Things you plan to do different this time around. - Page 3

[Motherto4]

About baby buckets. I Don't like them they are to heavy. When my son outgrew his bucket I bought a evenflow triumph advance. It is so AWSOME! It was $130 and fits from 5-50 pounds. It is so adjustable. Instead of having the little slots tha tyou have to pull the sholder straps out to make it bigger or smaller they just slide up and down and there is a little nob on the side that adjusts the tention. I can put my dd who is almost 3 in it and then the next time put my son who is one in it and it takes seconds to make it fit right. I am going to get another one for my new baby. I Have a sling and made some Mai Tei's and love them both. My son didn't like the sling but my dd did.

[CellarDoor]

Originally Posted by sunnykbird

oh I fully intend on wearing my kid...talk about a fashion statement!
but on another note. did you feel you had to buy a lot of slings? do they wear out easily?

i am not into those ones that wrap all around you like a mummy but then again those baby carriers that look like a papoose seem to never support babys head...(am I making any sense? I just woke up)

It's not about "had to" buy, more like "want to" buy It doesn't help to have a bunch of carrier-crazed friends who are always getting new stuff. Actually, I ended up trading a bunch just to try new ones. It's fun!

I know what you mean about the mummy thing...however, once you get the hang of wrapping, you never go back, really: they are sooooooo comfy, versatile and some are truly beautiful (I'm thinking of the expensive woven ones). Avoid the Baby Bjorn and the like--they are not useful for very long and it's not good for baby's knees to be lower than the hip joint. You might like a Mei Tai (www.babyhawk.com) or a soft structured carrier (www.becobabycarrier.com). A lot of folks like ring slings, and they can be great but I prefer carriers that go over both shoulders.

Really, the best thing to do is to go to a babywearing meeting, see what you think you'll like and then buy one or two (used on thebabywearer.com if you like). You can always sell those that don't work for you and try something else.

[amydidit]

Originally Posted by nuwavemomma

Ah, yeah! How did I forget that. I'd love to never have another posterior labor again. I so didn't pay attention to that with DS. I heard he was head down and thought we were cool. I can only imagine how much easier it is to relax in labor without back labor, and how that could take a good stretch of the marathon out of it completely.

I know about Spinning Babies, and the "normal" breech techniques: Webster, moxi, version etc... What techniques/resources will you use?

My big thing is watching my posture. With my last I reclined a lot on the couch, would lean back in my chair while on the computer, etc. I really think that contributed a LOT to having a posterior baby. I'm really going to watch though.

[filiadeluna]

Originally Posted by MomtotheMAX

--Experience a Home Water Birth (my husband was never on board for HB, until we watched the documentary "The Business of Being Born." It totally changed his perspective, so I finally get my home birth for our last baby!)

I will be a first-time mom, so I'm just lurking in this thread, but my husband was convinced the exact same way! After watching that, he said, "Do whatever makes you feel most comfortable". Problem is, I'm not sure if our insurance would cover a Midwife at home. We'll have to see. Otherwise, it's a Nurse Midwife at the hospital.

[shanahan]

pregnancy - I'd like to eat healthier and work out more. I did ok last time, but I want to do better.

labor - I definitely want a natural birth again this time, but I would like to have a homebirth - prob. w/water. I am also consideing "hypnobabies" (did Bradley last time - but think visulaizations, etc, would have been more helpful)

pp - I plan to use our Arm's Reach co-sleeper from the very beginning, bf more, hold more, wear more (I didn't really get into babywearing until my first was much older), and take it easier. I want to cuddle in for longer - last time, I had to get ready for my SIL's wedding 2 weeks later, had lots of guests, and had to go back to work at 4 weeks. It was just too crazy and hectic - and although my son handled it all like a champ, I want to take things slower this time around.

[lila2801]

Originally Posted by filiadeluna

Problem is, I'm not sure if our insurance would cover a Midwife at home. We'll have to see.

Our insurance wont so that's why I'm having a hospital birth.

[peacelovingmama]

Exercise throughout the pregnancy, try B-6 for nausea, drink more water to try and avoid headaches, forego invasive prenatal testing... those are just the ones that come to mind. I'm sure I've learned other lessons along the way I'll want to implement.

[risen_joy]

Hmmm...

Different:
*REGULAR exercise
*Eat better/healthier
*Drink coffee first trimester - just one cup a day. Every time I got pregger and stopped coffee cold turkey I miscarried...so I'm not doing it!
*Try and make baby food...any good recommendations/tips?
*Have my parents or inlaws take the kids for 2 days so I can rest after baby is born
*Stay in bed for 2 days after baby is born!
*Co-sleeper

Same:
*Homebirth - LOVE it!!!
*Waterbirth - LOVE it!!!
*Babywearing
*Thumbsucking - it was great b/c she had a way to comfort herself and not "get stuffed" by overeating
*Cry to sleep once they are old enough - don't kill me mamas! We didn't do this with our first and it was so hard for him sleeping b/c he'd wake, need to nurse to go to sleep, wake 10 min later already be full but need to nurse to go back to sleep...and so on! Wasn't until I read "The Baby Whisperer" that I realized I was hurting his little tummy doing that! With dd we let her cry to sleep at 5 weeks (after making sure she was fed, changed, burped, etc) and in 5 days when it was time for bed she would just lay down and fall asleep!! ***Disclaimer: different things work for different mamas - this worked for us!
*Cloth diapers
*NO circ!!

[Photochef]

Originally Posted by lila2801

Our insurance wont so that's why I'm having a hospital birth.

And this same reason is why we're going UC.

[vanessab23]

addition to my list

thought about another--

i will try different kinds of slings/wraps (if I can find any here) and won't be afraid to cut down my wearing time (i was wearing him, my high needs whiner, about 5 hrs/day)-- I ended up throwing my back out when DS was 5 months or so, and that was torture. i had to lay the stroller in full recline and push him (me hobbling and barely holding it together) from the bedroom to the kitchen to the bathroom just to be able to take care of us both.

and yes I had my carriers checked to see if I was wearing them right (was still relying on my pouch, custom made my a girlfriend). i have a weak lower back and an old diving injury, and this was the second time in 10 years that I'd thrown it out. (did it again last year when he was 18 mos)

[mom2tatum]

with #2,

Same:
*healthy eating in prg, lots of protein
*Prepare mentally for labor and read lots of good stuff!!!
*breastfeed immediately
*attachment parenting
*EBF, CLW
*babywearing, nursing in sling
*no circ


Different:
*be calmer about EVERYTHING
*drink more milk (raw) and hope I gain better weight and grow a bigger baby!
*homebirth, hopefully waterbirth as well
*shorter labor (last time was 3 days with no sleep and really really HARD the last two days)
*go full term (poss IUGR last time, 4 weeks early and 4 lbs. 13 oz)
*chiro care the WHOLE preg this time
*try to get some fairly reg. massages as well
*labor alone more so (I think I handle pain better alone)
*no vax from beginning (we waited till 4 mos old last time before stopping confidently)
*try to avoid paci (it helped first with bad reflux, but hoping thats no issue this time)
* no swaddling! (I know this contributed to ds' sleeping issues)
* - try not to nurse completely to sleep if it feels ok doing so...
* no homemade purees this time, just straight to soft table food when ready to self-feed
*daytime cloth diapering (need advice on this though)
*not discuss anything but positives or non-controversial topics with family and friends who don't share my beliefs. This is a biggie for emotional reasons.


I didn't realize how much I really wanted to do different until I wrote this...I guess in my head I've thought about each thing at various times over the last two years, but wow writing it all down was NICE. I am so much more confident this time as I have truly become sure of myself and my beliefs as a mother.

Good thread.

[hippiemommaof4]

I dont really know but these are the things we already do and have done to a certain extent with all so

we'll be breastfeeding
natural birthing
cloth diapering
no cio
babywearing
cosleeping in room next to bed

different:
delayed vaxing
having a doula