Comfy Babe Support Thread

[prothyraia]

Alright, who else out there is going past their EDD? How are you all feeling? What are you doing to pass the time? What do you need to worry/rant about? How are your docs/midwives (if you have them) holding up?


My mantra for today is: Trust Rowan! (my babe!)

[ivonnenyc]

Yesterday was my due date and it feels like I became 10 times more impatient and restless overnight.

A week ago I started getting pretty intense cramping during the night and thought for sure that meant the LO would come any day after that. Now here I am....still cooking a baby. I just want to have some exciting news to share with all the friends/family calling to check up on me!

Plus, now that I've stopped working, I'm incredibly bored. Luckily, living in Manhattan, walking a lot is a daily occurrence, but (never thought I'd say this) I'm getting tired of shopping (gasp!) and it's getting too hot for my poor fur baby to be trekking around the city with me .

Ok, enough venting. Thanks for the outlet!

[njbeachgirl]

I was due Friday, I have no signs of labor, I am getting a little restless and trying to find fun things to do with DD that don't require too much energy on my part In fact I filled up her baby pool and am getting ready to pop her in there for some playtime.

I will see my MWs tomorrow, they keep reminding me it's normal to go past EDD. BUT, they won't deliver me much past 42 weeks (I guess due to insurance reasons) so I am really really hoping to go on my own before then. Otherwise I'm not sure what will happen. I guess at that point they would want to try castor oil/herbs/ etc. I am a little paranoid that maybe my EDD was wrong (was determined by u/s at 11w 4d since I had no period in between kids since I was nursing). Or maybe the baby's position is affecting things- he or she is ROA instead of LOA.

I'm trying to be really patient, especially since this might be my last baby, but the birth pool is sitting in my bedroom mocking me. And I really want to meet this LO!

[JennaW]

I will be 41 weeks tomorrow. I am feeling really good still.

I am passing time by keep up on the housework, walking and hanging out with my Mom (who is off work until August, yay!).

Honestly my one and only worry right now is having to talk about induction with my CNM's. I feel very strongly that the risks of induction outweigh the risks of going past 42 weeks so unless there is a medical indication for induction, I will not consent. But just the idea of having to have one of those conversations and be the "difficult patient" is a little stressful for me. But I try very hard not to dwell on that.

I just keep reminding myself that having a positive disposition is so much better then being a grumpy pants, even if I could get away with it.

[JennaW]

Originally Posted by njbeachgirl

I am a little paranoid that maybe my EDD was wrong (was determined by u/s at 11w 4d since I had no period in between kids since I was nursing). !

I am right there with you. I wasn't nursing (obviously since this is my first lol) but I had been having funky period stuff and I hadn't had a period since August so we had NO IDEA when we conceived and my EDD was completely predicted by u/s at 11 weeks 2 days. I have heard even early ultrasounds can be off by 7-10 days. So the idea of actually having a whole "extra" week that I won't be able to use to my benefit sucks. I mean, the dates could be totally accurate but they could be off too. Unfortunately the medical community seems to think that 7-10 days is no big deal but for us Mama's who have big issues with intervention, it can be the difference between an intervention free natural birth and an induction nightmare. :

[yamilee21]

42 weeks tomorrow... even though the first thing I asked every midwife I interviewed was about her protocol after 42 weeks, I was really hoping not to last that long. Alas... Fortunately, my midwife is comfortable with my intuition and self monitoring, so we aren't talking about induction methods yet. I do wish the baby would decide to come out; the contractions that start and stop are driving me mad.

[njbeachgirl]

Jenna- I didn't realize they could be that far off. Although I guess I knew in the back of my mind it was possible- technology is not perfect! When I had my DD I was sure of my dates as I had been charting. Here's hoping it's soon for all of us! :

[BreezyMom]

I'm in the same boat. I was due on the 3rd. It seems like my DH and I are doing a better job of being patient than our families . Everytime I call anyone, they get really excited and assume I'm in labor. DD was a week late, so all along I've just assumed that DD #2 would be a week late too. My only major complaint is total lack of energy. It was hot and humid today and just unloading a cart of groceries into the car wore me out!

DD #2 seems to be completely happy where she's at!

Good luck everyone!

[firespiritmelody]

Me too... 41 weeks today. Over all, I'm holding up pretty well and have been able to get a *bit* of enjoyment seeing peoples expressions when I tell them I was due LAST tuesday. So, thats been fun.

I treated myself to a pedicure at a spa on saturday (even though I couldn't afford it at all) and then treated myself to a manicure today (not that I could really afford that either!) so thats helped my mood a little too.

Other then that, I'm just doing what I've been doing the whole time. I dont really feel any different then I did a week ago - felt *done* then too : ) and I'm still working but fortunetly my hours are very accomadating, seeing as how I'm the boss...

As far as my MW is concerned, She has to send me to an OB at 42 weeks for insurance purposes. She checked me on sunday (hooked me up to the monitor for a bit too) and the baby looks perfect. My fluid levals are fine, her hb is fine, my bp is fine etc etc etc. She did an exam and I'm about 75% effaced and strechy to a 5 and at about a 0 station. I had consented to a membranes sweep but she said my waters werent attached already, so there was nothing to sweep, so to speak. She said she's honestly flabergasted as to why labor hasnt started for me yet baby's just comfy I guess.

I'm really hopping things start moving tonight. Going to go for a walk in a bit and I'm sure hubby will be up for some nipple stimulation...

no one's pregnat forever... no one's pregnat forever... no one's pregnat forever...

[JennaW]

Has anyone else put together a list of talking points to go over with their HCP about refusing induction? I am thinking of doing this today. I'm try to decide what I need to put on there.

[njbeachgirl]

JennaW- Do you think they will start pressuring you at 41 weeks? Or do they seem ok with 42? I hope they don't start bugging you too much yet

[JennaW]

Well, I think they will want to "talk" about it tomorrow, I don't think there will be much pressure though unless I go past 42 weeks. At least that is the impression I get. My NP has said from pretty early on, if you go past 42 weeks "they" will want you to induce. But she also told me that I'm much more likely to have the baby closer to 41 weeks then 40 weeks, so I don't think it will be too bad. I just want to be prepared for the conversation, should it come up.

[prothyraia]

My poor husband has been bearing the brunt of the "What, no baby yet?" comments. Our midwife suggested today that he tell everyone "Oops, the midwife made a mistake, we're not actually due until the END of July!"

[JennaW]

I've got one comfy baby. I'm ready for her to start getting pretty uncomfortable!

At what point would you all consider inducing?

[Spark]

Originally Posted by JennaW

At what point would you all consider inducing?

Are you talking natural labor encouragement or actual getting bags ruptured, cervadil, pitocin, cytotec, etc.

I, personally, wouldn't do much natural labor encouragement beyond EPO, walking, sex, spicy foods, etc unless in my heart I felt it was needed. And, I've never really felt that was needed.

The one pregnancy that I came the closest to trying to naturally encouraging was my DD1's birth were I interpreted the prodromal labor as something wrong with me... that I was "failing" to go into labor. I was just emotionally miserable. So, went for a walk for 3 hours straight with no stops (this is an actual technique - walking 3 hours). I walked until my ctx were about 2 mins apart lasting 60 seconds. I was SO glad I did it... then I walked through my front door & everything stopped! I was so so so defeated at that point. I was just taking everything so personally. THEN, when active labor actually hit... I was so so so exhausted, I could barely do it. It was a fastish 4.5 hour birth from 12am-4:30am, but honestly, I could not have lasted one more minute. I was TIRED. SO SO SO tired.

I learned a lot from trying to encourage labor SO intensely during the end of that pregnancy & learned to trust my body to do what it needed in its own time. With my 3rd baby I did EPO but nothing else outside of living life (sex, good food, etc). And, when active labor hit with her, I was much more prepared for it as was my body. I just let go totally & she was born in 1 hour, 40 minutes. I was so very present & strong & capable.

Now, when would medically induce? Probably never. Unless there was a very very overwhelming feeling from deep inside of me that told me I NEEDED to... that's something not influenced from Dr's, MWs, nurses, ILs, parents or GOOGLE!

Wishing us all peace & surrender.