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Would anyone like to join me in a hormonal rant?

post #1 of 24
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Pregnancy has stomped down my tolerance level to almost ZERO. I have road rage, my skin crawls every time my phone rings at work (and I am an office manager for a Dr.'s office so I run the front desk) I have a super short fuse when it comes to my DS and DD bickering, being lazy, and/or annoying. I have far less tolerance for DH than I would like. I know he is trying to help. I know... but its so hard when hes not doing it right. How hard could it be to fold laundry? I snapped at him this afternoon for NO reason. Well, at the moment I thought I had a reason. His boss let him out of work early. He gets to go home and enjoy half a day off in addition to his lovely three day weekend. I am stuck in an office with no windows. I have not gotten to enjoy my summer because I work from 8:30 - 5:00 M-F and it has rained every weekend for the last month and a half. I live a couple of blocks away from the most gorgeous beach in New England and I dont ever get to enjoy it because its either raining or Im working. So I took it out on him.

Im pi$$ed off about everyting.

THIS IS NOT MY PERSONALITY! THIS IS NOT ME!!

Im afraid DH is starting to take it personally because he has developed an attitude in retalliation. Im trying not to freak out. I just really dont like when people do or say stupid things. When people have no mouth to brain filter. My boss (lovely woman who is like a mother to me) made a comment about the fact that I have put on a little weight on my face and I got wrecked over it. It ruined my day... even though she followed it up with "you look so healthy. You look great"

And the sound of chewing and crunching is enough to make me want to scream!

What is wrong with me? Am I going crazy or is anyone else going through this?

(i do think that part of my issues at the moment have to do with my anxiety about the fact that I dont have the energy to cook, clean, play with kids, work, keep DH happy, and all that good stuff nad it makes me feel guilty which turns into anxiety. I have OCD so I have struggled with anxiety my whole life but I dont remember being this bad with my other two)

I want ME back
post #2 of 24
you're not alone. i pretty much can't stand my pregnant self. i keep expecting to get fired for being so... horrible, i guess, all the time. it's just like you said: every little thing is on my very last nerve. i'm pissy with everyone, and i hate that i'm like that. then i get sad, and then defensive (hey! i'm growing a BABY here, people! cut me some slack!), and then depressed.

ah, the joys of pregnancy hormones. at least it's temporary.

i hope your DH figures out how to not take it personally. my DH pretty much ignores my ridiculous rants and refuses to take the bait when i try to pick a fight. it's annoying, but it takes the wind out of my sails.

hang in there.
post #3 of 24
I'm right there with you guys! With my first pregnancy I was just sick and tired during the 1st tri. With this one I am not really sick, but waaay more emotional/hormonal. I don't know which is worse .

I totally understand about not feeling like yourself. Hopefully the people around us will realize that we really aren't ourselves . I have been pretty good keeping my feelings to myself (esp since barely anyone even knows I pg), but I do have really mean thoughts about people (esp the inlaws ) that I normally wouldn't have. And I get annoyed so easily. Argh.

Hopefully we'll be back to our normal selves in a few weeks!!
post #4 of 24
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Originally Posted by RunnerMommy View Post
I do have really mean thoughts about people (esp the inlaws ) that I normally wouldn't have.
OMG! I ADORE my mother in law. She is like my mom... my real mom sucks. But she has driven me to the point where I avoid her like the plague to prevent saying something mean to upset or offend her because shes driving me crazy! IM PREGNANT... NOT DISABLED!! She lectures me about lifting anything heavier than a gallon of milk or the fact that I like to jog. She also lectured me about diet coke... YES I KNOW ITS BAD... Ive given up everything else that I have grown dependant on (smoking, coffee, anti-anxiety meds) I have cut the diet coke back to maybe one a day.. usually not even that. GET OFF MY BACK! I eat right. *big sigh*

I know what I need. I need to watch Love Actually and have a good cry and a good laugh. I am not usually a romantic comedy girl but its one of my favorites
post #5 of 24
I'm with you on the irritability. I just can't stand a few things. Kid I babysit strains a lot when he cries and for a few days I was so convinced he does it because he knows it annoys me. I've been giving in to a lot of things regarding DD - to much signing too, too much popcorn every day, not enough quality time.

I want DH to take over more but I know he's tired at work. So depending on the day, i either tell him i don't care how tired he is or i suck it up and go on being my woozy self. I need a third option.

I've been sleeping so poorly - DD wants to nurse, i gotta get up to pee ever y night, then i can't go to sleep.. blah blah. I'm just soo tired it's making me *more* irritable if that's possible.

I just want to curl up in my bed and sleep some days. Maybe read and then sleep. I just gotta figure out how to get these people that I live with to go along with that.
post #6 of 24
Yep, i am sooooo not like my usual mellow calm with the world self! I get soooo annoyed when people knock on my door or call my cell phone....like what else do I expect of them, to telepathically communicate with me????? I am aware of the irrationality, but I cannot help it!
post #7 of 24
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HA! This morning DH approached me and said he fears I dont like him anymore. He said "I know you love me but I dont think you like me anymore" I wanted to say "What tipped you off? The seething anger in my gaze or the fact that you have become a douchebag" but I restrained my hormonal irrationallity. *sigh*

His insecurity is becoming more annoying every day.
post #8 of 24
OK, here's mine. I sent dh and dd to the store to get chicken thighs for the BBQ today. He called from the store, I was in bed feeling sick, and he left a message, "I forget, did you want split fryers or chicken breasts?"

I called him right back but couldn't get through on his piece of crap cell phone. I then flew into a rage: punched a hole in a plaster wall, cursed and screamed at the top of my lungs -- to the cat, I guess. "THIGHS!! YOU &$*%( MORON!!!"

I do feel better, though.
post #9 of 24
hahahahaha! aww, I totally understand. I had quite the reign of terror at work and at home for the first couple months. I've finally settled down and am not feeling quite as evil and irritable and irrationally angry as I was in the beginning. But some of my damage hs been done--DH went running in the other direction a couple nights ago when i said I was hungry. Hungry time is the worst time : But I think it should pass--I have felt it passing for myself, thankfully. Everyone in my life is relieved.
post #10 of 24
You're not alone. It's definitely a good thing that I don't work. I sooooo, wish that my DC had a place to stay for the summer:
post #11 of 24
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HA! He noticed the pattern... between the time I get home from work until after dinner... good time to just leave me alone! HE GETS IT!
post #12 of 24
Im a total moody woman right now...my 2 year old ds drives me CRAZY my husband is a pain in the rear! and my job suxs!

I work in a restaurant and one of the owners today had his moms 80th bday party @ the bar..didnt inform me(the only server/bartender(who has to make and serve all drinks and serve all food) or the only cook on that wed be having a party of atleast30! on top of whoever came into the restaurant!..I freaked at one point, yelled, screamed called him quite a few choice names and smashed a plate on purpose!...He took it all in stride(he has an xwife and two daughters) and gave me a 100 buck tip! LOL!!!...

Then i just yelled at my husband telling him he stunk cause he had a cigarette..he stormed off and prob isnt talking to me right now
post #13 of 24
Blah, I hear ya.

DD is 21 months old, and I have zero patience with her. She's never been an easy child, and I am forced to WOH FT at a job I dislike more and more everyday.

How the hell am I going to handle two kids? What the F were we thinking?

DH's solution? Find a different job and leave the kid(s) at his mothers full time. No Fing way. I work nights so DD is only with those people for about 8-10 hours a week. But because I work nights, it means I systemically don't get enough sleep at least 4 nights a week, and it's killing me.

My solution? Make more money so I can stay home, F-head!

Oh, yeah, when I'm exhausted, stressed out and anxious, I swear. A.lot.
post #14 of 24
That was my first pregnancy symptom - I became completely unreasonable, knew I was unreasonable, but just couldn't stop flying off the handle at every little thing. I really thought I was going crazy. I started taking fish oil and a B complex supplement and it really, really helped. The difference was within two days and I was like a different person.

I'm still more irritable than normal (especially with the morning sickness STILL hanging around and being so exhausted all the time), but it's much more manageable.
post #15 of 24
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I started taking fish oil and a B complex supplement and it really, really helped. The difference was within two days and I was like a different person.
Extra folic acid helps too
post #16 of 24
I am more sensitive and crabby in general but there are two things that are just down right unreasonable. First, there is someone at work who insists on wearing a charm-filled ankle bracelet every single day. In jingles with every step she takes. She walks by my office to go to the bathroom about 3 or 4 times a day. Every time she does, I have a primal urge to run and tackle her, rip off the anklet, and stomp it to smitherines! THIS IS A PLACE OF BUSINESS! I'm trying to get work done and that obnoxious jingling just drives me insane. I had the exact same problem with my first pregnancy. I'm such a freak! The second issue is also a work problem. There's a guy here at work who got a recent promotion which has sent him into ego la-la land. I've never been a big fan of his but since I got pregnant, I can't even stand the sound of his voice. I have to go out of my way to avoid him. Luckily, I'm able to "keep the crazy under wraps" as DH would say so these poor innocent bystanders don't know about my hostility. I'm really looking forward to having the old me back.
post #17 of 24
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Originally Posted by _betsy_ View Post
Blah, I hear ya.

My solution? Make more money so I can stay home, F-head!

Oh, yeah, when I'm exhausted, stressed out and anxious, I swear. A.lot.
I F-ING LOVE YOU, WOMAN!!
post #18 of 24
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. Every time she does, I have a primal urge to run and tackle her, rip off the anklet, and stomp it to smitherines! ...

Luckily, I'm able to "keep the crazy under wraps" as DH would say so these poor innocent bystanders don't know about my hostility. I'm really looking forward to having the old me back.
I F-ING LOVE YOU TOO!

I totally feel that way. I swear to God that if the doctor doesnt stop eating chips in the office right behind my desk I am going to take the bag from him, stomp it, and slam his head on the desk!! And the deep throaty snorting and hocking sounds he makes... GRRRR And the sounds of the therapy dogs licking themselved right next to my desk. Adn they try to go through my garbage can which is right by my feet. I love these dogs and I am not a cruel person but what the F? It makes me lose myself and actually want to punt them. I dont... I totally control it but GEEEZ! Why did I become so sound sensitive?
post #19 of 24
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I swear. A.lot.
Me too! DH says I have a trucker's mouth. I say F him! :
post #20 of 24
I am so glad I read this tonight!! I have been feeling awful about myself all week. I have turned into this horrible person and I don't even recognize myself. I did not go through this with my other 2 pregnancies! What is this all about?
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