroom teacher.) But to judge people simply by gender is naive.
It also limits people in society to more sterotypical roles. A man in a park must be a pedophile, and a woman in a boardroom must be some power hungry witch.
Its important to protect kids from stuff in the outside world but because of things we see as odd, not because of assumptions based on gender, race, or whatever. We need to be cautious to protect children, but at the same time not limiting the world we pass on to them.