Originally Posted by veronicalynne
Hmmmm....maybe she doesnt like to see her "baby" in pain? Yeah, there are some people who would prefer to be totally pain free which is fair....but she needs to respect that this is YOUR birth not hers and you will do what you feel is right for you. It must be hard for mothers to know and deal with the fact their daughters are going to be in pain when they are in labor. I am weird that way....my older dd1 is only 3 1/2 and I wonder sometimes how I will deal with it one day but that is my problem. As far as I am concerned, when our children become adults we have to let them live their lives and do what they feel is best for them kwim? And support them with their decisions. I have personally never heard of anyone who said pitocin induced labor and natural labor were the same
Yeah I can see that.
I want to show my mom that I CAN DO IT.- Obviously, I mostly want to show myself that I can do it, but I also want to show her.
Lately over the phone, she has constantly compared our (hers and mine) pain threshhold and how alike they are. She said, "If it felt all the same with me- pitocin and natural- it will be the exact same for you"
I really don't want to believe that.
This time, I'm going into labor (finally) with a positive attitude
: - knowing that birth hurts but that I can handle anything that is set before me and it will always hurt as much as I think it will.
(I like my new attitude- my attitude with my first was "Anything less than a natural, not very painful, intervention-free birth will make me a failure" so my postpardum recovery was massive because of my utter disappointment/depression about the delivery and myself.)
My point is, I'm hoping to be able to tell my mother after labor and delivery, "It wasn't that bad compared to the first! I knew I could do it" mostly because it's a reaction she does NOT expect to hear from her daughter.
(I should also note- she won't be there for many reasons but mostly because someone needs to watch my toddler)
Anyhow, and yes she does not like to see her "baby" in pain. That's why she won't be there this time
Her AND my father (who I specifically said couldn't be there but showed up anyway
were begging the midwives to give me an epidural and telling me to as well.
If it's too hard on my mom to see me in pain- I don't want the stress of seeing my mom stressed out that I'm in pain, ya know? It's one less stress I want to have to deal with. I'm aldready stressed beyond reason thinking about when I go into labor and her having to watch my son who does not like her because she's never liked him either.