I got my hypnobabies course in the mail over the weekend. I like it so far, although the book is written poorly IMO. It has a lot of ALL CAPS and bolding
, which makes it look very amateurish and just hard to read. (I used to be a writer/editor in the corporate world so I'm sensitive to that kind of thing!) But the CDs seem great, I like her voice and look forward to the daily relaxation time.
It's weird though- two of the doulas in my group contacted me to express concerns about Hypnobabies, since I'd mentioned I'm using it. Made me nervous! But once they explained their concerns I'm not worried- one of them is the whole "don't combine it with other courses," which makes it seem cultish, and I understand that. But when you read the explanation outlined in the book it does make sense. If the whole point is giving yourself only positive, calm images of birth, seeing a noisy Bradley birth on tape might send a mixed message to your subconscious. I'm not planning on going "whole hog" with HB, and just mainly want to use it for relaxing, not necessarily to put myself in a state of complete hypnosis or to have a pain-free birth. But I can see how if you were going all out, you would want to avoid exposure to the more typical scenes of childbirth. Their other concern is that it sets up the expectation of a painless birth, and can be disappointing if that doesn't work out. One doula had a client who had a long, difficult labor, and eventually asked for a fairly early epidural. After getting the epi, she said to her doula, "They said it wasn't supposed to hurt!" When she experienced pain, she thought it meant something was wrong, or that she was doing something wrong, and she got very discouraged and gave up. That sucks! So I can definitely see that being a problem, esp. for a first-time mom. But again, not a problem for me. I know labor can hurt, and I'm not expecting this one to be pain-free.
I suspect that some doulas might also have misgivings about it because it's so internal, and perhaps creates less of a role for the doula. It will be interesting to see how I will mesh the HB stuff with my own doula. I think it'll work, but I'll have to see when I see!