The JULY Infertility One Thread - Page 9

[Lola88]

Hi. My name is Lola and I am 37 years old (38 in December). We have been ttc since October 2005. Finally got BFP in March '08 only to m/c at 9 weeks. Started my first round of clomid 3 days ago, and we are starting our first IUI in September.

My question is the timing. We live 3 hours from the clinic. Are we going to be too late when I detect my surge?

Any advice is welcome!!

[Held]

Lola welcome!

So very sorry for your loss.

In regards to timing. I would definitely consider staying overnight if you can before the IUI, a friend elsewhere did that as well as another who lives quite far for her IVF transfer.

I hope that you are blessed soon with a super-sticky bean!

[crystal-mommy]

getting ready to go back to surgery. Am pretty nervous now, and starved to death!! Any other time wouldn't even be thinking about food @ this time!! Scared that he will find something bad... but also scared he won't find anything @ all and this infertility will still be unexplained...

Songbird Good luck w/ your hsg!! I hope we both get good news today!

[biomama]

Originally Posted by crystal-mommy

getting ready to go back to surgery. Am pretty nervous now, and starved to death!! Any other time wouldn't even be thinking about food @ this time!! Scared that he will find something bad... but also scared he won't find anything @ all and this infertility will still be unexplained...

Songbird Good luck w/ your hsg!! I hope we both get good news today!

GOOD LUCK! I'm sure everything will be fine and they will find some nice fix-able easy little problem that once solved, will change everything!!! Let us know how it goes!!!

Shari and Held and Lola, I hope you all graduate really soon! and I hope you find the support you need here.

[songbird45]

Has anyone volunteered to be threadkeeper for August? I can do it if you like...

[biomama]

Originally Posted by Lola88

My question is the timing. We live 3 hours from the clinic. Are we going to be too late when I detect my surge?

Any advice is welcome!!

Hi Lola, and welcome to our group!

I don't think you will be too late. I have had my IUIs scheduled for the day after the surge. If you do your OPK in the afternoon, around 2pm, you will detect your surge and still have time to call the clinic and schedule your appointment for the next day. Of course, your clinic may be different, so you should follow their directions, but in my experience this shouldn't be a problem.

Songbird, I had spotting the day of my HSG. They said it was fine... If you are worried about it, you could try doing some kegels. I find exercise gets more blood to come out, too. GOOD LUCK! I hope your HSG is painless and reveals nice open tubes!

[hope4light]

Hey All,

I've been hiding away for the past week, and decided that I needed to make an attempt at coming out of my shell, if you know what I mean... ::

I first wanted to say Welcome to those of you that are new this week, and as everyone else has already said, I hope that your stay is short and graduation comes quickly.

Julia's Mom - I know I didn't post it on the IVF Thread, but I wanted to give you a big fat congratulations, and here's to a healthy and happy, and uneventful 9 months. I can't wait to hear about the heartbeat u/s!!

It seems that every month over the past couple of years when AF showed were all really bad... then the canceled IVF cycle's were monsters, but for me this BFN from IVF has really just hit me at the core. I can't seem to function, I can't seem to find joy in the little things that always seemed to help me through the crappy times. I feel like I'm dragging DH down as he is trying to deal with his own grief. I canceled my last appt with my counselor, and I can't seem to see how she can help right now. I'm trying to remember everything that I have good in my life - I know that there is a lot. But my world has stopped turning and I can't seem to jump start it for the life of me.

Every little thing that we see or do makes me think of my little babies that didn't make it, that didn't get a chance to be held within my womb, at my breast, or simply in my arms. I'm afraid that it will never happen, worse than before. I mean, we've tried the 'last option' to have a bio child, and it failed, miserably. No frozens, no sticky beans, nothing. I know that we can try again, but if it didn't work the first time, how in the world can I expect it to happen the second try?

I'm sorry for dumping, but I'm hoping that getting it all out will help, even though it seems futile right now. :

BTW - AF on Saturday was hellish - the worst cramps, the heaviest flow, tons of clots... you get the point.....

I also wanted to thank everyone for their kind words and prayers thoughout my entire cycle, especially after my BFN. It means so much to me that I have so many people that care, and that can understand like no one else in my life can. Right now you are the only people that I want to even think about talking to about the whole mess, I don't want to hear someones condolences that has no clue... that's just too much for me right now.

[Julia'sMom]

hope4light - Please take care of yourself. Hide away with as many cookies and ice cream tubs as you want. This is the time when it's most important to pamper yourself and allow yourself to simply grieve. I think all of us have gone thru some very dark times on this journey and each one of us has to find what works for us to cope. I used avoidance and a lot of sleeping on the hard days/weeks/months. When you are ready, we are here to listen to you, to support you in any way we can.

[sharibollers]

Thank You

Thank You Tandy and Biomama; good luck to all who needs it, congrats to the others.

[songbird45]

lola and sharibollers, welcome. this is a very supportive group.

biomama and crystal-mommy, thanks for your good wishes! my news is mixed, but mostly good:

The good news:
- my tubes are open
- the residual pain is quite manageable, and they say it will be gone by tomorrow
- We can continue with the current plan of Femara / IUI, and it will probably work eventually.

The not-quite-as-good news:
- My uterus is V-shaped instead of triangle shaped. This is within the range of normal, but increases my risk of miscarriage.

[Tandy]

songbird~~it will probably work eventually??!!

yay!!

[Julia'sMom]

I know I haven't posted much, but I have been watching all of your ups and downs. Please move me to sucess group. Our first IVF worked, the 2nd beta was today. I think I'll be due in early April.

[barose]

Originally Posted by Julia'sMom

I know I haven't posted much, but I have been watching all of your ups and downs. Please move me to sucess group. Our first IVF worked, the 2nd beta was today. I think I'll be due in early April.

Congrats!

[EastbayK]

Songbird! Go for it with an August thread!!!

I'm in the middle of moving, have my laparoscopy next week and have done it for two months already. I'll be glad to pass the baton for a bit!

Welcome everyone new, congrats to Julia's Mom. Crystal, I can't wait to hear what your surgry was like since I'm doing it too.

Kim

[gumby74]

Originally Posted by Lola88

Hi. My name is Lola and I am 37 years old (38 in December). We have been ttc since October 2005. Finally got BFP in March '08 only to m/c at 9 weeks. Started my first round of clomid 3 days ago, and we are starting our first IUI in September.

My question is the timing. We live 3 hours from the clinic. Are we going to be too late when I detect my surge?

Any advice is welcome!!

The last IUI I had was about three hours away from my home. I was on hormones and the trigger shot I took predicted ovulation within the next 24 hours. I believe the IUI was set for 9:30. We didn't stay the night, just got up early and went. The doc told us to just be and bd that day as well. Best of luck!

[songbird45]

Alright, everyone - the August thread is here!