Originally Posted by transformed
We dont need it today. but soon maybe. but yeah, pride.
I wonder if you could weigh in.....whats more responsible - using credit to feed the family, or using a food pantry?
Tell your DH- FOOD PANTRY Using credit for groceries is part of what got us into the huge hole we're in now.
Originally Posted by mammal_mama
I'm sorry they're treating you like this! Any clue as to why they assume it's all you? Not that it's any of their business!
MY mother thinks I have expensive taste. Her words precisely. I do appreciate beautiful things, but mainly, I just hate spending money on things that fall apart with the first use. So I spend a few dollars more, and get something that will last 10 times as long. I don't buy expensive things just because they are expensive, I buy what quality I can afford. so instead of buying K-mart, I wait for the awesome sales at the Carter's outlet. I get more, better quality clothes for the same money. All mom sees is the label, and $$$$. My mom doesn't understand the difference between value
. She bought junky curtains at a dollar store, hung them for a year, and then COMPLAINED when she tried to wash them and they literally disintegrated!
My MIL just doesn't beleive that her darling boy (who is 8 yrs my senior) could be irresponsible, or unmotivated. So that leaves me, the high maintenance, childish, demanding, shrew of a wife.
: If she knew the truth- that her darling boy only has ever done just enough to get by in life- she'd probably have a heart attack and die. I don;t want that to happen! In a lot of ways she's more level headed, reasonable person than my own mom, just with different blind spots.
Dare I say, too, that there's a stigma of sorts in certain churches over women and money. there's always the assumption that somehow, it's the woman who's mismanaging things.