July - it's a great month to be a Dingo! - Page 6

[Plady]

Ug Bec - That sounds terrible! OMG

dead skin from her feet in a bowl

:Puke
No matter how typical that kind of misbehavior may be don't you always find yourself hoping before she shows up that she'll be better this time? Which makes it even worse when she hasn't. I'm bracing myself for my mom's visit. She's coming this week to "help babysit". I have no reason to believe that she will really be helpful and not just act like some overly dramatic 13 year old but I keep finding myself imagining scenarios in which she is acting like a helpful adult. Then I hit myself and try to remember that those scenarios are all figments of my imagination, nothing like that has happened in real life in years, if ever. But it is so hard not to hope for something better.

Oh well. I did some pix on the blog, including me and Ali G post 5k with my dingo shirt (our third partner)

Speaking of which - : to DrJen to find an awesome partner who is way into vbacs and breech deliveries and general wisebirthing with whom she can spread the wisdom and love.

HBM and MB - That race sounds fun, all except for the last two hills! Sheesh! How uncool! HBM I'm glad you're okay, chills and cold sounds dangerous in a situation like that.

[mothercat]

the whole drama thing

Well, I see basically two types of drama. There's the stuff that happens that is a normal part of life-kids getting hurt, sick animals, cars and appliances breaking down. That stuff I can handle.
It's the other crap that really bugs me; the drama that people create and then try to drag you into. If it were a play it would be sardoodledum (it's an actual word), but in real life it's conflict and drama combined.

I found out the hard way that there are just people who are uncomfortable with their own lives and the more drama and chaos they create, the calmer they feel. If we don't feed into their drama, they have no power over us. Makes them pretty cranky and they'll notch things up a bit, but if we refuse to respond they are powerless.

Used to have a co-worker who did this. When her life was a mess, she would create a mountain out of some long past mole hill, and then start calling her close buds and get them all up in arms. There would be round after round of phone calls and discussions. Meanwhile, she was happy as a clam, and everyone else was in a tizzy.
I decided to remove myself from that relationship and still have a tape of the message she left on my answering machine when I did. It was ugly, and just the reminder I needed for why that relationship wasn't healthy.

Hugs for both of you.

linda

[CherylAnn]

Oh, Bec, that's just gross. What a PITA.

Thanks for all the good vibes, friends. I don't have morning after syndrome. No regrets (Except the one that says I should have made it hurt more). Just fear. It's such a typical cycle for alcoholics (which he isn't) and abusers and we fall for it every time. I'm looking for a new affirmation. "No more drama" isn't worded right. Something like, "I have a peaceful life." I don't know.

Gaye, I hope things go well with your conversation with H. I'm happy and hopeful for you that things are moving in a healthy and stable direction.

Plady, I so enjoy your blog! Ali G is the spitting image of you. Did I ever tell you that dh used to call Naomi "Rabbit?"

We caught two days worth of fireworks. My town loves their fireworks. They do fireworks for everything and they last so long that I end up spacing out for a good portion of them. The town is packed with tourists. We're still trying to teach the kids how to ride their bikes on the road with a couple trips to town each day. It's getting easier for them. This fall, when all the tourists are gone, they are going to be so pleasantly surprised by their mad cycling skillz.

ETA: Yes, Mothercat. We all need a reminder etched in our bodies somehow for why continuing in this relationship isn't healthy. I don't know why we all forget over and over again.

[mothercat]

Originally Posted by CherylAnn

ETA: Yes, Mothercat. We all need a reminder etched in our bodies somehow for why continuing in this relationship isn't healthy. I don't know why we all forget over and over again.

I'm not sure it's that we forget, perhaps more that they are so very, very good at manipulating people. There are always the loyal followers who haven't been hurt, or for their own reasons, choose not to see the person's true nature. After a bit of calm, and a whole lot of the loyal followers saying we're the one with the problem, we begin to question our judgment and let our guard down, just to see it all happen again.

been there, done that, have the lawyer's bills.
linda

[tjsmama]

Thanks for the good vibes, ladies. It turned out to be a very anti-climactic talk...part of what happens when you have two very calm and laid-back people, I guess. H was much less disapproving/angry than I thought he was going to be, probably because I took the initiative to say that I screwed up and apologized. We didn't really get anything overly cleared up, but oh well, at least it's over.

rr~a long, slow 10k today. Ugh, I'm supposed to do that AFTER swimming a mile and biking 26 in just two weeks?? That'll be fun. I think I really need to kick my running back up...been kind of slacking off and focusing more on biking/swimming because it's been so darn hot. Just gotta get up earlier, I guess!

[mamabeth]

hey y'all : all around. Is the moon waning or something? Dingoes need a break. thinking about you mamas today.

I ran a very slow and yucky 2 miles this morning...just to get the kinks out...and it did the job but it wasn't pretty or fun. oh well, I think tomorrow's run will be back to somewhere near normal. I'm sore from the race but also from my long walk back from the fireworks pushing a giant 5 year old in the stroller .

take care mamas, dh and I are finally going to our anniversary dinner (it was 3 weeks ago).

[Geofizz]

Originally Posted by mamabeth

hey y'all : all around. Is the moon waning or something? Dingoes need a break. thinking about you mamas today.

New moon was 2 days ago. Anyone else see the tiny silky, sliver at fireworks? I set an hour after sunset.

I bet no one else saw it and thought -- what a great observation for my moon assignment. Then thought, how pathetic, I'm not even teaching that class right now.

[bec]

Geo, when we were walking to the fireworks, my little Emily (4.5 years) noticed the tiny sliver of moon! :

On the nicer side of things, yesterday and today have been just wonderful with just my family! Katie and I just got done walking 2 miles in the parade with her Brownie Troop. It was so nice seeing all the members of the community around that I knew.

[JayGee]

for the Dingos all around

tjsmama ~ glad your talk with H was okay; and I am in the same pre-oly panic mode. Whatever made me think an Oly Tri was a good idea????? Oh yeah.... it was YOU GUYS !

DH has DS and DD1 up outside Gary, IN today for the state Speed Stacking Championship. Don't know if anyone has heard of cup stacking, but my 6yo is freaking amazing at it. Seriously. So he's competing in the state tournament in hopes that he can qualify for the national tournament in Colorado Springs in the fall. DD2 and I have had a lovely mother-daughter day including church, a slow 8-miler with the jogger, and a delicious afternoon hanging out at the pool .

[grnmtnmama]

Originally Posted by Geofizz

New moon was 2 days ago. Anyone else see the tiny silky, sliver at fireworks? I set an hour after sunset.

I bet no one else saw it and thought -- what a great observation for my moon assignment. Then thought, how pathetic, I'm not even teaching that class right now.

we noticed it. it was beautiful above the spine of the green mtns at dusk.

i'm having a hard time. ever since i got back from TX whenever I get my heart rate up it gets irregular, my chest feels very constricted and i feel like i'm going to pass out or throw up or both. is this just out-of-shape-ness? It feels different and a lot more intolerable and isn't getting better even though i've been riding. my butt didn't get un-'broken-in' after my trip, how did my lungs fall this far from normal?

rode today. had multiple lung/heart problems on the long climb up. scared the willikers out of a pheasant. crashed once. flatted once (tubeless tires though, just had to pump it back up).

[towsonmama]

My 5yo dd has me at the brink. Seriously. I am just done with her disrespectfulness to everyone in our family and the selfishness. I understand that part of it is just where she is developmentally but it's beyond acceptable. I'm getting ready to Google behavior charts. I never thought I'd use one but I'm out of tricks and something has to change.

Rant over. Thanks for letting me vent.

[Geofizz]

Originally Posted by grnmtnmama

i'm having a hard time. ever since i got back from TX whenever I get my heart rate up it gets irregular, my chest feels very constricted and i feel like i'm going to pass out or throw up or both. is this just out-of-shape-ness? It feels different and a lot more intolerable and isn't getting better even though i've been riding. my butt didn't get un-'broken-in' after my trip, how did my lungs fall this far from normal?

I'm battling a pretty minor virus, whose main symptom is an evening sore throat, a cough, and that feeling you describe once getting moving.

[towsonmama]

Okay, the good news is I cool down pretty quickly. I found a cute chart that I think might work. Tell me if y'all see any loopholes or problems. (I apologize for going OT, do you still love me???) In the hopes of staying positive, DH and I have agreed to give dd "Caught ya" stickers anytime we see her being exceptionally nice, respectful, helpful, etc. Three stickers in one day means she gets to color a spot on the lady bug. Once all seven spots are colored in she gets a trip to the dollar store. Lucky for us that's pretty much her favorite place in the world right now. That's all I have so far. I'm looking for quick, easy, and immediate at this point.

[calicocj]

Hi Mamas!

all around to everyone dealing w/ stress and family stuff

WTG racers!!!

Did 6 miles this morning - I ran at 5:30 AM and it was still freaking hot, but more bearable. But now I'm tired

(so much so apparently that as soon as I typed that coffee smiley, I remembered that I had put a pot of water on the stove to make coffee like 10 minutes ago and the water was almost boiled out )

Did anyone watch the mens final at Wimbledon today? That was an amazing match!!

Mandy - I just have to say.... :

[Penelope]

Finally home from the World's Longest Road Trip, sigh. My July 4th 5K went well - I didn't love the run, but did set a pr by about 7 or 8 seconds, so that was fun. I ran just about every other day because dh or my ILs would watch the kids, and that was awesome - it felt great.

Towsonmama, I hear you on the disrespect and snottiness - my 7yo goes through those phases and it just drives me *crazy.* I think when I step up the snacks and get more consistent about bedtime it really helps - sometimes she just gets cranky if she's tired and or hungry. Hth.

[babybugmama]

towson - my five gives me heartache all the time. I am finding things that are working for her very spirited personality. But it has been really really hard. It is a lot of listening, repetition, and modeling of what I want from her. Combined with a big dose of one-on-one time. More than I would've thought she needed. I hope it gets easier. I know the 1/2 b day can be a rough time (well for some it's the whole others it's the half). I also know that transitioning from school to summer can be really rough (I know it was murder on us!).

Mandy that sounds doctor worthy to me.

I am so irritated I just missed watching the 1500 time trials for women. :

[kerc]

Originally Posted by Geofizz

New moon was 2 days ago. Anyone else see the tiny silky, sliver at fireworks? I set an hour after sunset.

I bet no one else saw it and thought -- what a great observation for my moon assignment. Then thought, how pathetic, I'm not even teaching that class right now.

LOL. No tiny sliver of moon at fireworks -- that could be because they happen at 1010pm.

Originally Posted by tjsmama

Send me some good vibes, please. I screwed up (financially and now I have to have a "talk" with H tomorrow. I hate conflict to start with, and we've been getting along so well lately that I am really really not looking forward to this. I know it will all be fine, and it may even be good to clear the air about a lot of things (maintaining two households is really starting to strain), but, blork.

I'm thinking of you.

My family is away overnight -- my inlaws were here this weekend, we had a fabulous weekend. They are going to BIL's house near Minneapolis today for a few days. DH has an interview for a pt online teaching gig in Minneapolis (interview is tomorrow)....so dh + girls left a few hours ago for Minneapolis -- I'm taking today to get myself together, tomorrow to finish a chapter of my thesis. Whew. It's hot too. Like almost 90 degrees hot. In northern minnesota.

[Geofizz]

Originally Posted by kerc

LOL. No tiny sliver of moon at fireworks -- that could be because they happen at 1010pm.

Ours started at 10:05 pm. So so there.

: good luck to your dh on the interview.

[tjsmama]

Originally Posted by Geofizz

New moon was 2 days ago. Anyone else see the tiny silky, sliver at fireworks? I set an hour after sunset.

I bet no one else saw it and thought -- what a great observation for my moon assignment. Then thought, how pathetic, I'm not even teaching that class right now.

Ooh, I saw it! I tried to point it out to DS (he LOVES finding moons/stars everywhere), but he just couldn't see it, it was too skinny.

[Megs_BK]

Mandy, could you go get checked out? There are a few little buzzworthy red flags in your description that may be completely innocuous -- but are red flags for a reason. The chest tightness & worsening with activity are the big ones to me. Maybe DrJen can chime in with more than one quarter of "Diagnosis for Physical Therapists" to help her see the big picture!

I start at the clinic for five weeks tomorrow. it doesn't really feel real! I'm not nervous/anxious, really -- because I *know* they don't expect me to do anything but learn at this point -- so that takes the pressure off. I think the next five weeks will fly by way too quickly, but then I get almost 6 weeks OFF. HOORAY! Well, I have to write a case report, but that's do-able.

RR: long walk yesterday... I *should* ride my bike tonight, but I may rest another day and do that tomorrow -- work off some of that first-day adrenaline!