Originally Posted by Jiffyjo
Hello all. First time poster... I am a bit stressed here in Virginia. My wife and I have been doing our best to get registered for at home insemination with the big giant sperm bank here in VA., but cant seem to find anyone to fill out our paperwork! We first went to our primary care physician who said that they couldn’t sign the papers, but referred us to a OB/GYN. The ob/gyn did some preliminary blood work, but said she couldn’t sign the papers because she was not a fertility specialist. I just contacted a local fertility specialist who said she could not help us with at home insemination, but could work with us in the office. Is at home insemination illegal in Virginia, or am I barking up the wrong tree here? The paperwork is supposed to be the easy part, right?
Hi Jiffyjo --
I'm a homebirth midwife who does a lot of fertility work in Michigan, with women who have fertile male partners and women who don't. I have helped a lot of women get set up with sperm banks and found that they do fall into a few distinct groups:
first of all, some allow home ship and some don't. If you can find a friendly midwife (CNM, or sometimes licensed CPM) or OB or other doctor who is willing to take shipment of the tank, then you can do home insem even if you can't get home ship. Two of my clients have had our local bank ship to offices and then picked up the tank for home insem. The local bank doesn't charge shipping, just a courier fee, so it is a lot cheaper for them to do it this way. The bank won't ship to their homes, though. Many of the banks that require a physician's signature don't do home ship, though some do.
Some banks (Pacific and Northwest come to mind) don't require a health care provider and do home ship. Others (xytex, fairfax, california cryo, sperm bank of california, midwest) will work with licensed midwives and do home ship. Xytex will work with an unlicensed midwife if they are convinced she does fertility work routinely. Many small local banks do not ship to the home.
Have you considered asking a homebirth midwife? They are licensed in VA now, which means that they can work with some of the banks listed above. Even if a homebirth midwife doesn't have experience inseminating, they can sometimes be helpful with some of these logistical hoops.