I feel really sorry for you...this is a terrible place to be in! However, I've got to address a few things here where you are making yourself out to be a powerless "victim" where you need to take power back. Also some places that I think you are being unreasonable.
Originally Posted by Equuskia
After that, a social worker arrived from emergency services. He told me he was there because someone had called about us. They thought we were having a domestic dispute and that since I was pregnant, my "screaming" was my dh hurting me. Never mind that my husband was talking normally to me during birth, and my screaming was clearing a pregnant woman giving birth. So now my husband is a wife beater.
He went and talked to my husband, then went up to see the baby.
Most American women don't give birth at home (I have twice and am currently expecting my 3rd homebirth, so obviously I think it is a good thing...but reality here...), so why in the heck would you expect your neighbors to "clearly" know that your screams were from labor? What exactly would sound different about labor screams than domestic dispute screams--to an untrained ear? Try to be a bit patient here with the social workers--they are just doing their job!
|Afterwards, I find out that they are going to leave the baby in the NICU for FIVE days for an antibiotic treatment and tests and other bs.
So why are you consenting? Did they present any kind of a good case that your baby has an infection that needs such extreme treatment? You CAN check your baby out of the hospital "Against Medical Advice." If you plan to skip any vaccinations, you need to get used to the drill.
|So I'm supposed to pay a $1500 deposit for a hospitalization I never asked for plus whatever extra may come up, like my stay in the ER where I wasn't even examined by a doctor.
Ummm...yes, you did "ask" for the hospitalization by getting into the ambulance. You were under no obligation to get into an ambulance that you didn't call (or even one that you did call for that matter). If you hadn't gotten into the ambulance, you wouldn't even be obligated to pay for it, seeing as you hadn't been the one to make the call.
BTW...if your ambulance is a public service rather than a private company, you might not have to pay for that, it's covered by your taxes. In my area that is true in the "city," but the outlying "suburbs" are covered by private ambulance companies so residents would have to pay for ambulance services.
|This hospital is so incompetent, they don't even know how to fill out the papers for the b/c, since I gave birth at home and they don't know what to put in the information for me. I swear, you would think I'm the only woman to ever have given birth at home and walked into their hospital.
Again...try to be patient. They DON'T have homebirths coming to them a lot. It is a bit ridiculous that they don't know how to check off the box that says "at home" on the birth certificate form since its been on there since 2003...but try to be patient. You'll get better treatment from them if you treat them better.
I'm really not trying to be mean here...I hope that by helping you to think about these things a bit you will be able to offer a bit more slack to the people who just don't know what to do with people who birth outside of the mainstream. If you don't offer some slack, you are just going to make them keep fighting you.