Do mws actively push away moms PP?

[agnieszkaj]

I had a PP appt with my mw 3 weeks ago. At that time, she said she would call me at the end of the week. Still no call. I left a message last week, too, just to remind her. I figured she must be busy and must have forgotten. So now - 3 weeks later - I'm thinking she is never going to call. I'm thinking of leaving another message in a few days, just to give it one last shot. Up until now, I have been able to really talk to her. And she has shared herself with me as well. She has been very warm and caring, of both me and my baby.

Is this her way of getting rid of me PP? Do mws just drop their moms like this and hope to not hear from them? And then just ignore any messages? I realize that she has pregnant/birthing moms to tend to, but there was a legitimate reason for her to call me.

It is so sad to develop a relationship with a midwife you really adore and then just be dropped like this. Is this typical? I actually have a PP recovery issue, but it is seeming like I will have to look elsewhere for help with this.

[nashvillemidwife]

No, I don't think this is normal. I admit that I sometimes have follow-up problems and will rely on moms to call me rather than checking up on them and hounding them to make an appointment, but I always return phone calls from my postpartum moms.

[meganmarie]

I felt this way about my doula for my 2nd birth. We had one pp visit during the week following my birth, and she said she was going to call to check on me and that we would potentially have another visit the following week. She never did. I had handed over her payment check at that first visit and I've always suspected that if I hadn't done so, she sure as heck would have followed up with me. It left me with a bad taste in my mouth, feeling a little abandoned (even though she did a fine job of supporting me during the birth itself and helped me have a very positive birth experience). I'm not sure I would recommend her as wholeheartedly to others, as a result.

I understand doulas and midwives have lots of patients and need to focus on where the next paycheck is coming from but maybe they don't realize how an abrupt severing of the relationship feels to the mom (who, by the way, might be a potential repeat customer!)

[Jenivere]

Gosh, not mine. They always welcome calls and questions months after my babies are born. One is a master herbalist so I call her for al kinds of things.

[Vancouver Mommy]

I live in Canada in a province where midwifery is legal, regulated and entirely covered by provincial medical insurance. My pp care lasted for 6 weeks, with daily home visits for the first few days, every second or third day for the next week or two, with a follow-up six week appt in her office. During this time they were on call 24/7 to answer questions, assist with breastfeeding and respond to emergencies (real or imagined from the perspective of a new mom - mine were mostly the latter).

[Mosaic]

Not mine, either. I actually talked and met and consulted with them lots more after mybaby was born than before! If yours has been awesome until jus recently, I'd cut her some slack and assume something else is going on before counting her out.

[jeninejessica]

Originally Posted by Vancouver Mommy

I live in Canada in a province where midwifery is legal, regulated and entirely covered by provincial medical insurance. My pp care lasted for 6 weeks, with daily home visits for the first few days, every second or third day for the next week or two, with a follow-up six week appt in her office. During this time they were on call 24/7 to answer questions, assist with breastfeeding and respond to emergencies (real or imagined from the perspective of a new mom - mine were mostly the latter).

*sigh* Add that to the list of reasons I want to move to BC. Here we're lucky if you even GET a midwife, unless you call before your positive test.

[Baby Makes 4]

Originally Posted by Vancouver Mommy

I live in Canada in a province where midwifery is legal, regulated and entirely covered by provincial medical insurance. My pp care lasted for 6 weeks, with daily home visits for the first few days, every second or third day for the next week or two, with a follow-up six week appt in her office. During this time they were on call 24/7 to answer questions, assist with breastfeeding and respond to emergencies (real or imagined from the perspective of a new mom - mine were mostly the latter).

That was my experience too. We were having latching problems and one day she came to my house for at least 6 feedings! I loved my midwives, I hate that I am high risk this time.

[Phoenix_Rising]

That was not how it worked with either of my wonderful midwives. I love them both to pieces and wish I was in better touch with both of them.

[Sage.Naissance]

I understand MWs and doulas drawing professional boundaries and not letting pp moms get too attached, however this doesnt sound like the case. If she still had a commitment to fullfill to you and did not that is unprofessional and not very nice. That being said, with my clients I see them post partum and am happy to answer any post partum questions by phone and do more followups where neccessary but I dont tend to continue relationships beyond that.

Speaking of which... I need to call some clients!