telling others...

[baileyandmikey]

Who have you told and if not, when do you plan on telling others??? I am dying to talk... dh wants me to wait until 12 weeks due to prev. mc.

[AKmoose]

I've told everybody online, and only two friends irl...I've always told right away, but just feel like keeping this one secret (family-wise, anyway) for a little while. I know my mom will not be very happy, and I have to spend the next month with her at her house...so I'm just going to enjoy my last early pregnancy in psuedo secrecy


eta: of course dh knows too!

[javilu]

I've told my mom and a few close friends who knew I'd been having trouble conceiving (I live quite a ways away from my family and friends, so this has all been phone/online discussions/announcements). I probably won't tell many other people (in-laws, my father, etc.) until somewhere closer to 10-12 weeks. I'll probably tell my stepmom and my sisters before then, though. I wish I could tell people in person, but it's just not an option.

[laralee16]

Told my husband, and our son (hes two, he could care less, lol) and the people on this board.

Hubby wants to wait another week, just to make SURE what this was not a fluke or anything.

[cyrusmama]

I have told my mama friends here locally, and dh knows, and the people here but that is it. I imagine that we will wait probably til I am at 20+ weeks to tell our family, and maybe as long as Christmas before we tell Cy.

[Devaskyla]

I told dh (obviously ), my sons after my oldest overheard us & asked me. One rl friend. A very close group of on-line friends who know about my previous m/c's, you guys & the pregnancy after loss ladies. & 2 on-line guy friends. I'm having a really hard time not saying anything for some reason. I won't tell my family until at least 12 weeks. The less time I have to put up with rude comments and questions about my birth plans the better.

[dachshund mom]

I found out today (, so only DH and you guys so far. I'll call my mom today when the sun comes up. I'll wait until I'm out of the RE's care at 10 wks to tell anyone else.

Well, I have to get a radioactivity monitor badge at work so the health and safety people, my boss and our secretary will know too. My boss knows I'm ttc due to all the RE appts lately, so no big deal.

[ilovebabies]

My dh, my children and a very good friend. We're going to wait this timeto share the news simply because this is #5 and we know we're going to hear the negative replies from many people. And you know how it is, if you tell one person, everyone will find out.

Children are such a blessing and we are so excited. We are not in the mood to hear any negative comments right now. Yes, we know what causes this, thank you!

[She2dancer]

DH and DS know (though I don't think DS is comprehending what I am talking about ) MDC is the only other place I have told....because my sister and SIL hang out at DS and TBW....

We are waiting to get in a "I'm gonna be a big brother" t-shirt to tell our families (hopefully this week!). I will wait until at least 12 weeks to tell any of my jobs (though it might be hard because when teaching Pilates everyone is constantly looking at my abdomen ..I guess it depends on how soon I start to pop...)

[liberal_chick]

We've told my sister and MIL. We weren't going to tell until next month, but dh went to him mom's house for the weekend and I don't think he could wait. I'm going to tell my family this week. I don't know how yet. Just coming out and saying it makes me feel awkward, so I'll have to think of some cutesy way to do it.

[Hollin]

I've told my mom, husband, and son (though he doesn't really understand it so it hardly counts). My husband also told one of his friends I'm going to visit my family in August so I'll probably make the big announcement then assuming everything is going well.

[lila2801]

DH, a really good friend and that's it. We're going to start telling family at 7 weeks since his sister will be in town then.

[hedgewitch]

Originally Posted by ilovebabies

Children are such a blessing and we are so excited. We are not in the mood to hear any negative comments right now. Yes, we know what causes this, thank you!

Sorry to be thick but what causes negative comments? I'm really not able to see.... sorry if I'm being particularly brainless!

[tabrizia]

I've told DH and a bunch of online people so far, oh and DS, but he's 15 months old so he doesn't really know what it means. I figure I may be able to wait till tomorrow to tell my Mom, at which point everyone will know.

[ilovebabies]

Originally Posted by hedgewitch

Sorry to be thick but what causes negative comments? I'm really not able to see.... sorry if I'm being particularly brainless!

Because this is #5 for us. We aren't the traditional "2 child" family. Even having up to 3 children is acceptable in our culture, but anything above that and the negative comments start flowing (not from everyone, of course).

When I was pg with #4 I actually had someone say to me, "You sure are a glutten for punishment!" (A punishment???) I also had someone say, "After this one you need so 'snip, snip'!" WHA??? I never heard any of these comments until I got pg with #4 and then couldn't believe the nerve of some people!!

[hedgewitch]

Originally Posted by ilovebabies

Because this is #5 for us. We aren't the traditional "2 child" family. Even having up to 3 children is acceptable in our culture, but anything above that and the negative comments start flowing (not from everyone, of course).

When I was pg with #4 I actually had someone say to me, "You sure are a glutten for punishment!" (A punishment???) I also had someone say, "After this one you need so 'snip, snip'!" WHA??? I never heard any of these comments until I got pg with #4 and then couldn't believe the nerve of some people!!

I'm really shocked. I know that 2 is the 'norm' but if you choose to have more I don't see how that is anyone else's business. I admire people who can have large families and adore having kids, 2 will be my limit! I'm secretly jealous of women who have 4 + kids, they always seem really serene and together and not stressed out in the way I am with my 1 ds!

I think people need to learn to shut up and keep their stoopid comments to themselves.

Congrats on your family :

[ilovebabies]

Originally Posted by hedgewitch

I'm really shocked. I know that 2 is the 'norm' but if you choose to have more I don't see how that is anyone else's business. I admire people who can have large families and adore having kids, 2 will be my limit! I'm secretly jealous of women who have 4 + kids, they always seem really serene and together and not stressed out in the way I am with my 1 ds!

I think people need to learn to shut up and keep their stoopid comments to themselves.

Congrats on your family :

Thank you!
Yes, if you talk to anyone with more than two, especially more than three, they'll probably have the same kinds of stories. It's unfortunate.

[marikai]

Family

Hi Everyone,
We found out with a HPT at the end of last week and had it confirmed by the doctor (blood test) yesterday which was also our anniversary. We had planned on waiting to tell everyone, but my Dad is here visiting so we told him and it snow-balled from there...the whole family knows. I know people suggest waiting until you get through the first trimester, but it didn't work out that way for us...plus we've been married seven years and this is our first so the excitement took on a life of its own!

[galincognito]

i feel like i'm going to burst by not saying anything!! dh knows and two friends from work (both of whom are pg). i think i'll wait until i see the midwife on monday and then tell people. i was toying with the idea of inviting my family over for dinner (mom, dad, and sister) and putting my dd in a t-shirt that says she's going to be a big sister. wonder how long it would take my family to notice??

[filiadeluna]

We were going to wait a couple of weeks, but DH let the cat out of the bag early, so I followed suit. We've told pretty much everyone at this point. : Our moms are thrilled b/c it's the first grandbaby on both sides, and the first great-grandbaby on DH's mom's side. Apparently Great-Grandma-To-Be (his mom's mom) already wants to go shopping for baby!