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post #121 of 305
What gorgeous children. I am so so so happy for you that your baby is home! Wishing you all healing as a family.
post #122 of 305
Beautiful baby, beautiful family! Congratulations on your unhindered birth!

I'm so sorry for the horrible start caused by the hospital/social services. What a nightmare, you both are so strong for going through all the hoops and waiting games. I'm sure I would have tried taking my baby and running out of desperation. You are such wonderful parents.

Now go and enjoy your babymoon, you deserve every precious moment of it!
post #123 of 305
congrats on your new LO! Welcome to the world sweetpea!

Wishing you all some peace and healing from your ordeal.
post #124 of 305
They are absolutely beautiful....how old is your older dd? Wonderful pictures You know, this has brought it home to me how this must have affected big sister also.....I am glad to know everything is ok.
post #125 of 305
Those pictures brought tears to my eyes. Your children are absolutely gorgeous. ( Eq is too ). I am so happy you all are finally home.
post #126 of 305
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post #127 of 305
Beautiful children! I'm so sorry your birthing and bonding process was interrupted needlessly!
post #128 of 305
Big sigh of relief. So glad she is home. Gorgeous family
post #129 of 305
Lord, I am so glad to see you guys all back home and finally together. :
post #130 of 305
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(warning: contains graphic detail of a child at peace at long last):
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This made me all teary-eyed! Both of your girls are absolutely beautiful! Congratulations again!
post #131 of 305
Congratulations on your new babe! Such a beautiful name, your dc are gorgeous. I'm appalled at what your family was put through and hope you are all ok and getting the peace you need. It just goes to show how opposed people and the state are to uc. The sterile birth 'argument' is real scary, this is punishment and fear, their fear of our bodies, also heavy-duty control issues from the 'authorities', I'm so very glad you have Luna back home safe.To even consider a hospital sterile is beyond words.To consider our birth canals to be contaminated in some way is pure evil. Oh heck I'm mad at your treatment, so callous and also so insensitive and traumatic for you and your babe, looks like they certainly caused real problems for your babe in there and that is scary and not acceptable. Mama I would get some rest after your beautiful birth and subsequent unnecessary bs ordeal, it sounded like you had everything going just great, and then they come charging in to 'save the day'. I see you had to tread very carefully here, after you set foot in the ambulance anything coulda happened, shame on the dumb neighbour, their fear and ignorance shines through. All the best, have a beautiful babymoon despite the attempts to destroy it.:
post #132 of 305
Those pictures brought tears to my eyes as well! :
Such a beautiful family, at home where they belong.
I wish you all the best, and you are all in my thoughts. I hope you all find peace soon.
Btw- I love the name! My daughter is Luna Adelle
post #133 of 305
The pics are beautiful!

: that there is for your family.
post #134 of 305
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It is good to be home with baby. Despite some problems she brought home from the hospital (fussiness, latching issues), she is healthy and strong. I was so afraid of her catching a nasty at the hospital that I pumped colostrum like a mad woman to make sure she got plenty. Thanks to her big sister still breastfeeding, I was able to take 15-20+ oz at a time to the hospital several times a day. Nurses were really impressed

I must say though, despite the whole mess that happened, I really have to thank the nurses (minus the ignorant RN in the nursery. They were really understanding, nonjudgmental about my home birth, (in fact, most were impressed that my husband and I was so prepared and informed when I told them how we did it.) and very accommodating. They would give me snacks, sanitary pads, gowns to cover myself in the freezing waiting room, and let me spend more time with her than what is usually allowed. (you are supposed to just bf the baby and then leave They begged me to pump milk so I could go home and rest and promised to feed it to her. They were really concerned that I was going to get sick, since I was there in the hospital since Sunday night and it was Tuesday morning and I still hadn't gone home. Thanks to them, at least the experience was a little more bearable knowing there were people who were still human(e), as opposed to just automatons of the system.

Now we must prepare for a home visit/study from social services. Lots of things to clean and whatnot, since we haven't been home. I have a friend whose social worker is sympathetic to my case, and I will see if she can find out what I need to pass the home study. I'm not sure they will understand if I have a 2.5 yo sleeping in the same bed with mom and baby. I have a pack and play that I can set up as the baby's "bed", but I don't have a bed for the 2.5 because she's very comfortable snuggled with mommy. Fun fun. I will also find out through this social worker, if my daughter was supposedly a ward of the state, and I was not allowed to consent or refuse medical treatment, then as her guardian during her stay in the hospital, the state can pay for it. Not very fair for me to have to pay for something I didn't ask or consent to, you know?

More about this later. Thank you everyone that has offered help. I'll be in contact with you soon
post #135 of 305
I'm not sure they will understand if I have a 2.5 yo sleeping in the same bed with mom and baby. I have a pack and play that I can set up as the baby's "bed", but I don't have a bed for the 2.5 because she's very comfortable snuggled with mommy.

Beg borrow or steal a toddler bed until this study is over. Make sure its in a different room. This could lead to social services being in your life for longer!
post #136 of 305
Make sure you dd has a toddler bed, made up with sheet and a blanket, pillow etc. eta: look on craigslist, I'm always seeing good deals for cute beds w/ mattress and sheets thrown in on mine. You can say you have the pack and play for baby for now but you're getting a crib or whatever shortly. Have some food stocked in the fridge and pantry, and have most laundry at least clean.
post #137 of 305
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Originally Posted by JesseMomme View Post
Make sure you dd has a toddler bed, made up with sheet and a blanket, pillow etc. eta: look on craigslist, I'm always seeing good deals for cute beds w/ mattress and sheets thrown in on mine. You can say you have the pack and play for baby for now but you're getting a crib or whatever shortly. Have some food stocked in the fridge and pantry, and have most laundry at least clean.
: I totally agree with all the above. Also, would they make an issue of baby cosleeping? I also cosleep with my babies too, but I wouldnt want them trying to use that as an excuse kwim?
All the best
post #138 of 305
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Make sure you dd has a toddler bed, made up with sheet and a blanket, pillow etc. eta: look on craigslist, I'm always seeing good deals for cute beds w/ mattress and sheets thrown in on mine. You can say you have the pack and play for baby for now but you're getting a crib or whatever shortly. Have some food stocked in the fridge and pantry, and have most laundry at least clean.
I agree with this too.

Also, have some information handy (or at least be able to explain with scientific facts) form reputable sources about non mainstream practices that you do, that they'll notice, like extended breastfeeding, homebirth, etc. It will make a good impression- that you are well informed and know what you are doing.

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post #139 of 305
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Originally Posted by JesseMomme View Post
Make sure you dd has a toddler bed, made up with sheet and a blanket, pillow etc. eta: look on craigslist, I'm always seeing good deals for cute beds w/ mattress and sheets thrown in on mine. You can say you have the pack and play for baby for now but you're getting a crib or whatever shortly. Have some food stocked in the fridge and pantry, and have most laundry at least clean.
I looked at my local classified and have already found some toddler beds. I just have to see where to put it. I got plenty of food, my fridge and freezer are stuffed. I'm a hungry bfing woman! And the laundry's clean, if a bit a mess. Guess it's time to organize it eh?

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: I totally agree with all the above. Also, would they make an issue of baby cosleeping? I also cosleep with my babies too, but I wouldnt want them trying to use that as an excuse kwim?
All the best
That's why I have the pack and play, in case they think my big butt will squish the baby.

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Originally Posted by verdeluz View Post
I agree with this too.

Also, have some information handy (or at least be able to explain with scientific facts) form reputable sources about non mainstream practices that you do, that they'll notice, like extended breastfeeding, homebirth, etc. It will make a good impression- that you are well informed and know what you are doing.

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With how many times I've had to explain my homebirth, I've got my info down pat. I will have references on hand to show them though. At least I'm not going to get any flack for not vaxing. They said they know that they can't make me because of my religious beliefs, and I don't have to "prove" my beliefs because the US Supreme Court decision that supersedes the PR law that says I have to get a letter from my church, signed by a pastor or religious leader.

Did I mention how wonderful you all are?
post #140 of 305
I agree, beg borrow or steal a bed for the toddler.

I have a crib and a bed for James set up with sheet and blanket for this very reason. They never ever get used, but they are there.
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