I was subpeoned to testify in my parent's custody battle over my much younger sibling yesterday.
The court case went on the entire day and well into the evening hours.
I was not called in until late afternoon. I was put first into a private witness room to wait my turn to testify.
My mother's lawyer came in to speak with me before I was called in and let me know that my father had said some very negative things about me in terms of my breastfeeding my children and to be prepared for that to come up in the cross examination.
The reason it was even an issue in the case is that my father did something incredibly innappropriate to me while I was breastfeeding my child. It was being used as evidence against him.
I nurse discreetly in public, I cover myself or go to at least a semi-private area. (No flames please it is just what makes me feel comfortable) When in my own home I expose only what is necessary to feed my child.
Well it turns out that my father testified that I walk around constanly with both of my boobs hanging out, that they had to speak to me constantly as a family because they were so offended by me being so imodest and "plopping my boobs out constantly" to feed my children, and then this is the kicker.....
he testified that I shouldn't have expected anything different than the innappropriate touching that went on when I am so imodest and will just do "that" (meaning feeding my child) in front of anyone and everyone.
I am so angry and sad and just ....ugh!
Then they didn't even have the courage to bring it up on my cross examination. I never even was given the chance to refute anything that was said about me. I think they did this because my father knew what he was saying wasn't true.
Isn't it terribly sad that breastfeeding ones child can be used against you to attempt to discredit you and make you look bad in a court case?
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The court case went on the entire day and well into the evening hours.
I was not called in until late afternoon. I was put first into a private witness room to wait my turn to testify.
My mother's lawyer came in to speak with me before I was called in and let me know that my father had said some very negative things about me in terms of my breastfeeding my children and to be prepared for that to come up in the cross examination.
The reason it was even an issue in the case is that my father did something incredibly innappropriate to me while I was breastfeeding my child. It was being used as evidence against him.
I nurse discreetly in public, I cover myself or go to at least a semi-private area. (No flames please it is just what makes me feel comfortable) When in my own home I expose only what is necessary to feed my child.
Well it turns out that my father testified that I walk around constanly with both of my boobs hanging out, that they had to speak to me constantly as a family because they were so offended by me being so imodest and "plopping my boobs out constantly" to feed my children, and then this is the kicker.....
he testified that I shouldn't have expected anything different than the innappropriate touching that went on when I am so imodest and will just do "that" (meaning feeding my child) in front of anyone and everyone.
I am so angry and sad and just ....ugh!
Then they didn't even have the courage to bring it up on my cross examination. I never even was given the chance to refute anything that was said about me. I think they did this because my father knew what he was saying wasn't true.
Isn't it terribly sad that breastfeeding ones child can be used against you to attempt to discredit you and make you look bad in a court case?
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You sound like a kind, caring mama and you know you're doing the best thing for your babies.
:...please try not to be sad...
