has anyone clw some but not all of their kids?

[gilamama]

has anyone clw some but not all of their kids?

i am pg now and i feel like i really dont want to keep nursing my dd is 2 1/2 and has her molars, so i feel like physiologically i would be ok with weaning.

i also dont really want to tandem nurse this time.

very conflicted.

i know inside what i think would be best for me to do (wean... shhhh...)

but it is so not what i "beleive" is the ideal.

it is also not what i did with my first dd so, i really have no experience with weaning.

[Lovenest]

I have no idea as I have only ever nursed one.
But, I have read alot of posts on here of preggo mama's feeling the same way and some try to keep nursing and make it through the pregnancy and do not have that feeling anymore and then some wean.

Hopefully someone who has been there done that will respond.

[gilamama]

wow only one response, but 38 views? i hate watching those statistics. i dont remember nursing being like this last pregnancy. i had thought i would tandem again but i am just not sure. i also have a breast abscess that makes nursing more uncomfortable and i have to figure what to do with that. homeopathy helped but when i got pg the hormones made it come back again. i dont want to do surgery.

[mommajb]

All of my children have nursed different lengths of time. Some of this is because I learned more as I traveled my parenting journey. Some of this is because they each needed it for different lengths of time for different reasons. During my last pregnancy I was encouraging one child to wean while hoping her younger sister didn't.

Breastfeeding is a relationship between two people. It should be agreeable to both of them. If you are not doing well with nursing while pregnant it is time for you to reassess the relationship and try to make it work another way. That may be weaning or it may not be. Perhaps you and your nursling can reduce the number of nursing or the duration of each session for now. Nursing during pregancy is not an easy road.

I hope you find an answer you are comfortable with.

[Benji'sMom]

Originally Posted by gilamama

wow only one response, but 38 views? i hate watching those statistics. i dont remember nursing being like this last pregnancy. i had thought i would tandem again but i am just not sure. i also have a breast abscess that makes nursing more uncomfortable and i have to figure what to do with that. homeopathy helped but when i got pg the hormones made it come back again. i dont want to do surgery.

Well, I just wanted to respond with a (((hug))), but I really have no advice because I never tandumed. With my first, he "weaned early" or whatever you want to call it, honestly because I was inexperienced with nursing and the way I handled nursing difficulties led to weaning right before 1 year. My younger one is CLW, but I never had to make a decision of whether or not to tandum and never had to actively wean.

[ma_vie_en_rose]

Originally Posted by mommajb

All of my children have nursed different lengths of time. Some of this is because I learned more as I traveled my parenting journey. Some of this is because they each needed it for different lengths of time for different reasons. During my last pregnancy I was encouraging one child to wean while hoping her younger sister didn't.

Breastfeeding is a relationship between to people. It should be agreeable to both of them. If you are not doing well with nursing while pregnant it is time for you to reassess the relationship and try to make it work another way. That may be weaning or it may not be. Perhaps you and your nursling can reduce the number of nursing or the duration of each session for now. Nursing during pregancy is not an easy road.

I hope you fnd an answer you are comfortable with.

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[Vancouver Mommy]

My dd weaned when I was 3 months pg with ds. It was totally her choice, so I suppose that's clw, but I also didn't realize at the time that there were things I could have done to increase my supply - I wish I had, because I was so sad when she weaned. She was only 15 months and I had really hoped to nurse her for much longer. I will nurse ds as long as he wants.

[Justmee]

I looked but I don't have a lot of experience weaning. Nechama weaned when I got pregnant, but she was only 8 months old so it wasn't really "weaning" more like refusing to nurse. Plus I was working so there were other factors there. Rena nursed all through the pregnancy and then quit when Rivka was born. Rivka CLW but she was pretty young (23 months). It was a true CLW though, no other bottles or sippys, didn't start solids early, I wasn't pregnant, never gave her limits, etc. She just never was a sucky baby (no paci, no thumb etc) so nursing wasn't something she held on to once the nutritional need was over. Sorry no help

[neostudded]

Hey, I am sorry your going though this right now

I know alot of pregnant breastfeeding mothers often strongly dislike breastfeeding and even wean there breastfeeding child even if they planned on CLW before strongly.

So I only imagine that it must not be a nice thing breastfeeding though pregnancy for some.

I did a google and found this sheet on weaning for you.

http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/weaning.html

My only advice is that you wean the breastfed child slowly and not to suddenly.Sudden weaning can cause trauma for a breastfed baby/child.I was five when my mum weaned me, she did it very suddenly to this day I have to say it was one of the most traumatic times in my life.I felt like my mother suddenly did not love me any more and it was very difficult.

[Ruthla]

I nursed my first for 2.5 years, and then we had a "mutual weaning". It wasn't fully mother led, but it wasn't exactly CLW either. This was a month after I'd accidentally let DD2 wean to a bottle, and it was quite awkward (for me) to be nursing my older child but not my younger. I wish I'd had the support to prevent DD2 from weaning, or to get her back on the breast, but I didn't have that information at the time, and it's much too late now (she's 12.)

Then DS self-weaned at 4.25 years old. I did cut him back quite a bit about 6m before he weaned (only nursing in bed) but he was in control of when nursing finally stopped.

When pregnant and nursing, I was just completely overwhelmed. DD1 was only 9mo when I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. I didn't really think about anything- just that she wasn't anywhere near ready to wean and I didn't want to wean her- who has energy for that while pg? Then I found myself with 2 babies- how could I do anything other than nurse them both?

I've never been pg while nursing an older toddler who might have been ready to wean. I think you just need to listen to your heart- do what's right for you now, in this situation, not what you think your'e supposed to do, or what worked last time you were in a similar situation.

[gilamama]

wow, i feel so bad that i never saw most of these responses and thanked everyone for them.

This was in the few days around when my BIL got married AND we moved.

Well around that time I stopped nursing dd2 at night. She woke up I told her no and she cried for abt 15 minutes (with me) and then asked for water and went to sleep.

She has napped inconsistently since then and if she naps at home i still nurse her. Sometimes she asks at random times is it nap time mama? She is 2yr 9 months, we'll see what happens when baby #3 comes in 2 months. I am open, I am the grown up and I can give in to her on this one.

[delightedbutterfly]

We were in this exact situation not too long ago.

DD Had gotten her 2.5 year allergy blood results back and they had gone up again and we were all stumped. DH and I decided that if there was any chance at all that peanuts were slipping into my diet even though I was being ultravigilant then we would start encouraging her to wean slowly. We had done the "don't offer, don't refuse" for some time but I just started making the "ba" a little more unavailable. And DH took over the bedtime and sometimes I would just be busy. However she was only nursing once or twice in a two day period and it slowly went down to once every few days and then I couldn't remember the last time she nursed and she would nurse again and then she lost her latch and started BITING and I told her they minute she used her teeth "ba" was done. And I really don't know the last time she nursed she just kind of stopped. She was never really that upset. And I've asked now if she wants to try some "ba" in a cup and she says "Nope, ba is for babies. I used to have ba but I'm not a baby anymore."

I too also needed that time and although I was gungho about nursing through pregnancy and tandeming before I just didn't want to anymore. However I really believe that she was somewhat ready. If we hadn't slightly encouraged it I think she would have weaned within a few months anyways.