or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › Queer Parenting › Bi mamas July 08
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Bi mamas July 08 - Page 3

post #41 of 79
Hi everyone!
I just left a post in the poly thread (I'm not actually poly though) which didn't leave me much place to say this: I'm bi too!

Dani: your story about your husband finally getting some idea of the fun that might be lurking out there reminds me a lot of the way DH discovered the same thing some years ago Now he's the one dating all the women and even these days flirting with a guy, while I sit here not having had the least thing with anybody else for the 10 years we've been together: how about that?
post #42 of 79
Thread Starter 
hi belodie
what countries are you from? my family is totally international as well.
post #43 of 79
I'm French. My hubby's Argentine, my oldest boy (5) was born in France, my youngest (2 1/2) in Spain, and we are now living in Chile for a couple more years.

Where are you from?
post #44 of 79
Thread Starter 
I'm Australian from a German family, my DD was born in Brasil, her father is Israeli and my GF if from England. We're living in Australia atm
post #45 of 79
Man, I just had a look at your blog, Majikfaerie: how do you manage to do all that?! It's incredible! Midwifery, unschooling, blogging... (and having a girlfriend and flings) :
I'm impressed (wish I could be in love and still do some work)
Wow, and nice tour of the Earth, too...!
post #46 of 79
Thread Starter 
thanks belodie
i don't think it's really about doing more than other people, just different stuff.
anyway, i saw your comment, thanks i'm still surprised all the time that people actually read my blog
post #47 of 79
Well it's certainly worth the reading!

Ladies, is it possible that I am:
- more in love with my husband than ever
- totally infatuated with that other man I met, thinking about him all the time, though I don't have much hope about him (*sigh*)
and
- increasingly turned on by this new (bi) girl friend of mine, who seems to take my heart pains so compassionately she's hugging and kissing me all over every time we meet...?

More important: is there a chance I get to actually have something with one or both?
Something tells me it might be up to me...
post #48 of 79
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Belodie View Post
Well it's certainly worth the reading!
shucks

Quote:
Ladies, is it possible that I am:
- more in love with my husband than ever sure
- totally infatuated with that other man I met, thinking about him all the time, though I don't have much hope about him (*sigh*)why not?
and
- increasingly turned on by this new (bi) girl friend of mine, who seems to take my heart pains so compassionately she's hugging and kissing me all over every time we meet...?oh yeah. sounds like she's pretty into you too.

More important: is there a chance I get to actually have something with one or both?
Something tells me it might be up to me...
yes indeedy. it's up to you
post #49 of 79
I don't have much hope about him (*sigh*)why not?

Because he is, you might say, a collegue of DH, and I'm thinking that could be the reason why he seems to avoid me. The night we met he didn't look so indifferent to me, but when I started trying to see him again, nobody there.

oh yeah. sounds like she's pretty into you too.

How I hope so! She's so sweet and easy. Last time, she said: "Forget about that Chilean guy, he'll never understand what you're about. Now Spanish people they know what sex is about. When I lived in Madrid I slept with with half of my women friends and the next morning we were friends just as before"... I say: isn't that an invitation...?
post #50 of 79
Majikfaerie, I don't remember, are you still with your daughter's father or do you have "just" your girlfriend? It's too bad she's gone so away...! Did you manage to see her since?
post #51 of 79
Quote:
Originally Posted by Belodie View Post

How I hope so! She's so sweet and easy. Last time, she said: "Forget about that Chilean guy, he'll never understand what you're about. Now Spanish people they know what sex is about. When I lived in Madrid I slept with with half of my women friends and the next morning we were friends just as before"... I say: isn't that an invitation...?
Geez... where do you meet these women? It reminds me of the girlfriend Samantha had in Sex and the City. I don't know if she was Spanish, but she was "latin"...

Around here (cowtown, Tx) the only gay person I know is someone I happen to dislike. Unfortunately she's also my only connection to the gay community in this area. I haven't come out to her yet, though, and not sure I want to. I don't really want to bring our friendship any closer by disclosing personal info, because she's really just not my type ... friendship-wise I mean. So I'm all on my own here.
post #52 of 79
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Belodie View Post
[COLOR="DarkRed"]
How I hope so! She's so sweet and easy. Last time, she said: "Forget about that Chilean guy, he'll never understand what you're about. Now Spanish people they know what sex is about. When I lived in Madrid I slept with with half of my women friends and the next morning we were friends just as before"... I say: isn't that an invitation...?
sounds like an invitation to me

forget the guy though. workmates of DPs... too often gets complicated.

oh, and I am still 'with' DD's father, we are best friends, we live together, we struggle along this crazy road
well, I haven;t seen my GF yet, but she's talking about hitching down to visit, or maybe us going up there. and lots of gooey phone calls. but still, i miss her a LOT.
I actually slipped up last night, I was talking about some book we'd read, and DP was insisting that he doesn't know the book. I kept insisting that we'd read it aloud to each other, laying in bed... oops, that was with E
he was good natured about it at least.

nolimum
just wait, you'll be surprised how many somewhat closeted hotties there are around
post #53 of 79
I think this new friend of mine is one of a kind, NoliMum...
Spanish people do have a deserved renown in the Latin area for being very open and uncomplicated about sex. Now you still need to hit on them, and I'm thinking the key to this lady's "success" might well be that cuddly confident manner of hers.

You know, there's no reason why that person you dislike should be your only connection to the gay community. There must be other gay people, only maybe not so visible. You said before it was hard to hit the gay bars, and it's true, but still: why not give it a try? Or find some gay forum or magazine that could direct you to events, etc.

Maybe you'll find that not very romantic, but you know what my husband would say? -The hell with romanticism, what's important is reaching your goals. And you know what, he's right, and I'm realizing if I want something to happen in my life too I have to make some bold moves myself.

Be Spanish about it Don't be afraid that you never dated a woman before, just go and say with your brightest smile: "I never did it but I really want to try". There're tons of people who'll be just too happy...
post #54 of 79
Majikfaerie: you sure have a good natured DP!
Hope you get to see your gf soon... I know I would miss my dp so hard if we were to live apart. I actually don't know how I would handle it.

Quote:
Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
forget the guy though. workmates of DPs... too often gets complicated.
Yeah, I'm afraid you're right
If we ever meet for that drink we said we'd have, I guess I'll just talk about his breakup with his wife and make my eyes say: so you thought I was hitting on you, huh?

That's so unfair
I don't have a profession and I most likely won't have one for the next couple of years. I meet everybody through DH. So he can meet a lot of interesting people thanks to his profession, and thanks to my open marriage idea he can date them. But I can't date them because they won't get into trouble with him...
Nice deal, really.
post #55 of 79
Thread Starter 
yeah, thats tough belodie. have some cake
and don't worry, it was a long hard road to get to where i am with my dp.
post #56 of 79
post #57 of 79
Thread Starter 
so should we just change the name of this thead to "the belodie and majik chat thread" ?:
seriously, where is everyone?
post #58 of 79
I'm here. Just lurking because I have nothing insightful to add.

The other day DP said, "I saw this girl I thought you'd like," and I was excited, till he mentioned a threesome. I AM open to that for a fun one-time thing, but right now I'd rather have a real relationship.
post #59 of 79
Thread Starter 
that sound pretty insightful nolimum
post #60 of 79
Quote:
Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
so should we just change the name of this thead to "the belodie and majik chat thread" ?:
seriously, where is everyone?
I was on vacation - hoping that one of the female friends of mine who were there too would be a bit like belodie's Spanish friend..

Actually, it was a little funny - if I wasn't so shy, things might have happened with one woman - and if I wasn't against getting involved with intoxicated women, I almost certainly would have with another!!

Ah well....
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Queer Parenting
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › Queer Parenting › Bi mamas July 08