Originally Posted by gini1313
If they are uncomfortable with stuff like that, why don't they make a family changing room???
I asked this question at our Y when they put the rule for 7 and up having to go to appropriate gender locker room. The thinking was that a family changing room had to have some sort of stalls for most people's comfort (and I would agree -- I don't want to see some strange guy and I don't want a stranger father looking at me!) That meant that there were now hidden spaces where you would expect to see more than one person at a time, making it *easier* for someone to do something inappropriate without people taking notice. And I guess it makes sense -- man takes boy into changing stall or family changing room. Boy cries/shouts/screams. Is he being punished, doesn't like having his hair brushed, having a temper tantrum or being molested? Most people would probably assume it was dad and son (even if it wasn't) and not get involved. In the existing locker room setup there would be less privacy and thus if it were something icky someone would be more likely to notice.
Now, I'm not sure that applies to restrooms, but I can see the logic on locker rooms. I think there aren't any really good solutions so people patch together what works for them. For me, by 7 my son was ready to use the men's changing area comfortably and we are OK with the rules. For moms that aren't there are single-sex, single-stall restrooms on the pool deck where boys can change with mom standing outside the door and on-deck showers where boy could rinse (no soap, swimsuit on) off.