post #201 of 205
7/15/08 at 10:06pm
Not asking a child to take a nibble before dismissing perfectly good food is loading on just as much emotional baggage as making that a standing request at the dinner table. Anectodotal example: My BIL is a 35 year old picky eater. He gets downright offended when he shows up at a family function and there is nothing that he deems acceptable to eat. It's gotten to the point where he sees someone's inability to bend over backwards to suit his tastes as a lack of consideration for his feelings (no, he's not vegan or vegetarian, just a self-involved turd). Because of this, he gets invites less than other relatives, it's just not worth tip toeing around trying to find things he won't object to.
Expecting your kids to be flexible, is not being inflexible yourself. And the argument that having some minor expectations for your family means you saddling your kids with emotional baggage, well that seems to be two way street. Placing so much importance on never eating anything that you don't love doesn't seem very healthy either.