About the virtues being intrinsic.
With my three year old I will say something like "you have to find patience deep down inside you, it's there, can you find some?"
The other day she was very impatiently waiting her turn for something and I said something similar to the above and she was resistant at first and then suddenly she said
"I found some!"
and I said "what did you find"
"I found some patience. It was in my tummy"
kids are so funny!
I love allgirls' stories... I get so much inspiration from them.
It's difficult to remember to keep the virtues alive, to talk about it at least once a day... and to stay vigilant with our dc's in reminding them that these are parts of their character that are already there. I love the way allgirls references finding the appropriate/recommended/needed virtue inside. You go girl!