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Selesai, if the crying was that bad, I would immediately return to the doctors surgery. I don't want to alarm you unnecessarily, but my ds2 had one of those freaky one-in-a-million reactions to vaccination where he was in hospital within 48 hours of the jab fighting for his life. They're rare, but they happen- and the first sign I got that something was up was the scream. Then he went quiet and sleepy as his temperature rose. There were other factors- allergies, mainly, and allergy exposure- which made a reaction more likely, but it happened. He's alive and kicking now, btw.
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Selesai, it could be a reaction to the vaccines. You know her best. Keep an extremely close eye on her, and if she seems to be in distress, go to the ER. Hope she feels better soon! :

ema-adama
, I'm sorry you're having trouble with your ILs. I'm starting to realize that everyone under the sun feels entitled to comment, criticize, and offer "advice" on your parenting style. I'm getting pretty good at smiling, nodding, and ignoring what they say and continuing to do what feels good and right to me. Every once in a while it still gets under my skin though. My MIL has always been good to me, but I still shudder to think what would happen if she didn't live 10 hours away now that her grandson is in the picture!
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Selesai: I agree that you should call the doctor, just to report what is going on and to make sure that you know what to look for in terms of further signs of concern. I hope that your LO is feeling better soon!

Hugs to all with IL's with such rough situations! Hope people can come to places of understanding for the sake of the love of the babies!!
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lovetobemama :& cwoodward : Thank you so much, recieved your postcards today. Thank you so much! They are both great!

Myself.... I've not even started, and now I'm feeling the push to get it done, but I leave on Thursday to my parents place..... I promise that I'll get it done, just not sure if it will take place before I return from my 2 week trip. Good thing there isn't a time limit on this.

Gotta get busy with dinner, so to everyone else!
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Seriously-I just typed a great post and MDC flaked out on me.

Thank you for the postcards jezzy, cwoodard, and lovetomama. Should have mine out in the mail this weekend.

Eli is working on more teeth. I wish they would come in. He sleeping longer-we're making it to 3:30 instead of 1:30 now. He's also sitting up on his own really well. Can't get there by himself yet but if you put him in that position he does well. It's fun because he can play more.

As far as solids, Eli started them close to a month ago. He loves winter squash. Tonight he tried a little bit of prunes. Seemed to like them too.

Big hugs to everyone going through stuff. Why does life have to be that way???

More later.
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Thanks everyone for the responses about G's crying. DH held her for a while, she slept a bit, woke up and was herself again. Maybe you're right Rynna, maybe it was something else. MDC has (maybe) made me a little paranoid.

Now, I will work on keeping up!
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everything seems to have gone well. thank you all for your thoughts today! they thing she should be able to go home tomorrow. she really needs to get home. the hospital is really getting to her.

jezzy, i'm so glad you've been able to talk with your dh. i hope this vacation helps and he can support you to your mil.

opera, i'm glad your visit went well and your kiddos will be home soon. oh and the giggles! isn't that the best sound in the world!?!

raina, i'm so sorry about all your family is going thru. i really hope this can bring everything into the open so everyone can support her as she fights this eating disorder. i'll be praying for healing for her and thank you for yours!! That is very interesting on the AIDS and breastmilk. I'd never heard that before. I totally agree about self feeding and feel very wierd about James eating at this point. I do feel that he's ready (but no pincher grasp so i guess not completely) but I really wish he wasn't! I've given him some of my sweet potato, so soft but not pureed at all. with grace i waited until about 7.5 months and was hoping to do the same with him!!

justmama, grace is adorable!! she's come so far!

emily, so cute on the watermelon. they are fast little things! i can't believe molly is so big!

linda, yuck!!

andrea, what beautiful kids you have!! i'm sorry about your necklace! i hope the job works out! :

cheryl, what do you make? i'm glad the show went well. good luck on the tooth!

helen, thanks so much for the remider of resue remedy!! geez, i forgot it's sitting in the cabinet!

Selesai, welcome! i have to say that that definately sounds like a vax reaction to me. unfortunately it is considered normal. my daughter ran a 103 fever while getting ibuprofen and tylenal alternated every 3 hours, then she had a little seizure. of course i called the doc franticly, oh, yeah, all those things are normal too. that's when i quit vaxing. i think i'll do some selective vaxs with james but not until he's older. it is a really confusing and complicated (not to mention intimidating) topic!!

ema-adama, big hugs for the inlaw issues!!

i still need to get my post cards out. i was going to make cards but with life the way it's been i'm going to get postcards....now just to get somewhere... i love all the cards! julie, gorgeous fish! sharun, i love the sweet feet!! emily, i love that you made yours and graace latched on and deemed it her own birthday card. cynthia, i love that you put alex's pic on yours! neat!!
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Yay, two more postcards! Thanks, Emily and Cynthia! I've been getting all these cool, sweet postcards, and the ones I'm making are so wacked out- you're all gonna think I'm a total freak. If you don't already, that is!
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Selesai is your lo feeling better?


sarahn4639 glad that your mom is comming home!!


ema-adama sorry that you are having ILS problems too . I know what you mean by wishing to move FAR away. I fantasize about moving back to the states every single day....


Ash will be turning 6 months on sunday. I am thinking about starting solids ( I know she is ready. on the other hand mourning the end of our ebf days

Ohhh She cant really sit by herself yet does that mean I should wait on the solids?
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Hi, I'm a lurker, though I missed out on the first nine pages of this month. Right now I just need some support. DH took DD to the ped (CNP) for her checkup. She had a respiratory illness a few weeks ago at her 4 mo checkup so this was a follow-up. Because she is now healthy (aside from some nasal congestion) they gave her her 4 mo shots. Apparently she took it like a champ. But now she is CRYING CRYING CRYING. DH gave her some Tylenol which will hopefully help. DD is very laid back, this type of crying is not normal for her. I am sure DH will have a tough afternoon considering he's trying to watch DS (busy busy toddler) too.
I'm obviously really upset that I'm here at work and cannot be there to comfort DD. But mostly I am reminded that I have never really made up my mind about vaccinations. I will admit that I am a bad parent. I am a bad parent because I am lazy. I do not /cannot take the time to exhaustibly research vaccines, even though my children's health is obviously at risk. (Like I said. Bad parent.)
I think out-of-the-ordinary crying is an unacceptable effect. But if DD DID get a vaccine-"preventable" disease, she would cry and be uncomfortable then, too. What am I saving her?

Obviously this is a very complicated topic. DS is not fully vaccinated only becasue I put off the MMR/Varicella so far.

I don't know what to do. Isn't there a magic answer?
Oh Selesai, I saw your follow up post and am glad she's doing better. I'm so sorry it was so rough. Ugh it makes me worried about starting vaccines, but I think we will do so here in the next few months. Oh and by the way, it's great to see you again!!


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Hi all,
So I know that there are others here with rather strained relationships with their IL's, and I have my woes to vent now!

I am getting to the point where I am fantasizing about just moving far away from them... one set are arrogant rather impersonal doctors who are not supporting any of my health decisions for myself or my LO as they are not in line with their beliefs. On the other hand I have a 2nd set of IL's who are just freaking me out with smoking around my LO, and fantasizing about watching TV with him, feeding him crap and just generally doing things that I find rather offensive... and here I was fantasizing about bringing my family up with grandparents close by and a sense of family.... my parents moved far away from all family as they were the odd ones out and I always wished that I had had family around - now I think they might have been onto something.

Basically tonight was just another night in the sense that I got an email with a link to a newspaper article from MIL extolling the virtues of vax, when I have yet to give a vax and am not at all sure DS will get any. I take issue with this as there has been a huge blow up with the other IL's on this issue (I was insulted by having my intelligence questioned and basically told that I do not have the tools to decide - by doctors that so not even know that MMR is not given before one year - but that is a whole other rant) Anyway, MIL was my main source of support as I went through quite a rough time trying to figure out how to deal with such obnoxious people (FIL and his wife)... and now she has started to contradict me on whatever I say and it has gotten to the point where I just don't want to be around her or her chimney smoking husband even though I have had a really good relationship with them up till the birth of DS... another thing that really gets to me is that when we do go around, she wants to be with DS and will take him and then plug him with a paci - something that I have only been wanting to use when he 'asks' for it. And then she wants to get a paci ribbon so that it can't fall and he will always have it clipped to him and I find the idea rather strange - and unappealing! If not plugging him with a paci, she is plying him with some toy... in my experience with him he is far more interested in people and watching their facial expressions and talking to them... but she just doesn't get it.

I know that it boils down to a difference in approach... she has 3 boys who all sit on the computer/ watch TV a minimum of 12 hours a day (work and play), and one who at 20 years old never leaves his room as he is or sleeping or on the computer playing (he stopped school when he switched day and night and couldn't wake up in the mornings)and this bugs me. It just does not feel right.

And she also is a career mum who had the kids on formula and in day care ASAP and bought them every gadget that has been invented and was proud to do so. So, she just does not get me when I choose not to have flashing lights and whizzing pinging toys around DS... even could go so far as to say she suspects that I am depriving him

ARGH!!! I know these are really small issues compared to what it could be, but I have had it with IL's (and my parents, but they are half the world away) criticizing my choices as a parent... and presuming they know better when the extol CIO and infant day care and formula and G*d knows what else that is not in line with my way of thinking.

So, poor DH feels like he is stuck in the middle and I really wish he didn't. He is a peace maker/keeper and really gets upset when people he loves fight. But I really do think that people (IL's) should be respectful of my choices and preferences - I just right now see a long road ahead of me having to repeat again and again my requests to please respect my choices and it's rather crappy!

So, sobbing over... gotta catch some sleep now while Hillel sleeps

Still writing my cards - but getting there slowly

Peace to all
Well small issues or no, eda-mama, they are still issues. We were away from family for a while and now we're close to (mine) again. It's got its ups and downs, but I prefer it to being away. But then again, my family isn't giving me grief about my parenting choices (except for some minor grief). I'm sure it's got to be so hard, it's very hard to be criticized by someone who's not exactly the epitome of what they're criticizing you about.

Linda, HOLY Freaking SMOKE! What a story!! I'm surprised you even talk to the IL's after all that nonsense. Wow, wow, wow.


Jezzy, I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time with DH. I've never personally lived with someone who's got an alcohol issue, so I have no advice to give. I'm thinking of you momma.

Sarah, I'm thinking of your family and your mom. I'm so sorry that you're going through these heart troubles. But it's good that she's going to be heading home soon. Sometimes that's just the help one needs. Hospitals are icky places.

I"m sure I'm missing someone... I'm sorry I don't keep up so well ladies. But I so you all.:

I've been loving the postcards.: I need to get mine (they will be bought, I think, I've no hand for creative pretty things). But I will try to make them pretty local pictures for you all. I'm trying to think of something special to do with them all, a posterboard (but that's not very keepable without getting banged up), maybe a little photoalbum... what are you doing with yours?

Ok, I've got a question, and I've found it hard getting it answered but maybe you all will know. It seems there's alot of info on feeding baby at newborn and food starting stages and not so much in between. I need some advice on when I'm away. Since I'm away a-working 11 hours a day for 5 days a week, I pump and she drinks the bottles while I'm gone. Well I had been making them into 2 oz bottles because that's what I figured I should do via research on Kellymom and here and whatnot. But I've been hearing lately from here or there something along the lines of: "2oz!!?!? How's that enough for her?" Well she still takes that 2 oz fairly frequently. For some reason, I never thought her stomach capacity would change all that much so, I never thought to up the bottle volume. (Stupidity? lack of research? most breastfeeding books assume the momma is with baby all day and will just naturally follow the changes?)

I have noticed in the past few weeks, that on weekends she's usually going for both breasts at a feeding, and seems to be going longer in between feedings. I usually feed her at night 1. right before/as she's going to sleep (Around 9 ish), 2.sometime in the middle of the night (around 12-1ish) and then 3 sometime around when I wake up (this one varies the most, sometimes I feed her at 3 am then about 5-5:30, other times I just have the 5-5:30 ish time when I wake up).

So perhaps I should make her bottles bigger. Fuller bottles and less of them? I"m now giving her 3 oz bottles, but considering making them 4 oz. I'm doing three because I figure it's summertime she will want to at least drink something more frequently. Or at least that's kind of how I'm looking at it. Should I go straight to four ounces? I assume she'd then take about 3 bottles in the time I'm gone. I don't know there aren't alot of resources out there on how to bottle feed EBM your 4-5 mo baby. I know alot of you are able to stay with baby most/all of the day and might not have the lived experience of knowing, but you lot seem to know things that astonish me, so I'm asking!


Other than that, I nolonger have a baby girl and instead have a baby monster. She growls and snarls alot, and thinks pig snorts are funny (DSS and DSD discovered the snorting thing). I'm doing research on vaxes because she's coming up on 6 months and I suppose if we're going to do it at all, then I need to get on the ball. (heh that rhymed).
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Dont you just love looking at your lo when he/she is in the carrier? I love how she looks at me

Ash in the mai tei
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Hi Sarah, hope your mom gets to come home soon. As for me, I make jewelry...I do wire-wrapped necklaces, pendants, bracelets, etc. Mostly it's simple stuff but I am wanting to get into doing some more complicated wrapped pendants and also I want to start doing some rings.

Selesai, I am glad your baby is doing better! What a scary thing. We are not doing any vax's so far. I may simply delay until later or not do any at all. Still unsure. For me the fear of a reaction far outweighs the fear of getting a vpd. Kinda like fear of the known vs the unknown? Hopefully that makes sense.

Teeny, I have no idea what to tell you re:bottle size. I do know that on the rare times I leave Jackson with a bottle he will drink down 4-5 oz no problem. Jackson has figured out how to screech too... people ask if he's upset, and I say no, he just likes to make loud crazy noises! He's a boy, what can I say
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Jezzy, I looked at your pic of Ash and thought awwwwwwww, and then forgot to include you in my post I love those times when I am just trucking along in the grocery store and all of a sudden I look down and he's staring up at me with those big beautiful blue eyes of his...
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Thanks you Emily (lovetobemama) for the post card!!
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Hey all - thanks for votes of confidence and support - it really helps get some perspective on these issues....

Teeny - no advice about the bottle feedings- sorry! I really take my hat off to mamas who manage to work out of the home and keep up breastfeeding! to all of you! Yeah, I hope it will get to the point where I prefer to be closer to family. We (DH and I) have decided to take MIL out to our favorite organic cafe and have a heart to heart and try and figure out why she feels the need to communicate with me through email links... we'll see how that pans out! DH is such a diplomat and so committed to having everyone communicating freely - he really is wasted in High Tech.

Sharun - your Ashley is just too gorgeous! I totally would get you wanting to leave Germany if you have the conflicts that you do. How long have you been there? And if it's not too personal, how did you end up moving there?

Cheryl, my DS has also started to really shriek - but it's a kinda joyful "I've discovered that I can make a really loud noise and get people's attention" kinda shriek followed by dribbly smiles

Selesai, I am really sorry you had to go through that and not be there to comfort your LO... I can only imagine how tough that would be... glad she is feeling better

Sarah, I hope all goes well with you mum coming home

Cynthia - I am also getting better at not totally freaking out when people say completely stupid things - like how manipulative my DS is : Here in Israel everyone has an opinion and they just love to share it! I definitely do not share my opinions unless asked, even if someone is doing something that I most certainly would not do. Mamas need support and love and acceptance, not advice!!!

I hope I got everyone! Hillel went to sleep really quickly this evening! Phew! It's been marathons of walks, bouncy balls, lulabys, lavender baths, side nursing.... whatever will finally allow him to surrender to sleep.
On another note my favourite organic cafe is looking for a cook for Friday morning (Israel's Saturday) and I am thinking of applying! A bit of a change from Hand Rehabilitation and tertiary hospitals - but I am so getting into my more chilled out and zen-ish side through motherhood... DH is even commenting on how many positive changes I am making now that I am not slaving away at a job that was totally taking over my life... he's also a bit freaked out, as he assumed that I would keep studying and pushing forward with my career and have other people care for our LO and is not sure what to make of a wife who is not an 'academic' (in Hebrew professions that are studied for in an academic institution are called academics - I have no idea if there is a similar word in English - loosing my English bit by bit ), but a SAHM

: I received your postcards Cynthia and Julie! Thanks - making a collage of postcards on my fridge now
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Selesai I am glad your LO is feeling better. I am sure you have your hands full with a toddler and your new LO, but I'd like to suggest a really good book full of information on vax. It's by Aviva Jill Romm - A Thoughtful Parent's Guide - How to Make Safe, Sensible Decisions about the Risks, Benefits, and Alternatives. Yeah, really long title, but so good! It is full of objective information about vax, history, risks, benefits, etc. She is a herbalist I believe. But even if you don't have time to read the whole book, there are mini chapters broken down by each vaccine so you can get good information quickly that is relevant to your needs. Don't be so hard on yourself about being a bad parent. I really doubt that you qualify for the bad parent label. Based on my limited experience (a whopping 5 months now ), parenting seems to be about challenges and learning how to overcome them. It's kinda like life I guess. But as long as you are doing the best you can with the knowledge you have, then you are a good parent. I really suggest buying or borrowing that book for anyone with questions/concerns about vax. Myself, I am delaying until ? If we go with vax, it will be selective, at the most something like the schedule they use in Denmark I believe. I'd love to forgo vax all together, but DD has lots of family in East Africa and India, and polio is still a problem there...... so if/when we go there, then I'll probably opt for that vax in the least. Best of luck to you, and don't be a stranger, pop in more often even if it's just to say a quick hello.

Sarah I am glad that all is healing for your mother. It is good they discovered that hole before it became a big problem. I hope she gets to come home soon too. ITA - hospitals are icky and not generally a good place for people to heal or recover.

Firecat Jewelry? Oh, you're out to steal my heart. I used to make jewelry before I moved halfway across the country and got pregnant. DP suggests me starting back up again, but between time and expense to purchase supplies..... I've hesitated. I didn't get into wrapping though. I would generally make simple strands or multiple strand necklaces, bracelets and earrings. I would only use gemstones & crystals that as best I knew weren't dyed, heated or irradiated. I would use specific stones for different people and purposes based on astro mostly. I miss it. I am sure I'll get back into, maybe when DD is a bit older.

Jezzy - I love that photo of Ash, I also love to see DD's face looking up at me from the wrap. I still wear her on the front so I can bend my head down to kiss her on the top of her head.

And to the rest of you wonderful ladies : I hope that everyone with family health and IL issues finds some peace, I have you all in my thoughts. I am neglecting my packing, I've got to get it done today aside from the minor things that I will still use the rest of today and tomorrow morning before we leave. I'll be checking in while I'm at the parents place, probably just less so.
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Ok, I've got a question, and I've found it hard getting it answered but maybe you all will know. It seems there's alot of info on feeding baby at newborn and food starting stages and not so much in between. I need some advice on when I'm away. Since I'm away a-working 11 hours a day for 5 days a week, I pump and she drinks the bottles while I'm gone. Well I had been making them into 2 oz bottles because that's what I figured I should do via research on Kellymom and here and whatnot. But I've been hearing lately from here or there something along the lines of: "2oz!!?!? How's that enough for her?" Well she still takes that 2 oz fairly frequently. For some reason, I never thought her stomach capacity would change all that much so, I never thought to up the bottle volume. (Stupidity? lack of research? most breastfeeding books assume the momma is with baby all day and will just naturally follow the changes?)

So perhaps I should make her bottles bigger. Fuller bottles and less of them? I"m now giving her 3 oz bottles, but considering making them 4 oz. I'm doing three because I figure it's summertime she will want to at least drink something more frequently. Or at least that's kind of how I'm looking at it. Should I go straight to four ounces? I assume she'd then take about 3 bottles in the time I'm gone. I don't know there aren't alot of resources out there on how to bottle feed EBM your 4-5 mo baby. I know alot of you are able to stay with baby most/all of the day and might not have the lived experience of knowing, but you lot seem to know things that astonish me, so I'm asking!
I want to laugh... but I know that these things are so flipping complicated and not remotely intuitive. So, I'll try to put this in terms of boobs.

Some women have boobs with remarkable storage capacity. This is, interestingly, not related to boob size exclusively, but it's the truth. As a result of this, some babies need to nurse every 45 to 60 minutes, and smoe are quite comfortable nursing every three or even four hours right from birth. Two ounces doesn't seem like nearly enough to me, but I have never had a baby who expected to take two ounces every hour or so; Instead, my boobs have stored and produced more like 4-6 oz from the beginning (per boob, *minimum*).

If your babe is unhappy, give her more. If life is too complicated for people who have to feed her terribly often, give her more. Be aware of the potential for overfeeding (and it's symptoms, like spitting up tons more than she was before, gas, etc), pay attention... and worry less. There's nothing wrong with the way you're feding her if she's growing and thriving as things are, and there's nothing wrong with changing things a bit, too.

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I no longer have a baby girl and instead have a baby monster. She growls and snarls alot, and thinks pig snorts are funny (DSS and DSD discovered the snorting thing).
: I've always wanted a snarler. I think that's so cute.

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I'm doing research on vaxes because she's coming up on 6 months and I suppose if we're going to do it at all, then I need to get on the ball. (heh that rhymed).
Fascinating to me that everyone chooses a different time to think about that ball. I'm curious-- why 6 months? Why not birth, or a year, or six years? (Not an attack, just questions! I feel compelled to attach that disclaimer to every question I ask now...
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Just a quick sec:

Sarah, so glad she's on the road to recovery:

Same for your LO Selasai!

Jezzy: Keep the pics coming. Ashlee is such a doll and it is so sweet to see her!

Teeny: I didn't look this up so don't trust me yet, but I do think that by 5 mos of age, kids are ususally taking closer to 4 oz at each feeding, not 2 or 3. As long as you and her caregivers are reading her fullness cues at the end of feedings, and she is spacing them out somewhat, I think you will be on the right track.

Ema: Hang in there! I am starting to think that, for all of us, it is strange at a minimum and sometimes downright awful to see our parents stumble through their roles as grandparents. A whole heck of a lot of them don't seem to know what they are doing in the slightest! And the coffee shop sounds awesome!

Firecat: the screeching sounds so funny!

Applecore: can't wait to see the cards!

Mommy2Abigail: I've been meaning for days to say that I am so happy to hear your LO is sleeping well! I remember you talking about the troubles last month, and I'm so glad that things have already come full circle and you are all sleeping well!:

We are still sleeping poor-to-moderately. But I am continuning to work on acceptance, since I don't really like any option I can think of at the present time. But, on a side note, DH and I are now just convinced that we don't produce "easy" sleepers, and are seriously thinking that we can't go through this extended sleep deprivation again, so this may be the last baby for us...we'll see!

And I'm so glad that everyone is liking the postcards!! I had a LOT of fun making them last Friday night...me and a couple of glasses of wine, that is!!
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Fascinating to me that everyone chooses a different time to think about that ball. I'm curious-- why 6 months? Why not birth, or a year, or six years? (Not an attack, just questions! I feel compelled to attach that disclaimer to every question I ask now...
I reckon my DH would be right with you. I have said no vax before one year and that to him seems like a very arbitrary number... I guess it is... I would be happiest to go with no vax, but have family in SA and IL's are swearing there is Polio there, even though I can't find the info.
On the vax issue, I would have to agree with peace_laughing and say that I found the Aviva Jill Romm book to be very good, but a bit out of date. Also if you are wanting to delay or split vax it doesn't really give you the info in terms of which vaxs come together and cannot be split like having tetanus and not whooping cough etc. But she goes into how the immune system works and how vaccines are working and gives more information to be making an informed decision on your child's health.
The Vaccine Book I found to be rather UNhelpful on this issue. It was reassuring to have a doctor who is pro vax talk about the benefits of BF and an organic healthy diet with little sugar, and also reassuring to have a pro vax doctor say that measles is not this super scary disease that it's been hyped into, but I found too many incorrect assumptions and information to my taste... but I have become a bit OCD on this issue
I have also found the vax board here to be very helpful after having my head bitten off a few times - but also the most amazing support when IL's ambushed me and totally attacked my decision - nothing like a bit of "you don't know what you're doing" to fire me up and get me getting my facts sorted.
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I must admit I've been very fortunate in the pumping/WOHM thing. Everyone here's cool with it, so it works well for us. I hate all the bottle washing, but Mr Toona helps with it, so it's all good.


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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
I want to laugh... but I know that these things are so flipping complicated and not remotely intuitive. So, I'll try to put this in terms of boobs.

Some women have boobs with remarkable storage capacity. This is, interestingly, not related to boob size exclusively, but it's the truth. As a result of this, some babies need to nurse every 45 to 60 minutes, and smoe are quite comfortable nursing every three or even four hours right from birth. Two ounces doesn't seem like nearly enough to me, but I have never had a baby who expected to take two ounces every hour or so; Instead, my boobs have stored and produced more like 4-6 oz from the beginning (per boob, *minimum*).

If your babe is unhappy, give her more. If life is too complicated for people who have to feed her terribly often, give her more. Be aware of the potential for overfeeding (and it's symptoms, like spitting up tons more than she was before, gas, etc), pay attention... and worry less. There's nothing wrong with the way you're feding her if she's growing and thriving as things are, and there's nothing wrong with changing things a bit, too.



: I've always wanted a snarler. I think that's so cute.



Fascinating to me that everyone chooses a different time to think about that ball. I'm curious-- why 6 months? Why not birth, or a year, or six years? (Not an attack, just questions! I feel compelled to attach that disclaimer to every question I ask now...
I think if I were just nursing her it would be more intuitive, but since I've got the pump and such I want to analyze every bit. I think she's doing ok with the bottle sizes, I'm sure she'd be ok with more. I've been considering upping them to four ounces and see how it goes. For some reason, I read that breastmilk digests in 1-2 hours, so I figured she'd always need to eat that frequently until solids? I didn't think I could pump enough to feed her 4 oz every two hours. I've got an ok supply, but not that amazing. Heh I don't know, sounds kind of oafish now.

Well she's not really close to six months yet, not until Aug 27 will she be six months. But our doc, who's ok with delaying vax, and we put together an informal schedule to have her seen at six months again. I'd like to have some sort of idea of what we'd like to do with her vax. But I've done no research. I want to get something together to bounce off him and decide where to go from there. But I've got research to do. I've got about a month, so it's time to get to it!

Ema-adama, thanks for the book recommendations. I checked out the Romm book from the library,but its pages were falling out. Heh. So I think I will buy one.

Jezzy I love that pic! I've tried to take one like that, but I never am able to get her just right. How sweet!

Thanks lovetobemama! I knew you all would know!

Monster babies are fun!
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