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Would you buy your son a pink car seat?

post #1 of 69
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Ok, so I dont' really care about gender roles... but yet there is a part of me that tends to lean more toward traditional when it comes to clothing or car seats. The thing is my son really likes pink. He has a hello kitty water bottle, he has a pink toy race car, and recently he bought himself a metallic pink bag.

The thing is we're picking out a new car seat, and I suggested he pick what color he wants. He, of course, wants the pink one. Most of me thinks ok, well we'll get that one. And another part of me is hesitant.

When I think about what bothers me about it... it's the other people thing. I don't have a problem with him liking pink. I guess I've tried to keep it within the generally accepted things boys can have that are pink... Which is tough is a world where boys are supposed to where camouflage and dump truck shirts.

So this just came up for me in the last hour, so it's kind of fresh. I'm thinking I likely would just get the pink one because I asked him to pick. And I'm beginning to think it's not like anyone is going to see it.

I guess I want to allow him the freedom of colors within a safety zone where he won't be the victim of other's comments or rude remarks.

What would you do?
post #2 of 69
Carseat I'd absolutely let him have it

-Angela
post #3 of 69
That's what my son would choose. Pink is his favorite color . I'd go along with it.
post #4 of 69
Fun fact: (taken from Wiki)

"In Western culture, the practice of assigning pink to an individual gender began in the 1920s. From then until the 1940s, pink was considered appropriate for boys because it was the more masculine and decided color while blue was considered appropriate for girls because it was the more delicate and dainty color. Since the 1940s, the societal norm apparently inverted so that pink became appropriate for girls and blue appropriate for boys, a practice that has continued into the 21st century."

Always found that so interesting! And, yes, I would let him have the pink carseat!
post #5 of 69
You're asking this in earnest?

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When I think about what bothers me about it... it's the other people thing. I don't have a problem with him liking pink. I guess I've tried to keep it within the generally accepted things boys can have that are pink... Which is tough is a world where boys are supposed to where camouflage and dump truck shirts.
In such a world, it might be tough. I wouldn't like to live there.


Luckily, we live on Earth.
post #6 of 69
Let him have it. Especially since you did say he could pick the colour he wanted.
post #7 of 69
without hesitation....my DS wore violet/pink shoes for months!!!! He has a pink blankie and rainbow babylegs.....
post #8 of 69
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without hesitation....my DS wore violet/pink shoes for months!!!! He has a pink blankie and rainbow babylegs.....
Uh-oh... rainbow. You know what that means.
post #9 of 69
I would end up buying it, too. It would be one of those situations with my kids where they constantly remind me about how I said they could pick the color, but then I changed my mind.
post #10 of 69
It would depend on how old he is, and how long he's going to have the carseat.

If he's 3 and you're buying a carseat/booster combo that you plan for him to use till he's 8, I'd go with something neutral. He might have a different favorite color next month, and might be really unhappy with a pink carseat when he's a bit older. If you only expect him to be in it for a year or two, or if you're ok with replacing it if he decides he doesn't like the color later, I'd get the pink.

We live in a conservative area though, and I know I'd get a hard time from a LOT of people if I bought my ds much of anything pink, so my opinion may be a bit biased.

ZM
post #11 of 69
Yes, there will be so much of his life where he may be painfully aware and teased (although hopefully not-people seem to be getting more aware) so why not let him enjoy it now when he can just really enjoy it without having to think twice. If people say anything to you just say that you are respecting your sons choices.
post #12 of 69
Definitely.
post #13 of 69
While my DH might not be exceptionally thrilled at first, I would typically let my DS get something pink (not that he cares about that stuff right now, he's 16 mos old). But as far as carseats go, I have 3 kids so we tend to buy neutral colors. One child's favorite color might be the next child's least favorite color so I buy beige. If DS wants to play with dolls or color with the pink crayons, that's fine by me. Right now he is in love with one of my 5 1/2 yr old DD's Barbie dolls, he loves to carry it around and stroke the hair. Doesn't bother me at all. The girls play with balls and dump trucks too. We have a train table and a ton of trains b/c my oldest was heavily into trains at age 2... all 3 kids play with it now.

To answer the original question though... for us I would not buy a pink carseat b/c I want all the carseats to be neutral to reduce fighting later (and save my sanity).

Beth

p.s. And yes, we have Barbies... I know. They were mine and I have to admit I'm rather attached to them. Cracks my DH up to see the gold and denim go-go boots and other crazy fashions.
post #14 of 69
I vote yes, let him have it.

However, I do think the previous advice about how long you plan on having the car seat is something to consider. Favorite colors do tend to change quite a bit from 3 to 8 years old. And sadly, gender stereotypes also tend to become much more amplified during those years too.
post #15 of 69
I was into all things "boy" as a child and wanted nothing to do with "girlie" things or colors. I'm still like that. If he really wants a pink one, go for it.
post #16 of 69
I would get the pink one. Personally, I would go for one that matches my car. But if you don't care and he does... well, let him get the one he likes.
post #17 of 69
yeah I probably would. Who's going to see it?

but personally so far I have taken the lame/easy way out and bought the carseat that suited my budget/requirement/space/size/length of use I want out of it needs and brought it home for the child on a shopping trip I took *alone*
post #18 of 69
Is it one of the kind where you can buy new covers? If then definitely would go with the pink he wants. If you can't change the cover and you plan to keep it a long time, neutral might have been best, but since you told him he could pick, I'd probably go ahead with the pink and deal with any issue over it down the road.
post #19 of 69
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Uh-oh... rainbow. You know what that means.
post #20 of 69
i say go for it! even if later he decides he doesn't like pink you can always get a cover in his new color choice, or you could get a gender neutral color (whatever...pfffft) carseat and get a pink cover.
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