Originally Posted by MsChatsAlot
It is nice to have male attention. I would be really upfront with him next time he flirts. I would say something like, "I really like being with you, but honestly, I wouldn't even entertain the thought while you are in another relationship. And if you aren't happy in that relationship, you need to clear it up before I would even consider getting into anything with you."
Yeah, MsChatsAlot, thanks for your reply. That's what I think too, but I needed validation because there are SOME confusing feelings like maybe I want him to break up with her, but I don't want to be the reason for it (per se, and she might be way better for him than me, so in that case, I don't really want him to break up with her for me. You know, he could be losing a sure thing for someone who is in all honesty not ready for anything too serious).
I want to just enjoy my friendship and working relationship with him, but the flirting just confuses the issue (and it's subtle flirting, so it's really hard to "call him on it)."
Though we did talk a few days ago, and he asked me about my 4th of July weekend. He's always interested in what I do on the weekends. I told him I took my kids hiking with some mutual friends of ours. I said I thought about inviting him because I know he loves to hike, but I didn't bc "I figured he'd be busy" (with girlfriend, who won't go hiking, and he loves hiking and never goes. We talked about this a few weeks ago, how he loves it and she won't go, and he doesn't really know other people that hike).
So after I told him about my hike, he said, "I'm going to have some time open in the next few weeks when my girlfriend is out of town for three weeks. We should go out to the mountains."
The whole "we should hang out when my gf is out of town" thing makes me nervous. I think I'll go though because our relationship is currently openly defined as FRIENDS. And maybe I'm totally reading too much into anything he says. The hike, if we even end up going, will be a good opportunity to gauge the situation more clearly.
See, I was enjoying an innocent infatuation that I never intended with my actions to have go anywhere. He was a "safe guy" for me to think about while I was getting through my separation and divorce and thinking about reentering the singles world. Now that he's turned some attention onto me, I feel myself wanting to reciprocate, but I WON'T while he's in a relationship.
Problem is, I still have to see this man often for work. And today, (can you believe this?), he actually postponed a meeting with ME, so he could be on a conference call with Barack Obama. (Ha Ha, I'm being sarcastic about the me part
). I swear this guy is brilliant. I definitely don't want to mess up our work relationship in any way because we are a great team together, and I sometimes think there's true magic working through our offices. Like, consciousness-changing magic. I mean, that magic is all over the universe, but it's portaling through our work, I really believe it is.
Hah, hah, hah! At first I thought the "good vibes" smiley was smoking! It's not, it's sending good vibes. I'm just getting used to these smileys and things.