I can accept the "some kids are vaccine injured which causes autism like symptoms" argument. But to say that vaccines CAUSE autism is to say that it's cut and dried and black and white. There have been studies done that show NO LINK at all, and those are the studies I've always quoted and had faith in.
And then my son turned up with Global Delays, and all of a sudden it was "could I have been wrong? Did I do something to hurt my baby?".
I still don't even know that it's autism - he could have celiac disease or any number of things. But IF it's autism, I think it's genetic. Brendon, at nearly 2, STILL has never waved. My daughter is 9 1/2 months old - she claps all the time, she demands to be held (no complaints here!
) she says mama and ba and a ton of other things, and she started waving spontaneously a few weeks ago! I'm not sure she has the concept of exactly what it means, but looking at both of them, I'm thinking "wow! I had NO idea!".
I guess my point is, if you (general) want to say that your kid was vaccine injured, I'm not going to argue. But if you say instead that vaccines cause autism, I'll argue day and night. My little social butterfly has had every vaccination her brother has except for the 1 year and 18 month shots (obviously). She's still a social butterfly, and he still never waved or babbled like she does.
And I think I'm somewhere on the spectrum, my dh is a bona fide geek (he even works in IT!) my mom has few social skills, her mom apparently pushed her away from hugs when she got past babyhood - too much interaction, perhaps? My Grandpa Joe had a brother who was "retarded". Now the guy died at 21 or so, it could easily have been something like Down's. But what if?
Oh, and Shaggy Daddy - you are my HERO!!!!!!!! I LOVE you, man - and you give me hope for my son and for all the other kids we (dh and I) want to have who might fall somewhere on the spectrum. And I am SO relieved, because I thought that seeking out a label meant I was trying to "fix" my boy. But I'm the type of person who NEEDS the label. I need to be able to say, "oh, Brendon has ____. Isn't that cool?" because otherwise, he could be hurting and I'm ignoring it. Or I might simply never know enough about who he is, because I'm constantly worrying over "but WHY does he x, y and z?" instead of just appreciating the beauty of it when he does.
Anyway, hope that made sense. I'm glad I found you guys, this journey is SCARY when you're just starting out.