Last year, I was seeing (briefly) a man who I really liked and he was still entwined with his X gf (rendering him 'unavailable', but I was too stupid to see it) , it was really painful as the gf would not let go, and she really took it out on me. She even physically attacked me, she verbally attacked me on a regular basis, and I decided it was not worth it. They had been broken up for a while, but in a way they were still together. I do not like being in 'drama' situations, so we mutually let it fizzle out, though I was messed up for some time. Not only did I have to deal with the Xgf whenever i went out (she was a part of my social circle), I had to see him, and the whole situation was extremely painful.
Well, he is calling me again. He even wanted to hang out yesterday.
Since this past Feb, she has been (get this) in JAIL!! She got 2 DUIs in a short period of time, and around here that is enough to land you in jail for a year with no exceptions made. So, I know this is not him running back to me once the gf is out of the picture, she has been gone for a while now.
I have not been returning his texts, and last night he wanted to come over and watch fireworks with me, I never returned his call. I WAS tempted though, I was (and am) really attracted to this man
When we were together before, our time consisted of just hanging at each other's homes, not going 'out', we went to parties together, but never on formal 'dates'.
Where I stand now is that IF he pursues ME, and invites me out on actual DATES, I wold be willing to see him again. I woyld want a real relationship though. So, I won't return his calls, I will see if he is interested in pursuing me, and that he is interested in more that just one thing.
Oh, I have also considered how it will all play out when the gf gets out of jail
I feel like I am on a trashy talk show.
I feel pulled off balance.