Originally Posted by BrokeMom
I am so hoping that this was just a front and that maybe he will continue to think about it. I tried the female circumcision card and that did nothing. He said that was not a good example. He is convinced that not only would son #3 be teased by his 2 circ brothers, but also horrible teased at school. He says when he was in school they all made fun of kids who were circ. I told him that being intact is much more common now, and that the possibilitiy of being made fun of is not even close to real reason to get circ. He said something to the effect that he's not going to "ruin" his kids life because he didn't have him circ. I asked what about waiting til he's older and can be circ if he want's. The answer was a big fat No. Now, this may never come up as an issue since I don't plan to have more kids. But plans could change. Either way, I plan to talk to a lot of people/friends/family about this issue. But it just doesn't feel right to not have him backing me up. I hope he will come on board at some point.
Wow, I'd be insulted if I were you. Because what your husband is saying doesn't say much about your sons (or the way you two raise them) if he thinks they'd tease him about having the entire body he was born w/, the choice to alter it IF he wishes and the maximum amount of sexual sensitivity. It sounds like he's defensive and he wants more sons to suffer so he doesn't have to deal w/ it. Sorry to sound so blunt, but that's selfish and cruel (non-) thinking.
"Ruined life" because he was left the way he was born and has a choice?! HA!
How about the guys in this world who are not only unhappy that they were mutilated/violated, but those who are outright suicidal
over it???!!! You can't get it back once it's gone, but if you're unhappy w/ your adult human body, you're free to alter it anyway that makes you happy; notice I say adult
"Top Ten (10) Ways MALE Circumcision Hurts WOMEN!"
edit: Response from a LiveJournal entry "Uncut Penises and Admirers' Journal":Friday, April 4th, 2008 - 10:26 am
i'm not uncut, but i wish that i was... i can't believe that my mom fucking chopped off my foreskin. i can never get it back and it's definitely something that i feel bad about.
(lol!) thinking about it: I mean, my god... even ONE
voice matters. And if he's that one
male who is unhappy that he was circ'd, then that's something he's gotta live w/ for the rest of his life. He deserves the choice! Is it worth the risk (circ'ing)? There's nooooo getting it back. You have NOTHING to lose leaving him the way he was born! That's why I'm such a fierce Intactivist.
Think about it this way-- redhead children are in the definite minority here (for example; though in the U.S., circ'd/intact children are 56%/44% and growing more
for the intact
side!). Chances are, they're
more likely teased; though that doesn't make it right. And you don't dye their hair. In the rare instant your son IS teased, you teach him to retort w/ a realistic statement like: "Oh, yeah? Well, at least I have all of my penis."