Yes I fear CPS because we have had the unfortunate experience of having someone in our neighborhood call and report us to them, not once but twice. It is a horrifying and humiliating experience. I dont fear them in the sense that I have done anything wrong and don't want to get caught but I fear what they can do to families. It was nothing really serious and once the social worker came and went through everything she closed the case because the information was unfounded and no wrongdoing was found. Then just as we were getting over the shock of it and moving on I get another phone call from the social worker with the bad news that someone called on us again! I started crying immediately saying that this was very unfair to us and asked if it was the same person. Of course she could not tell me that (and I do not know who did it the first time) and reminded me that they do take note if its the same person calling in each time. So she has to come out again and again it will be closed because we did absolutely nothing wrong and we know it and have nothing to hide. Yet it still is a painful thing to have your parenting skills questioned to that extreme. We just moved into this neighborhood in March and our children are 7 and 3. I fear how much this can happen to us and how much we can endure as it is such a horrific thing for us to go through. We wonder what recourse we have and what we can do to protect ourselves from this other than completely shut ourselves off from people in the neighborhood. In my heart I believe it is an overzealous person or someone who just has it out for us. But it is very disheartening when it is so uncalled for. So it is a very real fear that will always be in the back of my mind whenever my kids play outside, get hurt or anything they say that could get misconstrued by the wrong person. I myself am a mandatory reporter and I would be very careful with anything I ever reported. It would have to be so blatent and obvious and fall into the category of neglect or abuse or risk to the child. I would never report on anything I heard from a 2nd or 3rd party that I myself did not hear or witness or my child was not involved in.
I had the same thing happen to me because of my husband which is why I left him.....it is terribly embarrassing that is for sure. In his case, he is guilty of stupid parenting. The first time, I had to go to the emergency room because of hyperemesis (I am now 8 months pregnant) and while I was in the e.r....there was an incident. Dd1 tried to run into traffic and he actually grabbed her by the hair to pull her back to safety....and yelled at her....a lady saw him yelling but didnt know she ran into traffic and he made the bad decision to yell at her too so she called CPS. I gave him hell for it ( I am the primary caregiver and I had her try to run into traffic one time and I had to pull her back....needless to say it was not by the hair). The next time CPS actually told us the person was wrong to call them but they have to automatically investigate which I understand but is still embarrassing. We were at the YMCA to take the kids swimming (I was just watching outside since I cant go in the water) and he did a stupid thing I told him for 4 years not to do....he lifted (mind you it was gentle but u just dont do it) dd2 by one arm to move her from his left side to his right side not in anger but slowly so the lifeguards reported him to CPS. I should also add that they were already ticked off because they had to keep reminding him to stay in the same pool with both daughters. I talked to CPS about it (thankfully they came to me alone but are going to visit him on Monday to see him apparently) and told them some of the irresponsible things he has done:
1. Leave dd1 in supermarket toy section alone while he shops
2. Tried to leave them alone outside to play in backyard close to traffic with no supevision
3. Tried to go without car seat
The list goes on....Needless to say none of the above things happen because I put my foot down when I found out and I never left them alone with him. You should be able to leave your children safely with your husband kwim? I left because he was refusing to meet with CPS which u just dont do. All they want to suggest to him is maybe a parenting course for him. I just left because I am afraid they will try to take my children from me even though they have been called about his behavior...I am still his wife kwim?.........even though they seem to think the problem is him and it is not an abuse situation but very bad parenting skills. So yeah, I am afraid of CPS now though I know on my own there will be no problems.