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post #61 of 68
at the quaker meeting that we attended, non-parents were also willing to run first day school. my husband and i didn't because we felt we wouldn't be "right" for it, even though the quakers were supportive either way.

but, a lot of non-parents also volunteered to do childcare/education.
post #62 of 68
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A year or so ago I was introduced to Nicheren (sp?) Buddhism (nam-myoho-renge-kyo) by my friend. It's the only kind I've been exposed to in real life and I so want to develop a practice. But, I find it hard to connect I'm wondering if I'm too "faithless" to embrace any kind of Buddhism and wondering if maybe I should move on to try to find something else that suits me. I don't know. LoL . . . well, I'm just searching I guess. For a long while, I identified as Christian, then RastafarI and while I still identify as Rasta, I still feel like Buddhism would add and not clash. Anyway, thoughts? Happy to lurk and learn.
Welcome, and no, no one is too faithless for Buddhism. My sangha leader is atheist. Depends on the type of buddhism you ascribe to, but in general it doesn't clash with much b/c one can focus on a mindful practice and, as the DL says, "my religion is kindness." Hard to argue that, no?
post #63 of 68

Patient acceptance

So today's dharma teaching was about patience... actually the month of August is about patience as an opponent to anger. Anyhow, today we specifically discussed patient acceptance. Accepting the situation for what it is, no expectation (or attachment?) that it should be any different.

I'm having a hard time with this. On the most extreme side, what if someone is in an abusive relationship? On the much smaller side, do you patiently accept situations that distress you eternally, an example being an annoying habit of a family member?

Or am I hearing this all wrong...? Patiently accept a situation (any situation) and simply act from a place of rational thought, instead of reacting from a place of fear/anger?

I'm currently finding myself seriously working on the mind of compassion and patient acceptance in my family, but start feeling like I'm being taken advantage of for not standing up for myself. And then swinging back to "but I'm not the most important person in the universe", and then back to "but neither are they"...

Ugh. You can see I'm just generally having some issues. So how does patient acceptance fit into your life?
post #64 of 68
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So today's dharma teaching was about patience... actually the month of August is about patience as an opponent to anger. Anyhow, today we specifically discussed patient acceptance. Accepting the situation for what it is, no expectation (or attachment?) that it should be any different.

I'm having a hard time with this. On the most extreme side, what if someone is in an abusive relationship? On the much smaller side, do you patiently accept situations that distress you eternally, an example being an annoying habit of a family member?

Or am I hearing this all wrong...? Patiently accept a situation (any situation) and simply act from a place of rational thought, instead of reacting from a place of fear/anger?

I'm currently finding myself seriously working on the mind of compassion and patient acceptance in my family, but start feeling like I'm being taken advantage of for not standing up for myself. And then swinging back to "but I'm not the most important person in the universe", and then back to "but neither are they"...

Ugh. You can see I'm just generally having some issues. So how does patient acceptance fit into your life?
Avaylee -responded with quite for August thread - hope you don't mind--http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=943644
post #65 of 68
Hi mamas,

Does anyone mind if I subscribe to this thread? My children and I have been devout practitioners of Nichiren's buddhism for quite awhile now, though we study everything. I think I actually have leanings towards a more zen approach but for now I have faith that my practice will lead me where I'm supposed to be.

Kothi - I was just talking to my counselor about patience the other day (she is buddhist also) and she brought up the word "surrender". My affirmation is to surrender to where I am, in the moment, right now.

More later, kids are calling...

Look forward to meeting all you wise and beautiful women.
post #66 of 68
sorry - will post in August thread instead!
post #67 of 68
Hello and thankyou for this thread. I'd love to join you all.

I practice tibetan buddhism. My main center of practice is Shambhala; my root teacher is Khandro Rinpoche.

I was just fortunate enough to s pend the weekend in a program with Rinpoche and she brought up patience with me directly. As she puts it, patience is not about accepting or giving in to negative situations necessarily, rather about not adding to the cumulation of negative karma through our reactivity and actions.

I had asked about selflessness in relation to being the target of aggression. She was quite clear that we should practice patience and aawreness but also to stay "away from trouble" (!), and to use wisdom to recognize when to act and when not to. She stressed the importance of knowing our potential in any given situation, not trying to take on more than we are able. A lifetime of pratice for me right there.

Something else from her talk that stuck with me which I think relates is that whenever we make a decision or contemplate an action we should always base it on the 4 Noble Truths. So it doesn't mean we don't act, or try to change a situation, but we do that form a place of awareness, patience and compassion.
post #68 of 68
I am not sure I am Buddhist, but I am subbing this thread for now
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