Mods: where's april 2009? :) - Page 9

[Leav97]

Originally Posted by CatholicBFMama

Where the heck is our DDC???

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Has anyone heard what the hold up is?

[MaryTheres]

May I join?

Count me in ladies! Due date is April 7, 2009!:

[carolhagan]

Yeah, what's the hold up??

[smocklets]

yeah, for a bunch of pregnant women we have been pretty patient!

[wobblykate]

Huh! We just had this biometrics health screening at my work and I guess I haven't gained any weight. I thought for sure I'd gained a pound or two, but these folks have accurate scales, so...

On the bad side, I've been eating super healthy and exercising since January and my good cholesterol has gotten really low. WTF?!?! Totally not fair. I've got to double my intake of fish oil. UGH.

BTW- Anyone else's cramps worsen when they're over-tired? Just curious...

[NicoleWisconsin]

I'm sorry, I wasn't saying that we couldn't be bloated or showing because our babies were the size of sesame seeds... they were two separate thoughts. (that I was getting a belly before and the sesame seed comment) I love reading the pregnancy sites and figuring what is going on.

With my first, I was in maternity at 14 weeks... I have read that women that have had children before show faster because the muscles aren't taut... and even if our babies are only sesame seed sized, there's still uterus pushing up and making everything else push out.

YES. my cramps are worse if I'm tired or working.. back ache as well. I must say that I'm not having near the amount of cramping that I did last week. Count me in as another whos symptoms come and go. 28 days until my ultrasound...

I must admit that I am in complete admiration of those of you that are having UP/UC... your faith in yourselves and bodies is amazing to me.

[Annie0727]

Ugh

I tested over the weekend because I wanted my DP to get to have the experience of seeing that line come up (he didn't see the first one). It went fine and he loved it. Then I tested again this morning -- on a whim, I guess -- and it was negative. :

I know it could mean nothing, but I am so scared that it means my little blastocyst is gone. I want so much to have this baby. I haven't started my period, so hopefully everything's okay. I called my doctor and went in for a blood test this afternoon. I was so nervous, and the nurse very kindly told me I could call the after-hours number and get the results, but when I called, the after-hours nurse said she can't give me the results. I have to wait until I talk to my doctor tomorrow morning. I know in the grand scheme of things this is not that long to wait, but I am feeling so angry that they jerked me around like that when I'm already so wound up and worried.

[Pregnant_Midwife]

Joining in! I'm due April 5th with my 3rd babe. I'm a homebirth midwife... and will be blessed to have a sister midwife attend my homebirth.

As far as sharing the news, I called my mom (who was on vacation) on her birthday, and said, "I have a present I want to give you today." She was confused as to how I could possibly give her a gift over the phone. I then told her "You're going to be a grandma again." She was over the moon.

As far as my in-laws, I found a fabulous photo-frame months and months ago that I bought that says GRANDKIDS... and each of the 9 letters is cut out of the wood to put a picture in. At the time, I thought it'd make a good birthday/christmas gift. But, now it will serve as our announcement.

I didn't put it together when I bought the frame, but my in-laws have 7 grandkids so far (G-R-A-N-D-K-I) and my SIL is due very soon (D) and I'll stick a picture of the pregnancy test in the last frame (S)! We're going to dinner this week and will give it to them then.

I'm not announcing it to my local community or clients yet, as I'm only 5 weeks. Still debating when and how to tell clients. And I have to figure out how long I want after this babe is born before I start taking due dates again....

Happy healthy pregnancies to everyone here! I can't wait for MDC to get our DDC going!

[JenMidwife]

This is a pregnancy after loss (PAL) for me too. I lost my son @ almost 23 weeks after a very scary roller coaster pregnancy if you're interested, there's a link to my story in my siggy). It has been the hardest thing I've ever done. July, the month we all conceived, actually would have been the month of my due date- so it's really nice to be here with you all now : Fortunately, I saw a perinatologist & he said that it is unlikely to repeat itself & I don't have any greater risk than the average mom for future pregnancies.

Anyway, I bet we will all be a great source of strength to eachother. If you're interested, there is a forum dedicated to PAL here

Originally Posted by iluvmybabies

My mother-in-law said it that bloating occurs in early pregnancy beacuse of the hormones- I assume that that is why I have a little pooch- probably similair to pms bloating. I haven't gained any weight yet, but I only weigh about 100 pounds so any bloating is alot of bloating for me . :

yep, that's true & as the uterus grows, first it will be our lovely intestines sticking out before the uterus itself actually rises into the abdomen at the end of the first trimester

[Pregnant_Midwife]

JenMidwife -- It's good to see another pregnant midwife here! I just posted a question over in Birth Professionals about telling clients, taking a break from due dates, etc. I'd love your input too, if you get a chance to pop over there.

I read Owen's story and my heart goes out to you. I hope your journey with this pregnancy is a peaceful and healing one.

[ms.shell]

someone asked who has names. We have agreed for sure on 1st names for a girl and a boy and have ideas about middle names as well.

i saw the ob today. i wanted to wait but crampiness has had me worried. the doctor didn't say too much other than that we can do an ultrasound next week (weds) to put my mind at ease. and he sent me home with the new pg kit- vitamin samples and lots of baby magazines. i took this as a good sign, thinking if he felt it was doomed he wouldnt have done that.
also, i had a big loose bm (tmi-sorry) and since then the crampiness has disappeared, so maybe it was just bowels not my uterus hurting. will feel much better to see a hb next week tho. got my edd, too- april 7.

hoping to see a ddc tomorrow!

[acp]

Originally Posted by Leav97

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Has anyone heard what the hold up is?

This seems really odd to me too. I PM'd the mods last week, and was told they couldn't put up a DDC, only the admins could. So I PM'd both admins and didn't hear anything back. I'm sure others have written to them too. We're pretty far into April due dates for them not to have it up.

Someone asked about nursing toddlers - I'm still nursing our 14-month old, though it cut back a lot once I introduced cow's milk (mostly in an attempt to get myself fertile again - I guess it worked!). Right now it's going fine, and I plan to continue, though I'm not sure for how long. I admire those of you who tandem nurse, but I'm not sure that's something I'm up for. We'll see... Lots of questions about the coming months!

As for telling people - I've told a couple good friends (who are also pregnant) so far, in addition to our parents, but they were people I would also share a loss with, if that were to happen. I figure we'll start telling a few more as I progress in the first trimester, but wait to share our news with most people until after the first trimester has passed.

[carolhagan]

We told everyone... but we have been TTC for four years, so we couldn't hold it in any longer!

[CatholicBFMama]

Originally Posted by NicoleWisconsin

With my first, I was in maternity at 14 weeks... I have read that women that have had children before show faster because the muscles aren't taut... and even if our babies are only sesame seed sized, there's still uterus pushing up and making everything else push out.

I grew out of my maternity jeans before the end of my last pregnancy, but as my wardrobe has evolved since then to flowy, long, peasant-y skirts and tops I'm not so worried about that this time around. At least now I have an excuse not to suck in my stomach all the time.

[scrapadoozer]

Originally Posted by wobblykate

BTW- Anyone else's cramps worsen when they're over-tired? Just curious...

Yes when I am overtired and when I just plain over do it. I take that as my cue to go sit down for a spell.

[katiedidbug]

Originally Posted by veiledexpressions

Katie,
My symptoms would come and go with all three of my pregnancies in the beginning. Don't worry. *hugs*

Thanks. I feel more optomistic now; I was just really down on myself earlier.

Originally Posted by wobblykate

I have a (large) drawer full of baby clothes. Just cool stuff I've picked up at thrift stores over the last year or so. I've got a mix of boy, girl and unisex. I figure whichever we end up having, I'll pass the other gender-specific stuff on to someone else. I've also got two nephews' and one niece-worth of hand-me-downs coming!

katiedidbug--Please don't loose hope, dear. I think many of us have coming-and-going symptoms. Hang in there.

Thanks, mama.

Originally Posted by Leav97

I lost a baby at 5 weeks in the end of Feb. It does make it harder to be optimistic. Especially since I'm now 5 weeks again.

I don't want to find out sex but, I'm convinced it's a girl. I'm not sure if I'll be able to hold out during the u/s. This baby will be born in a hospital. My insurance will not cover a homebirth. I'm trying to decide if I want to use my FP Dr or use one of the midwifes. I've only meet my Doc a couple of times but, I like her. The midwifes are all supervised by the OB's and only do hospital births.

So sorry for your loss, mama. You're very lucky that MWs can deliver at your hospital. Where I am, there are absolutely no MWs that could possibly deliver in a hospital. The OBs have the corner on the market.

Originally Posted by secondimpression

I'm also pregnant after a miscarriage. Lost the baby at 9 or 10 weeks but didn't deliver until 17 weeks. The miscarriage fear this time around is no greater than it was last time before I knew I was going to lose my baby. I guess I'm unusual in that respect though.

As far as buying things, well I didn't exactly buy anything yet. Last month, I saw a posting on Craigslist for 30 free used cloth diapers and pounced before it got flagged. They're still in a bag out in my car, but I'm assuming they're prefolds. Not sure what kind of condition they're in since the lady who gave them to me said they'd been in her attic for 15 years. But you can't beat free, right?

Are anyone else's non-human children jealous yet? My 10 month old kitten suddenly will NOT leave me alone. He's making it very clear that he was here first lol

Before I had DS, I was obsessed with my dog; now, I can't stand him and am trying to get rid of him, lol.

Originally Posted by CatholicBFMama

Yay, I'm finally here! Where the heck is our DDC???

I just got my BFP this morning, so of course I had to drive down to Dollar General and buy 5 of the $1 tests to use for the next few days.

I have a beautiful DD who will be 2 next month, and I am very excited that I will miss the extremely hot Texas summer heat with this pregnancy! EDD is April 14, and I'm actually hoping to hold out till the 19th, which is my younger brother's b-day. I already spoke to my midwife about this pregnancy, even though I won't have a real "checkup" till 12 weeks. We had DD at the birth center (free-standing), and are planning a water homebirth this time around!

So, so, so glad to be here after a straight year of TTC this little one!

Now, where's that darn DDC?!?

Originally Posted by MaryTheres

Count me in ladies! Due date is April 7, 2009!:

Congrats on the BFPs ladies. So happy you're joining us!

Originally Posted by Annie0727

I tested over the weekend because I wanted my DP to get to have the experience of seeing that line come up (he didn't see the first one). It went fine and he loved it. Then I tested again this morning -- on a whim, I guess -- and it was negative. :

I know it could mean nothing, but I am so scared that it means my little blastocyst is gone. I want so much to have this baby. I haven't started my period, so hopefully everything's okay. I called my doctor and went in for a blood test this afternoon. I was so nervous, and the nurse very kindly told me I could call the after-hours number and get the results, but when I called, the after-hours nurse said she can't give me the results. I have to wait until I talk to my doctor tomorrow morning. I know in the grand scheme of things this is not that long to wait, but I am feeling so angry that they jerked me around like that when I'm already so wound up and worried.

Uggghhh...so sorry mama you had to go through this. Keep us posted.

Originally Posted by JenMidwife

This is a pregnancy after loss (PAL) for me too. I lost my son @ almost 23 weeks after a very scary roller coaster pregnancy if you're interested, there's a link to my story in my siggy). It has been the hardest thing I've ever done. July, the month we all conceived, actually would have been the month of my due date- so it's really nice to be here with you all now : Fortunately, I saw a perinatologist & he said that it is unlikely to repeat itself & I don't have any greater risk than the average mom for future pregnancies.

Anyway, I bet we will all be a great source of strength to eachother. If you're interested, there is a forum dedicated to PAL here



yep, that's true & as the uterus grows, first it will be our lovely intestines sticking out before the uterus itself actually rises into the abdomen at the end of the first trimester

Mama, Thanks for sharing the story of your precious Owen. I can't imagine a loss like that. Hugs to you.

We had an interview with our first midwife today. She's not certified yet, so I'm a bit concerned, mostly because the other certified one works with an OB who would be able to do ultrasounds and sign my FMLA paperwork. I know that's such a small detail, but it's weighing on my mind.

[scraphappy-Red]

Originally Posted by katiedidbug

Where I am, there are absolutely no MWs that could possibly deliver in a hospital. The OBs have the corner on the market.

Wow, we must be neighbors :

I really, really want to have a home birth this time around...but my ds spent some time today going rounds with the insurance people, who were pretty sure that any type of midwife birth was not covered!!! And furthermore, the nearest midwife is about 100 miles away and in a different state. She's said that she might not want to travel up here anymore, so I'm just not sure what to do.

Ds is worried about 100% of the homebirth/midwife expenses being out of pocket and is kind of hoping I'll give up my search and do the hospital/MD birth.

Can anyone here give me some thoughts, pointers, suggestions on how to proceed or what mountains they overcame to have their dream homebirth?

(And no, we don't have any kind of birthing centers within 100 miles of my home, so that option is out too...)

Thanks ladies...

[JenMidwife]

re: homebirth & money...

We have a HMO. If we go w/ an "in-networok provider" (which hb midwives are not) we pay $10 TOTAL for all of my prenatal, lab, u/s & hospital birth. If we go w/ a hb midwife, it covers nothing.

I am super-cheap, so it's taken me a long time to get there, but I basically rationalized that spending the $ on a hb is like an insurance policy on my body & my baby's body. I believe, for many women & babies, hb is safer than hospital birth & I decided that it was worth spending the money to ensure that my baby & I were not subjected to unneccesary intervention.

At least w/ my midwives, I'm still able to go to in-network labs & u/s providers & that's still covered by my insurance.

Good luck to you all making this difficult decision.

btw, I'm starting to get that bloated & feel like you can't eat, but tummy rumbling starving feeling all that the same time. It makes me crazy, but I'm soooo happy to have my first real symptom (besides no AF of course)

[Degas]

Originally Posted by scraphappy-Red

Ds is worried about 100% of the homebirth/midwife expenses being out of pocket and is kind of hoping I'll give up my search and do the hospital/MD birth.

Can anyone here give me some thoughts, pointers, suggestions on how to proceed or what mountains they overcame to have their dream homebirth?

(And no, we don't have any kind of birthing centers within 100 miles of my home, so that option is out too...)

Thanks ladies...

We were a little concerned with this too with my pregnancy last year (miscarriage), but when we did the math, we realized that it would cost us about the same. With a regular vaginal hospital birth around here being $15,000 and we would have to pay a 20% copay on that - $3000. Our homebirth is going to cost us in the range of $2600. So unless you have really great insurance that will cover more than 20%, it might cost you about the same depending on how much hospital vs. homebirth is in your area.

We are also pregnant after two very early miscarriages. This one has lasted as a healthy pregnancy longer than either one of those pregnancies already - since at this point during the first miscarriage I was already bleeding and having cramps.

As far is telling everyone, we are waiting until at least 12 or 14 weeks. This is because I want to be able to tell my daughter first (she's 5), and she is very sensitive and wouldn't deal well I don't think with a loss - she has nightmares about everything and I think she would be extremely worried and scared about a subsequent baby if this one is a loss. I figure that 12 or 14 weeks we are more in the "safe" zone and also since she is also very observant, she will notice my belly getting bigger.

Also, my inlaws and my parents weren't able to keep a secret very well (they were too excited) with my second pregnancy (1st miscarriage). So even though I told them that we didn't want to tell anybody else, it ended up that practically my whole MIL's church and town knew I was pregnant and was possibly having a miscarriage. : I don't mind sharing a miscarriage with my close friends and family that can give me support, but I don't want to have to "untell" a whole bunch of people I don't even know, YK?

I'm also wondering what's up with our DDC? I've never seen it take this long for a DDC, we're already halfway through the month as far as due dates! I also pm'd an administrator yesterday, but hadn't heard anything back yet.

[Degas]

Originally Posted by JenMidwife

This is a pregnancy after loss (PAL) for me too. I lost my son @ almost 23 weeks after a very scary roller coaster pregnancy if you're interested, there's a link to my story in my siggy). It has been the hardest thing I've ever done. July, the month we all conceived, actually would have been the month of my due date- so it's really nice to be here with you all now : Fortunately, I saw a perinatologist & he said that it is unlikely to repeat itself & I don't have any greater risk than the average mom for future pregnancies.

Anyway, I bet we will all be a great source of strength to eachother. If you're interested, there is a forum dedicated to PAL here

I am sorry about your loss of Owen mama. He is beautiful. I can't even imagine how hard that must be for you.