ExhibitionistTRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!!
Be careful at swimming pools!
I am sorry this is so long. It really struck a chord. I am going to actually do two posts.
I don't want to be too scary, but I also feel compelled to share the following with you. Pedophilia is a paraphilia. So is Exhbitionism etc. Last year we learned that my husband's father is an exhibitionist. He is 59 years old and started at the age of 14 years old. At first, I felt dismissive of this somewhat. Don't get me wrong. I thought it was bad that he would show himself naked to unconsenting people. But I was also "relieved" that it was "hands-off."
As the last year has gone on, we've discovered alot more information. As part of his treatment, he had to write a sexual history. He shared it with us. He is an exhibitionist whose primary victims are 5-12 year old girls!!! 8 or 9 years old seems to be his preferred group. At that age, children know enough about it being inappropriate but are young enough to not have experienced it. The exhibitionist loves the shock factor. HERE is the scary thing. He has done some crazy stuff. He climbed into a yard one time to pretend to check an electric meter with a 6 year old girl in it and exposed himself. Another time he exposed to my husband's neighborhood friend at age 8 when she came over to play. I would guess that he has had a hundred or more victims .
Knowing what I know now, I would worry that anyone with this paraphilia could escalate to a hands on offense. One time he actually did grab a girl (12 or so) in a pool from underneath. Other times he exposed himself while in the water in a swimming pool. I will be much more cautious in swimming pools from now on!
The irony is I always thought of my father in law as good with kids. Why? Because he would play and have a good time with kids. He could get on their level. The problem was (looking back) how often he would prefer the company of kids to adults. I always thought he was just really introverted or lacked social skills with adults. Little did I know it was a sign of predator behavior. I have two daughters, almost 5 and 2 years old.