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post #341 of 412
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
Hey ediesmom! Good to see you again! How you are doing?

doing well! nice to be here....


i'm on my way to apply for medical and fs this morning. mine was cut off because my last employer refuses to give me a 'note' saying i no longer work there



i can't imagine who the heck came up with that rule. its left me without coverage for insulin that i needed refilled last week.

i am NOT going to apply for cash aid. the hoops are way too many, and i get more if i just live off my cs.

im hoping i have a job.....at a public housing complex study center. as coordinator. wish me luck.

have a good day mamas!
post #342 of 412
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
doing well! nice to be here....


i'm on my way to apply for medical and fs this morning. mine was cut off because my last employer refuses to give me a 'note' saying i no longer work there



i can't imagine who the heck came up with that rule. its left me without coverage for insulin that i needed refilled last week.

i am NOT going to apply for cash aid. the hoops are way too many, and i get more if i just live off my cs.

im hoping i have a job.....at a public housing complex study center. as coordinator. wish me luck.

have a good day mamas!
Good luck! And welcome back!
post #343 of 412
Anyone know if your 401K counts against you in IL for food stamps?
post #344 of 412
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
doing well! nice to be here....


i'm on my way to apply for medical and fs this morning. mine was cut off because my last employer refuses to give me a 'note' saying i no longer work there



i can't imagine who the heck came up with that rule. its left me without coverage for insulin that i needed refilled last week.

i am NOT going to apply for cash aid. the hoops are way too many, and i get more if i just live off my cs.

im hoping i have a job.....at a public housing complex study center. as coordinator. wish me luck.

have a good day mamas!
That's crazy! I have never heard of that, people lose jobs and I have never heard of needing proof of it!
post #345 of 412
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Originally Posted by CaliMommie View Post
Mama Poot~ I have had a friend pay for me to get my nails done for my sister's wedding. You don't know that someone on PA paid for her nails or clothes with cash aid. She could have been given a giftcard, or had a friend who did them, or even done them herself. And even if she did use her cashaid to get her nails done or buy a nice outfit, why does she not deserve to do something that makes her feel good? We don't know the full details of everyone's life, and we really don't need to. As I've said before, we are all doing the best we can. to all!
Right, we don't know anyone else's details, really. And we all know from experience that even when we attempt to explain our situation, it doesn't usually help.

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Originally Posted by happyhats View Post
I think it's hard not to judge others when sometimes we feel so judged ourselves. I know I'm not completely innocent of doing this myself, though more and more often I hear a voice in my head saying, "hey in there, you don't know this person's life..."

I know that some people feel that this may not be a good time to have a child, but things don't always end up the way you originally intended.
Me, too. I have to constantly remind myself that what I see is not the whole person. I can;t see people's hearts, only their exteriors. And how many of us have gone somewhere looking like death warmed over, thinking "I hope noone I know sees me".

We also can't judge when others have more children when we (in our infinite wisdom) think they shouldn't have. It's none of anybody else's business how many children DH and I chose to have. We all take a chance when we get pregnant that things won't be exactl the same as they are now, 9 months is a long time, and anything can happen, anytime.

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Originally Posted by mammal_mama View Post
I agree. But, as CaliMommie pointed out, sometimes a generous friend or relative will splurge on a momma who's going through hard times. And then maybe someone sees her using her EBT card or WIC vouchers in her designer outfit, or fancy nails, and gets worked up in knots over it.

I guess some wish we'd stick notes on our bathroom mirrors, reminding ourselves to dress crappy on shopping days. Of course, then we'd likely add fuel to the other stereotype about welfare mamas having no pride. We need to look cheaply-dressed -- but clean and neat -- oh, and make sure that our kids look even cleaner and neater than we do, or someone's bound to think we only care about ourselves, and let our kids run around looking trashy.

It's a tough order to fill! Good thing I don't even try.
Oh, I know exactly what you mean! My pastor's wife took me clothes shopping when I got pregnant with DS, so I had lots of cute maternity clothes for church, but hardly anything else. I still have most of what she bought me, and I know that my MIL was giving me the hairy eyeball because she thought I was out shopping while DH was losing his job. The only reason DS had anything to wear is that a friend from church lent me bags and bags of her son's barely worn clothing, and my MIL is still asking where all the clothes were that I bought for DS! Clueless!!!!

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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
and i have learned from experience how to shop for my very nice clothes. consignment shops, thrift stores....clearance racks. and a few very good items are better than a bunch of junk.
Clearance racks. . . I got a pair of dress shoes for DS last week for $7.36!!!!

I actually showed off a bit to MIL (to set her straight ) while she was helping me put out the new BB's clothes. It gave me great satisfaction to tell her that the outfits she asked about in an 'isn't that needlessly expensive' tone of voice, cost me $3.99!

Isn't that awful of me?! I'm not a freegan, and sometimes the thought of wearing other people's clothes kind of grosses me out, so I do shop mostl clearance, and I'd rather do without for a little while till I find what I want at the price that I want, so I have some very nice stuff that I paid very little for.

I hate feeling like I have to justify anything to anyone.


Anyway- sending off Medicaid paperwork tomorrow. . . keep your fingers crossed for us! I'm off bed rest, they said we're OK to wait for labor to start naturally. Yay!!
post #346 of 412
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Anyway- sending off Medicaid paperwork tomorrow. . . keep your fingers crossed for us! I'm off bed rest, they said we're OK to wait for labor to start naturally. Yay!!
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post #347 of 412

On a more scary/disturbing thought

With the way things are going in the economy, is anyone worried that there just won't be any money to issue our benefits? At first I was thinking, well, I'd still have my fin aid for school but then it occurred to me, that umm, duh! Those grants come from the government too! So for now I'm going to use all my skills to increase my stockpile/pantry and pray I never need to live off it but that fear is there.
post #348 of 412
Time had a quick comment about student loans in a sidebar to an article about how regular people were going to be affected by the bail out and the economic downswing. (Pretty good article too) Their take was that federal student loans have actually been up and it doesn't look like those will be much affected--no plans on cutting that area--but that PLUS loans, the ones the parent takes out, are a problem because they look at the parent's credit and other financial info, and like every thing else credit based (buying a car etc) it's gotten to be/going to be really hard.
post #349 of 412
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
With the way things are going in the economy, is anyone worried that there just won't be any money to issue our benefits? At first I was thinking, well, I'd still have my fin aid for school but then it occurred to me, that umm, duh! Those grants come from the government too! So for now I'm going to use all my skills to increase my stockpile/pantry and pray I never need to live off it but that fear is there.
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Originally Posted by tuppence View Post
Time had a quick comment about student loans in a sidebar to an article about how regular people were going to be affected by the bail out and the economic downswing. (Pretty good article too) Their take was that federal student loans have actually been up and it doesn't look like those will be much affected--no plans on cutting that area--but that PLUS loans, the ones the parent takes out, are a problem because they look at the parent's credit and other financial info, and like every thing else credit based (buying a car etc) it's gotten to be/going to be really hard.
I do worry about funding for social programs. I think those are often the first programs to be scrutinized and cut during lean times, which is really a shame because they are the programs that are needed most and really don't cost much compared to the overall budget.

I would hope these programs would be strengthened in this current economic crisis because I would think they would be needed even more.

I also hope it will make this country finally get serious about permanent social programs such as universal health care for all and better student aid programs, for starters.
post #350 of 412
Just checking in. How's everyone doing?
post #351 of 412
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Okay over here!
post #352 of 412
i'm doing pretty well. Thanks to going to the envelope system we've been able to pay our bills EARLY and have a little money left over. I'm looking anxiously forward to this raise in food stamps this next month. I lucked out and my pantry is pretty stocked, but after doing my big shopping I want to give a little to the food banks around the area for the holidays.

Mostly I worry what life will be like come February when the savings are almost gone and the new loan is coming in. Will it be there? I sure hope so, but considering hubs is pre approved we will have a month for them to tell us there is no funds and find work.

I have worried about social services being cut, but I think it will be the smaller services first, like grants for heating assistance, etc. Which I really need to look up because it would be a godsend to have it this year.
post #353 of 412
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Originally Posted by happyhats View Post
I have worried about social services being cut, but I think it will be the smaller services first, like grants for heating assistance, etc. Which I really need to look up because it would be a godsend to have it this year.
We have used energy assistance a few times, and it really helped us through some tough times.
post #354 of 412
I know this isn't strictly about public assistance, but it involves the same kind of stigma. I need to ask a family member for some financial assistance to get us through the next week and a half, because we had to do some car repairs which really drained us, and no matter how we juggle things, we can't make it. I am dreading this.
I hate to ask family for help. It is really embarassing for me. I feel a lot of judgement towards myself and my husband, like we should never need to ask for help at this stage in our lives. I know I should cut myself some slack. I feel not one bit of judgement towards others I know who have to ask for help at times, but I judge myself.
I'm just really grateful for our food stamps, because without them, we would really be in trouble.
post #355 of 412
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post #356 of 412
I totally understand where you're coming from, appalachia. I have more problems asking an individual for help than getting my government aide. Odd, huh. Hugs, and good luck.
post #357 of 412
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That's not so odd, actually. With applying for aid, the money is already there for people who qualify, so in applying we're just finding out if we qualify. When asking an individual, their yes or no is way more personal than telling us whether our income falls within the guidelines.

Welfare opponents tend to complain about the loss of the personal element, because they feel there's not enough shame now.
post #358 of 412
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Originally Posted by mammal_mama View Post
Welfare opponents tend to complain about the loss of the personal element, because they feel there's not enough shame now.
Oh wow. That's horrible. People on welfare have enough problems as it is.
post #359 of 412
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Originally Posted by appalachia View Post
Oh wow. That's horrible. People on welfare have enough problems as it is.
Yes. But there are those who think we have it too easy, 'cause we can just fill in some forms, and then we get our vouchers, or we get our ebt card and the money just goes into it each month -- and they feel we should have to repeatedly explain our problems to a live person, and then hold our breath while the live person decides whether or not s/he should give us the help.

I know it sounds sick -- but there seriously are people out there who think we need to feel shame about the help we're getting, and that if we don't feel shame, we won't have any motivation to improve our lives. So shame is supposedly good for us.

But shame really sucks. Whereas when we feel good about ourselves -- when we feel worthy of respect in whatever situation we're in -- the logical next-step is to start dreaming dreams, setting goals, and moving forward with our lives.
post #360 of 412
Very true, Mammal Mama.
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