First, I just want to say thank you to you women. I was reading the timeout thread and it struck something with me. My dd (almost 22 months) has started hitting frequently lately. Just the other day while her dad was putting her shoes on her, she got mad (she wanted different shoes, apparently, though she had chosen the shoes he was putting on her in the first place) and she reached out and slapped him straight across the face. At that moment, dh (who is a big believer in GD) decided we would be doing timeouts for hitting. I've never been a big believer in timeouts so we haven't done them. DH was angry though and put dd in a chair for a timeout. She sat there a few seconds, angry, and I couldn't fathom how that was going to make her hitting wasn't nice.
Anyway, I like the idea of not making it a big deal. The thing is, I automatically get upset when dd's hits me (leftover feelings from childhood, on my part) and often react immediately. Nothing too big, but enough for dd to realize that hitting is a big deal to me. It's an automatic jerk and a NO! We don't say No to much, but when she hits it is such an immediate reaction that it's hard to squelch it.
Do you wonderful mamas have suggestions on how to keep myself cool? Like I said, I don't yell at my dd or anything but I am an emotional person and I often react without thinking.
I have Naomi Aldort's "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves" and I love her S.A.L.V.E formula, but I find I have a hard time with the Separate yourself/Self-talk part.
Anyway, I like the idea of not making it a big deal. The thing is, I automatically get upset when dd's hits me (leftover feelings from childhood, on my part) and often react immediately. Nothing too big, but enough for dd to realize that hitting is a big deal to me. It's an automatic jerk and a NO! We don't say No to much, but when she hits it is such an immediate reaction that it's hard to squelch it.
Do you wonderful mamas have suggestions on how to keep myself cool? Like I said, I don't yell at my dd or anything but I am an emotional person and I often react without thinking.
I have Naomi Aldort's "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves" and I love her S.A.L.V.E formula, but I find I have a hard time with the Separate yourself/Self-talk part.
