Going Underground

[aprilsfools]

I have been lucky to say that I haven't gotten too many calls since I became "overdue" 9 days ago...and I think that I it is because I have a blog and I make sure to update it every couple of days. If they know I am not in labor/have had the baby, than they have no reason to call, right?

Well, not anymore. In the past two days I have gotten 6 calls. I am NOT a phone person (except with my Mom), but have been doing pretty good being friendly and positive answer questions and taking comments such as What is your MW going to do if you make it to 42 weeks?? Wow, that baby better come soon or she will be SO big!!

That is until I took a call an hour ago from my bio Dad. Now I should have know that I should not take calls from him on a Friday at 5:30 pm because he is a functional alcoholic and is really annoying and preachy when he drinks. However, I just wanted to get it over with and normally can just ignore all of him comment.

I won't get into it, but he was is typical drunk jerk self acting like he was all knowing about raising kids and I didn't know how much I was going to have to sacrifice by having kids. Um yeah, this is coming from the guy who was a crappy Dad and fully absent for 6 years of my childhood? Well, normally it is just easier to ignore these rants (and I am not the type to ignore stuff like this), but for some reason he hit a pregnancy button and I JUST LOST IT. I yelled, I cried, and basically told him I didn't need this right now and that he wouldn't be hearing from me until after the baby comes.

After I calmed down, I started thinking that I don't think I want to take anyones calls anymore- even the ones that are not from drunk family. So, I just posted on my blog that I am going underground until after the baby comes. I will of course take calls from my Mom (she is one of my rocks and is awesome), but everyone else can just wait or call DH on his cell.

I AM DONE BEING NICE! :

[lorelei]

I don't blame you, mama. Sorry that you had to deal with that.

There's nothing like being 'overdue' to have your babe and every one constantly asking/saying stupid crap about shouldn't you have had that baby already, are you having two, etc. Oh, and the unsolicited advice from people who have done a shit job raising their own kids is always nice too.

Hugs to you, I hope you can find some peace and get to hunker down and just chill until your babe decides to be born.

[catnap70]

I totally understand! I took 3 calls from my FIL in 24 hours and he isn't even crazy, just anxious! I have also considered unplugging the phone. I was only due YESTERDAY!

I hope you can find some peace and quiet.

[Mom2Lex&Cay]

Sending your way!

I wonder if we have the same Dad! Really, I totally understand and frequently find myself wondering why I answer when his # shows up on the caller id. I just know mine will be calling this weekend.

Enjoy the underground!! Hope you're able to meet your babe soon!

[Kidzaplenty]

I wish I had the courage to go underground! But I just have too much to do and keep in touch with. But I feel like it.

[christinespurlock]

I'm 12 days late, (due acutally June29th-but glad I joined here too) and I've stopped going into town and answering the phone. We just don't need the stress.

[HidaShara]

Funny what you mention about blogging... I have found that if I fail to update my blog (or Facebook status!) for more than 24h, the calls start rolling in! Keeping a daily "I'm still here, still pregnant" update cycle seems to keep them at bay.

Mind you, I'm not overdue.... yet.

I think you're doing the right thing though. We're under enough pressure at this point in the pregnancy without feeling like we have to "perform" soon for all the onlookers!!!

[mamamerle]

That is why we have never told anyone our actual due date. Just a vague 'I'm due in mid-August'.

[goldingoddess]

Dealing with alcoholics is no fun. Alcohol turns people into energy thieves, and that is the last thing you should have to deal with!

I'm with you on hiding out. I have had my phone turned off for over a week now, actually I did turn it on for a few hours yesterday, my EDD, and boy was it a mistake. I feel wierd because I don't want to have to apologize to friends and family for needing to be reclusive, but at the same time, I feel like I am being pretty rude by avoiding everyone (except my mom who is the only person in the world besides my DH who makes me feel good.)

I even hate going to the gracery store because of the attention and constant questions, I want to wear a big sign that says my due date and to leave me alone, and get out of my way! Oh god, I am turning into a troll!

[pazerific]

good for you for doing what's best for your health.

[prothyraia]

I've opted to go mean instead of go underground.

[aprilsfools]

Originally Posted by prothyraia

I've opted to go mean instead of go underground.

Normally that would be my response, but since I am trying to remain calm and zen during my late pregnancy, I find that avoiding might be better.

[Spark]

Oh, goodness, that just bites! there is NOTHING more annoying!!!

I usually change the message on my machine at 40 weeks. I say pleasantly (because I can still sound nice at 40 weeks!) "Hi, you've reached the ------ family! No baby yet, but if you'd like to talk about anything at all else, please leave your name & message at the beep." I find that if I wait until later than 40 weeks the message comes out something like, "You've reached the ------ family. Don't ask if the baby has come yet, because it hasn't. If you want to babysit or bring me chocolate, leave your message at the beep."

[Materfamilias]

Yuck, talking to alcoholics. I learned the hard way to tell them I won't talk on the phone if they've been drinking. Then hang up.

[Emily12581]

Hell, I am not ever 38 weeks yet and have gotten such calls every day. I know how draining it is and annoying. DH is under strict orders to ask what people are calling for when they call now...he is my screener

[KerriAZ]

I hear ya! I went "underground" as of last Sunday! I am getting tired of all the calls! I mean, I'm not even overdue! (But true, I WAS having PTL - even though now I have been off bedrest for over a week and NOTHING but before I was contracting just walking across teh dang floor to pee! I realize that people are just concerned, but I just can't take the "How are you feeling?" Um, PREGNANT IN JULY IN ARIZONA! I"M DANG HOT AND UNCOMFY! I stopped answering my phone. I even told my mother (I waited to call her when I knew she was at church, evil, huh? LOL) that I wasn't answering my phone! (She calls me AT LEAST eight times a day asking how I am - more on that in another post...) and she got all upset with me! (More of that in the post, too!)

So I can totally relate! I'll freaking call you ALL once the baby gets here!