Is 13 too young to get a nose piercing? - Page 2

[onyxravnos]

as others i'm sure have said take her to a real piercer NOT anywhere where they use a gun! very very important

[WC_hapamama]

Originally Posted by Individuation

I live in NYC (where many residents, of not most, have moved in order to work specific jobs), and I've never run across this sort of attitude to the small nose piercing that so many middle-aged women have. Never. Could you give me an example of a job that might not hire a qualified woman because she's chosen to wear unobtrusive, traditional jewelry?

Disney for one. Their theme parks have some pretty strict dress codes for employees. Disney is notorious for their ticky-tacky rules about piercings, hair and facial hair.

I've never seen a school dress code that bans piercings outright, but have seen quite a few that have quite specific rules that require students to remove jewelry from certain piercings while they are at school. Part of that is a safety issue though.

[mtiger]

Six Flags, too.

[ShadowMoon]

I had my first piercing at 16 (with parental consent) and it was my naval. Laws are different state by state. Piercings can always be removed and a nose ring when cared for properly will only leave a tiny hole. Make sure she knows how to clean it and also make sure it is done by a reputable source.

[ashcav]

I was 14 or 15 when I got my nose pierced, 15 I think, and I went to one of the best places in my area, just needed my mom with me and my birth certificate. It can be a pain to take care of, so I would make sure you think she can do that before you consider it, but overall I'd say yes. Plus it is such a tiny hole if she decides she doesn't want it, when I took mine out you couldn't tell I even had it pierced ever.

Oh, and for my job which it wasn't allowed at, I just took it out for the hours I was working and it was fine.

[maiaminna]

I would be concerned it might be an impulsive thing she would regret later (and piercings do not always heal well when taken out, either). However, she's your child and you can judge that better.

[Ruthla]

Certainly check local laws- but assuming it's legal, I'd still tread cautiously. I'd learn a lot about proper care of the piercing, and make sure she's aware of possible complications, the amount of pain/discomfort that's common even without complications, etc.

I'd also make sure she REALLY wants it done, and it's not just a passing fad. I'd wait at least 6 months from the first time she asked about it until allowing it.

If it's legal in your state, and she's been asking for a long time and hasn't changed her mind, then I'd probably allow it. I'm not 100% sure how I'd react though, as none of my kids have requested "unconventional" piercings.

[2cutiekitties]

I would have used the "if you still really want one in one year, then we will do it and make a nice day of it, do it the right way, etc. etc.

I personally dont think grades should ever be an incentive for anything, except because it is their job, college options, etc.

[rightkindofme]

If she is responsible enough to care for it, it's her body.

[ziggy]

I know in the four states I've lived in it's really difficult to find a certified piercer who will pierce somebody under 18. If they are willing to break that law, you don't know what other "short cuts" they will take. I was over 18 when I got all my piercings and tattoos.

[mamato3cherubs]

Originally Posted by Individuation

I would. If they banned all piercing. Jesus, Mary and Joseph, every time the piercing-an-infants-ears issue comes up, someone gets bent out of shape about how since for certain groups it's "cultural," it can't be argued with. Nose piercings on women are an important part of several cultures. How is this any different (aside from not being perpetrated on a helpless, screaming newborn)?

There is not one thing to differentiate ear piercing from nose piercing save bigotry. Sorry.

Was this post in response to my comment about not sending my kids to a school that banned piercings? I just didnt understand what you were saying here thats all.

I just stated my feelings on the school thing because so many mentioned them being banned. I would never have thought of that as there is no problem with any piercings at any of the schools in this area, so I was suprised to see so many do.

Oh and just because, I dont see any difference between the ears and any other piercing either. But I am one of those who had my infant daughters ears pierced, and no, she didnt even cry. Barely woke up.

Guess I have several years before Im faced with this situation as my oldest has no interest in anything of the sort. I have a feeling my daughter will prove to be different!

[guest^]

I voted yes.
But.....that would only be if .....
1) She gets it done by a VERY reputable piercer. Sterile and law-abiding.

2) She is responsible enough to take EXCELLENT care of her piercing.

If I remember correctly, tiny nose piercings close easily, w/o notice?

Personally, I prefer conservative piercings over tatoos and immodest dressing for teens.JMHO.

mp

[anne1140]

Originally Posted by Individuation

I live in NYC (where many residents, of not most, have moved in order to work specific jobs), and I've never run across this sort of attitude to the small nose piercing that so many middle-aged women have. Never. Could you give me an example of a job that might not hire a qualified woman because she's chosen to wear unobtrusive, traditional jewelry?

If you're applying to be a teacher, there is a high chance they will not hire you if you have a nose piercing. I am a teacher and used to have my nose pierced. I would like to do it again, but if I did, I'm sure I would get into trouble for it.

[wytchywoman]

Originally Posted by anne1140

If you're applying to be a teacher, there is a high chance they will not hire you if you have a nose piercing. I am a teacher and used to have my nose pierced. I would like to do it again, but if I did, I'm sure I would get into trouble for it.

I am guessing that depends on the state. I am a TA in AZ and I have a nose piercings, several other TA's have nose piercings and two of the teachers in our section, one of which I work for, has nose piercings. I think it depends on the district and the state. In the end, after the piercing is healed, it can be removed daily for a period of time if need be.

[treemom2]

DH and I have discussed this at length and have decided that we will allow our children to get one (or two of it's ears) nonsexual piercing at 13 if they have the maturity to care for it and if we can find a reputable piercer to do it.

About the teacher job thing, my DH has worked in three states (NC, UT, and NV) and never had a problem with his piercings. He now works for DODDs as a teacher and they also have no problem with his gaged ears. . .his supervisor also has piercings at the district level. However, once as a "fun" part time job I applied in the natural foods section at Fred Meyer and was turned down because my nose was pierced (but the butcher was covered in tattoos and hickeys all over her neck--made no sense to me at all, but that's another post)

[fork]

I really don't understand the people who are saying that one's future carrier has anything to do with piercings the kids get now. If they really want to work somewhere that doesn't allow it, it can be removed. I fail to see what the problem is. Sure they leave a small scar, but the scars from all of my facial piercings are barely noticeable, and the big scar from when one got torn isn't even that big of a deal. I would let her, if she is capable of taking care of it. Even if it is an impulsive thing, it can be removed later. I suppose if you have issues about tiny scars than it seems more "permanent", but I don't think it's a big deal.

[Pancakes]

Originally Posted by Organicavocado

No. A reputable piercer will not pierce a minor with or without consent. I will not go to a shop that pierces minors.

I completely agree. My piercer wouldn't even pierce my then 10 y/o daughter's ears. (first hole, not multiple) He said that he understood my desire to use him instead of some place in the mall with a gun, but if a piercer was willing to pierce a minor, run out of the shop screaming.

Originally Posted by Individuation

I live in NYC (where many residents, of not most, have moved in order to work specific jobs), and I've never run across this sort of attitude to the small nose piercing that so many middle-aged women have. Never. Could you give me an example of a job that might not hire a qualified woman because she's chosen to wear unobtrusive, traditional jewelry?

There are more employers that will not hire someone with facial piercings than there are that will. I think by you being in NYC you might have a more lenient environment.


I would definitely allow my child to pierce their nose. No one would do it, but I'd allow it. DH...that's a completely different story. I've wanted mine pierced for 15 years and he's always asked me not to. Damn it for respecting his opinion.

[PoppyMama]

I strongly disagree the statement that no reputable piercer will pierce under 18 even with parental consent. My husband is a piercer and is very conscious of safety and legality. He will pierce a minor if the parent gets a notarized signed release form. Now, he wouldn't do a nipple or genital piercing on someone under 18 no matter what their parents said.

[vegemamato]

I pierced my septum when I was fourteen.. (think alone, in the bathroom, safety pin, ow ow ow.)


and look at me!! I'm fine

anyway, what I'm saying is that I wouldn't mind my kids getting pierced at the grand old age of thirteen. like a pp said, she could take it out if she decides it isn't working.

good luck !!!

[ziggy]

Poppymama, in many states, including California which is where my perspective is from, it IS true that no reputable piercer will pierce a minor, under any circumstance. Other states may vary, and many people said that.