Originally Posted by hparsh
I've even thought of giving the nieces and nephew on his side money in a little red envelope for Chinese New Year (a tradition in our family), just for fun, but then thought to myself, why would I do that?
BECAUSE, this is exactly the prime way to introduce your traditions into the family!!!! YES you should do this, the kids would love it, it would grab their interest and it would educate in a fun way..
who cares what they think??? you need to be you no matter how different it is for them.....
I am an outsider in my choice not to vaccinate, and while I am selective now about who I share that with (because i found it to be a waste of breath and time to tell tons of people), I didnt used to be... and while it was scary, it felt great to be different...... I LOVE different, my son is like the only 2nd grader in his school with long hair.... my kids are prolly the only ones in our school that are not vaccinated....
While being different can be scary it can also be a great way to educate others. YOu have to be who you are... and sometimes the more people learn about your differences, the more they are willing to share with you THEIR differences... this is what I have found.
I know it sounds like they aren't interested and maybe "they" (the mil, the adults??) aren't, but you can absolutely grab the interest of the kids and educate them, teach them and that can be a great part of your son learning and having his culture in his life.
I know we were all very pleased when my friends wife introduced us to Totoro!!! My kids LOVE that cartoon!! We had Kiki's Delivery Service but I didnt realize that there were more!!
I am white and I have to say that I am very interested in other cultures. I live in an area that is mostly white and I love to watch programs on television about other cultures. I dont believe that the color of ones skin makes you better or worse, but when you dont live in an area that is highly mixed, or when you arent a minority, you dont know how to approach differences, except to ignore it!!!! I mean really, i dont KNOW what to say, what to ask... when I say things to one of my white friends, she is aghast and im like, well i guess i better not say that in front of my lesbian friend because maybe she would be offended?? I DONT KNOW!! It doesnt matter what the difference is, but because race and sexual preference are such highly charged subjects and you dont know how that particular person is feeling, or how that person has been treated or whether or not maybe they have something against me for being a straight, white female in a mostly white anglo saxon populated area....... how do I know that my questions arent offensive?? My interest is always there, but its rare that people just start talking about those things because they dont know how I feel! ITs horrible, it really is. I hate it... I sometimes just want to say, I just LOVE the color of your daughters skin!!! or She has the most beautiful Asian features!!! or Im so glad that you felt comfortable enough with me to share with me that you are a lesbian, I think its wonderful that you are being true to yourself and we need more people like you around here!!!
Seriously? I think people would write me off as having bad taste, tell me off, or laugh in my face...
I was watching a show last night about celebrity baby nurseries (yes I was, guilty pleasure), and one of the rooms had a beautiful wall mural and it happened to be a black family and on the wall were brown skinned fairies and angels... i noticed. But when the lady that was talking about the room mentioned them as "brown skinned fairies and angels" I immediately was shocked, until I realized the lady that was talking was in fact brown skinned herself and I seemed to feel better about it... why is that?