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post #1 of 16
7/7/08 at 6:22am
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I saw these on one of the many sites I've been visiting to inspire myself with better ways to parent. (can't remember where atm) They had statements like Children behave the way they are treated. It looked like the idea was to take a card from the pouch when you need insiration/hope/help with parenting
I *loved* the idea but they where 20$ money I don't have spare atm. So i figured I post here and see if we can come up with a list of inspiring one liners
One i remind myself with a lot is "he is a child let him be a child" I often forget ds is still very little.....
post #2 of 16
7/7/08 at 9:33am
I need a constant reminder to ask myself why I am telling ds "Do Not," and if I really mean it. Most of the time it is nothing wrong that he is doing, just something that makes more work for me, like pulling the pots out of the cupboard. So I really have no reason to tell him that he shouldn't be doing it, I am just being grouchy I guess.

So my card would say: "But why Mom? Why can't I do it?" and if I don't have a good reason then I should just relax and let him play.
post #3 of 16
7/7/08 at 4:01pm
The card I would want: This too shall pass

I used to have it written on the mirror, on a paper by the toilet, on paper by my bed, in my wallet, in the diaper bag. It really helped keep me grounded. I need to do it again I think with the way life has been going!
post #4 of 16
7/7/08 at 6:14pm
Let's see:

A tantrum is not a teachable moment.

Are they hungry, tired or in need of a hug?

Enjoy the journey, not just the destination.

Do I want to hear this same phrase back again and again?
post #5 of 16
7/12/08 at 7:23am
They are only children for a short while...enjoy them!

Treat them as you would want to be treated (or something like that)
post #6 of 16
7/12/08 at 8:33am
"Children always do the best they can" (from the Naturalchild.org website)

This is a big one for me. When my child is misbehaving it's not to drive me crazy! They are in need of something and I must try to figure out what and give it to them if I can.
post #7 of 16
7/12/08 at 9:28am
Quote:
Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post
Let's see:

A tantrum is not a teachable moment.
LOL - amen!


Quote:
Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post
Let's see:

Enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
love this one. so true!! i need to tattoo on my forehead!
post #8 of 16
7/12/08 at 10:12am
Mistakes are for learning.

Goodness from fear of punishment isn't goodness at all, but cowardice. (A.S. Neill)
post #9 of 16
7/12/08 at 12:44pm
A soft voice turneth away wrath.

Keep your head when all around you are losing theirs.
post #10 of 16
7/12/08 at 6:49pm
"What is the end result you're looking for in the big picture?"

I don't know how to word this succinctly but what has spoke to me in my attempt to turn into a more balanced - and less punitive - parent is knowing that I want my children to respond to my request out of love, compassion, and a desire for teamwork...not fear of me or consequences...because I've learned first hand that that only brings about outward obedience...and inward rebellion.
post #11 of 16
7/12/08 at 8:18pm
I listen to people who do not yell at me.

I'll be glad to discuss this with you as soon as the arguing stops.
post #12 of 16
7/12/08 at 9:03pm
It's only a stage.

Stop, breathe, and remember that you will laugh about this later.

If I don't want it to happen 1,000 times, don't let it happen once.

It's new to him, even the 1,000th time.
post #13 of 16
7/12/08 at 11:38pm
Do we really need to hurry?

A day of unhappiness is a day wasted.

Is this worth a fight?

If the kids are fighting, they are probably bored.
post #14 of 16
7/13/08 at 4:40am
Thread Starter 
Great ones Thanks :
post #15 of 16
7/13/08 at 10:15am
okay, i finally thought of two!! It's Okay to Change Your Mind

one of the greatest things that gd has taught me is that it's okay to change my mind about things....it will not ruin my child or confuse them if i re-think my initial answer & change it.

another one, Is this Really a Big Deal?

in our house, power struggles have been the most extreme over some of the dumbest things! so....is it really a big deal if she wears those shoes? is it really a big deal if he eats upside down right now? i find when i have flexibility in a lot of areas with my children, then in the times that i have things on our agenda that cannot be compromised or negotiated, it goes pretty smoothly and no power struggles exist. they usually don't mind doing what i need at all.

anyway, that's my 2 cents
post #16 of 16
7/13/08 at 10:18am
The purpose of discipline is to live life more fully, not less.
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