I had my UC in March and had been planning one for the last eight years. I like to be alone and I'm not really that fond of women since I've not gotten along with many, so I always felt that I wanted to be alone without anyone around me. Just the thought of someone else being in my house, talking to me, asking me questions, or even touching me irritated me. I just knew I wanted quiet and peace during labor and not be bothered.
I'm glad I didn't have my midwives there, too. They did my prenatal care and did show up - uninvited - while I was in labor, but my husband met them in the driveway and shooed them away.
Having my husband around while I was in labor was utterly infuriating. Every time he made noise or spoke, I would get so angry and kept telling him to "shut up!" He just wouldn't. Arrrggh!
If I'd have had a midwife wanting to constantly check the baby or ask me any questions or even LOOK at me during my 21 hours of painful back labor with a 5 hour transition, I probably would have put my fist through her teeth.
I'd like my mom to be there for my second birth though, and not my husband. It was really an "I want my mommy" kind of moment and I know she would be more respectful of my wishes than my husband was and she'd stay very quiet and just hold my hand. I wish she didn't live on the other side of the planet