Jessica- I know how hard it is to figure out the difference sometimes, but it sounds like this guy is into you. It seems a little too friendly to just be, well, friendly.
good luck! let us know how it goes.
I"m still really nervous about this whole dating thing. I haven't dated in a loooooong time, and when I did I was a teenager dating teenagers. That's a totally different dynamic in which a completely different set of rules applies. In other words, my experience gives me little to go on in the world of dating grown-ups. I'm still so worried I'm going to come on either too strong or disinterested (I seem to have only "over-excited" or "painfully shy" settings when it comes to men).
Thanks for your post, jrayn. I didn't think about the fact that mr trouble will probably always be there. That's actually pretty comforting. See, it's been 4 months since I gave up on dating a guy who just wasn't that exciting after very few dates, and before that it'd been well over a year (When I left XH). Now all of the sudden there's loads of guys, but I just don't know how to handle it.
I purposefully ran into mr. relationships last week, and we talked for a long time, we have some thigns in common (like gardening, which surprised me, and he seems to have a goofy geekiness about him that's much like mine, which I really didn't expect) He told me his "whole life story" and brought up how he's so good with kids, and generally seemed like a great guy, and quite interested. But he also kept referring to himself as a hermit, and how busy he is all the time, and things like that which made me wonder if he was trying to say "I like you, but now's not a good time". god I hope not.
The other problem there is that I didn't feel any sparks. I know that's not the end all be all, and that they can come later (right?!?), but I kind of have to keep reminding myself that I do like him and that he's quite a catch. That feels so strange to me. I mean, don't get me wrong, I am into him, but it's not this butterflies, weak in the knees kind of thing. And he's not my usual type (which is big headed hipster jerks, apparently).
And then there's the problem of this other guy, umm, mr. mysterious. He's very good looking, too, but more my traditional look (read: not clean cut), really laid back and confidant, and if it weren't for mr. relationships I'd be all over him. He seems into me, too. I really like to be just friends with him, but I can't deny that he intrigues me, and I keep thinking about him. Last weekend we spent hours talking to each other on my friends' porch, late into the night. It was great. He was so easy to talk to him, and he seemed to interested in what I had to say, which was mostly boring imo. I really want to see him again.
I'm a mess, aren't I? It's so weird to admit all this. i hope I don't seem crazy or pathetic.
I kinda worried about that.