When you don't get the reaction you'd hoped for...

[hedgewitch]

Feeling a bit blue here I know it is super early to tell people but I'm one for celebrating whenever I can so...

DP was a bit non plussed when I told him I'm preggers. First test it was take another test (after initial happiness) then after second test it was wait until after af due date (today). Temps still high, no af still no over joyed dp. We've talked/me shouted about it but still takes the edge off the initial feelings.

Told MIL, she's super excited but still referred to my previous m/c a bit (that was partly why dp wanted to wait, my feeling is lets enjoy every minutes), I don't need to think about the previous loss but whatever.

Told my dad (who is dealing with my mum who has cancer so I get he is not exactly brimming with joy). His initial response to me saying I'm pregnant was "Again." Then he kept saying, "I'm happy if you're happy." Wow. Bowled over.

So had a big cry and generally felt crap. My buzz has pretty much gone and I feel like I'm probably being daft I just wanted a bit of 'well done you' etc from those nearest and dearest. My sister was great though, she's super supportive. I just can't seem to get back to my previous : state.

Sorry if this is nonsense, I just wanted to vent.

[liberal_chick]

Oh, I'm so sorry. That really stinks when people don't react the way you hope they will.

My dh is still kind of non-chalant about it. He says it doesn't feel real to him yet.

[ilovebabies]

Preggo hormones don't help the situation.
I'm so sorry that everyone has put a damper on your joy. Remember though, you still have a baby growing in you and everyone has 9 months to get excited about it! You're having a miracle, and that's something to celebrate, even if all by yourself! :

[freestyler]

Well, I say to you....

CONGRATULATIONS HONEY!!!

It is AWESOME and MIRACULOUS that you have this precious life growing inside of you, and I send you hugs and love!! Pamper yourself and treat yourself like a princess for the next nine months. You deserve it!!

:

[vanessab23]

Oh, hugs mama-- that sucks. I would cry too.

If it helps at all, everyone HERE is really happy for you!!!

But let the tears flow as much as you want, and then do something special for yourself-- baby related. Go buy his/her first outfit, get a massage, start a pregnancy journal.....

Love,
Vanessa

[hedgewitch]

Wow, I'm almost in tears reading your lovely comments. You are all so right! I will celebrate no matter what!

I spoke to my mum today, she is very ill at the moment but she told me that this is great news and that she is looking forward to a little girl. That made me feel a bit better.

Damn it I'm going to get every bit of : I can!

Thanks mamas, this was just what I needed

[hillaryjudd]

I'm in the same boat. My DH has not even brought up the pregnancy unless I have. Last night he called me from work and asked me what I was doing and I told him I was just finishing off a bottle of wine and he believed me at first! I had to REMIND HIM THAT I'M PREGNANT!!!!

I am hoping that it will be more real to him on the 22nd when we have an ultrasound and (hopefully) see the heart beat.

I also wonder if my DH (and your DP) are reluctant to get excited because of previous miscarriage (I had one 8 weeks ago) and this is just their way of protecting their feelings?

*shrug*

[Mrsboyko]

Yep, just told DH last night. We also had a M/C in Feb. His only real response to seeing the pos HPT was "I saw a bunch of those in Feb and they turned out to be nothing...' Yea, he got a bit of an ear full on that one. He didn't have to deal with any of it, i ma the one that had to see 3 u/s of no baby then havea d/c at nearly 8 weeks. Anyways, yea, not so much thrilled yet. I am letting him process it for a few days. We are holding off telling family/ friends till 8 weeks or when we see a HB.

[hedgewitch]

I think the m/c has definitely affected everyone. Dp has turned a bit of a corner and said sorry for not being more up. He was being cautious, we lost the pregnancy at 11wks and it was not a fun few days. My feeling is lets get back into it all and enjoy every second. When he realised how hurt I was he started to get on board properly, though he's admitted it is very surreal for him and probably will be for a while. I think it is a bit random for chaps until there is a baby to start dealing with. They are funny creatures.

Hugs to us all, we rock