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post #21 of 44
I hate that people act surprised when I tell them I'm pregnant or hint at it. I know I'm overweight but I'm not that big and I have a massive belly sticking out. I look pretty damn pregnant not just fat.
post #22 of 44
I ran into an old co-worker at the grocery store the other day and I've seen him several times with my dd, who is now three and he asks "is this little one yours" and so I said, "yes, my first baby and she is going to be a big sister in a few weeks" and it appeared he hadn't even noticed the watermelon under my shirt and said "oh, you carry it well".....I was stunned. I too am on the heavier side, but come on 36 weeks along there is clearly a baby BUMP there!
post #23 of 44
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Originally Posted by ~Megan~ View Post
I hate that people act surprised when I tell them I'm pregnant or hint at it. I know I'm overweight but I'm not that big and I have a massive belly sticking out. I look pretty damn pregnant not just fat.
That happened to me recently. I am overweight too, but I definitely have an obvious baby belly. Someone was like "oh, you're pregnant??". I asked them if they thought I was just drinking lots of beer lately.
post #24 of 44
When I was pregnant with my twins, I got tons of comments (very personal comments and questions, not-funny jokes, etc.) from random people. When I had infant twins with me at the grocery store, etc., I also got tons of comments (inquiries into the state of my fertility, arguments re: the twins' identical/fraternal status, etc.) from random people.

...But now that I'm hugely pregnant in August, walking around with an enormous belly and 3.5-year-old twins, I think people are afraid to say anything. I've gotten about two comments this whole pregnancy.

Nice people give me affectionate smiles. Others give me looks which clearly mean something like "ever hear of birth control?" or maybe "lady, aren't you too old to be pregnant?" But nobody's actually saying anything...

Lucky for them.
post #25 of 44
I hate the question- "Was this planned?" It makes it seem like if you grow your family w/o a "plan" that your child is unwanted or something. Besides I feel like it is none of their business.

I also hear the whole you planned this pregnancy well- (sarcasm- relating to the summer pregnancy in 100 degree thing.)
post #26 of 44
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Originally Posted by bettie cracker View Post
That happened to me recently. I am overweight too, but I definitely have an obvious baby belly. Someone was like "oh, you're pregnant??". I asked them if they thought I was just drinking lots of beer lately.
With my sense of humor that would have turned into something along the lines of the trapped gas and haven't been able to burp in 8 months.

But I tend to be rather snarky.
post #27 of 44
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Originally Posted by deliarose View Post
I hate the question- "Was this planned?" It makes it seem like if you grow your family w/o a "plan" that your child is unwanted or something.
Ahhh none of my friends have dared to ask me this - because I know they are all thinking that the answer is no, since we had not been married that long when we conceived. I wish they would so I could correct them!
post #28 of 44

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Originally Posted by Love_My_Babies View Post
My 3 yo told me it is time for the baby to come because my butt is too big.
AHHHH, that's too cute!

Mine is getting bigger too and whenever I talk about it, my DD says " momma...your butt IS NOT getting bigger." Makes your heart melt bc they are lying so nice to you!
post #29 of 44
A lady I work with has been swearing I'm having twins even though I have ultrasounds and everything else to prove there's only one. She still calls me "twins" when she sees me. I swear, i want to kick her azz most days.

I also keep hearing "that baby isn't here yet?!":, "OMG you look ready to pop":, "Wow, you look tired. It's almost over":. I'm not tired! My face is bigger so I look tired azzhole! I'm at the point where I just don't speak to people but being pregnant everyone has something to say to you. Even my own mother swears I'm getting bigger by the day. I SEE HER EVERYDAY! Honestly, I just want to be left alone. I don't want anyone to say anything to me about this pregnancy anymore. I'm done. I'm going to change the outgoing message on my voicemail to say, "Yes, I'm still pregnant!"

Oh and I also get the "it sucks to be pregnant during the summer" comments. Whatever....
post #30 of 44
I want to make a tank top that says....

"please don't feed any unsolicitated advice"


you know like at the zoo...


lol

I hate the stares...just bc I have a big belly you are going to stare like you've never seen one before....seriously...???
post #31 of 44
honestly, I don't mind the comments about being pregnant in the summer, because that's *my* biggest complaint and I like the sympathy.
post #32 of 44
At sea world I would get stares....I mean...big stares especiallly when i was holding my 14 old month.


I would get OMG you are huge! (thanks...I needed to hear that).

You are about ready to pop! (not yet...but thank you for telling me)

You must be so hot! (yes, and irritated so why don't you buy me one of these expensive sodas here at Sea world and shut up)

Yes, they are all mine. We are not done.
post #33 of 44
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Originally Posted by bettie cracker View Post
honestly, I don't mind the comments about being pregnant in the summer, because that's *my* biggest complaint and I like the sympathy.
post #34 of 44
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Originally Posted by Gwendolyn's babies View Post
At sea world I would get stares....I mean...big stares especiallly when i was holding my 14 old month.


I would get OMG you are huge! (thanks...I needed to hear that).

You are about ready to pop! (not yet...but thank you for telling me)

You must be so hot! (yes, and irritated so why don't you buy me one of these expensive sodas here at Sea world and shut up)

Yes, they are all mine. We are not done.
We just went to Sea World and I was getting the same stares. So I just left my tank on.

At the beginning of this pg we went to a water park inear dallas and I walked around with only a bathing suit on...I was already showing quite a bit and all the skanky little teenage brats were giving me dirty looks. I wanted to smack the <bleep> out of them!
post #35 of 44
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Originally Posted by hyz View Post
But what really bothers me is everyone asking the name, which we aren't telling until she's born. I suppose it's fine if people want to ask once, but I make it clear that we aren't telling, and the SAME people ask OVER AND OVER again. Always, "so, have you decided on a name yet?" And these people don't get subtlety (my usual answer to deflect is "oh, we're waiting until she's born to set it for sure"), so even after I come right out and say "We're not telling anyone until she's born. We didn't want a lot of input, because it's hard enough for DH and I to find one we agree on.
this has been similar for us too, though perhaps not as extreme as in your situation, as far as people asking all the time. with ds everyone made a huge deal out of the name we picked (including some really rude comments from family members) and my sil took the liberty of telling everyone (church members, friends, etc) the name we had picked out instead of letting us tell, often right in front of us. this time dh and i have had a harder time picking out any names. we've finally picked out a girl's name (though still no clue as to a boy's name) but i don't want to tell anyone so that we can avoid the blabbing and personal opinions we dealt with last time. comments as to how big i am getting don't bother me so much, since i feel like i am ginormous and about to split open like an overripe fruit anyways....but shutup about the baby's name and gender already, please...
post #36 of 44
My BIL today goes, DAMN-you look pregnant...I was like, um duh?

My friend's mom says to me today, oh your husband must be ready for this to be done! I was like WTH do you mean? HE isn't doing anything, he is just living with me! She goes, oh well, he has to deal with you whining all the time...I nearly hit her! I DON'T whine, NOT is it any of her f'ing business if I do AND if that is all my husband had to deal with, then good for him-I AM THE PREGNANT ONE!! GEEZ!!!!!!!

Again with my friend's mom...so you aren't going to starve this baby by breastfeeding again are you? In reference to my breastfeeding troubles with DD which are an EXTREMELY sensitive subject and she knows that.....

My mother goes, have you gained a lot of weight? Hello? I lost over 50lbs and you can't SEE that? I even dropped 2 sizes and even with my huge baby belly, I still wear a smaller than my pre-pregnancy size..so just because my fat ass sister gained like 75lbs with her son that means I had to as well????? I lost with this baby and with my DD...

Again with my mother, so are you going to schedule a c-section since you are overdue now? I am 38 weeks now...HOW is that overdue? And WHY would I schedule a c-section ANYWAYS for being over my due date? She was like, well, you can't be thinking of having the baby at home again are you? Like my relatively short, completely uncomplicated, beautiful drug free homebirth 17 months ago is reason for me to run right out and sign up for a c-section in a hospital???

Stupid people abound for sure.....
post #37 of 44
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Originally Posted by Mamatolea View Post
My BIL today goes, DAMN-you look pregnant...I was like, um duh?

My friend's mom says to me today, oh your husband must be ready for this to be done! I was like WTH do you mean? HE isn't doing anything, he is just living with me! She goes, oh well, he has to deal with you whining all the time...I nearly hit her! I DON'T whine, NOT is it any of her f'ing business if I do AND if that is all my husband had to deal with, then good for him-I AM THE PREGNANT ONE!! GEEZ!!!!!!!

Again with my friend's mom...so you aren't going to starve this baby by breastfeeding again are you? In reference to my breastfeeding troubles with DD which are an EXTREMELY sensitive subject and she knows that.....

My mother goes, have you gained a lot of weight? Hello? I lost over 50lbs and you can't SEE that? I even dropped 2 sizes and even with my huge baby belly, I still wear a smaller than my pre-pregnancy size..so just because my fat ass sister gained like 75lbs with her son that means I had to as well????? I lost with this baby and with my DD...

Again with my mother, so are you going to schedule a c-section since you are overdue now? I am 38 weeks now...HOW is that overdue? And WHY would I schedule a c-section ANYWAYS for being over my due date? She was like, well, you can't be thinking of having the baby at home again are you? Like my relatively short, completely uncomplicated, beautiful drug free homebirth 17 months ago is reason for me to run right out and sign up for a c-section in a hospital???

Stupid people abound for sure.....

geeez! I think you win the prize for stupid remarks --- coming from family and friends no less!!
post #38 of 44
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Originally Posted by hyz View Post
But what really bothers me is everyone asking the name, which we aren't telling until she's born. I suppose it's fine if people want to ask once, but I make it clear that we aren't telling, and the SAME people ask OVER AND OVER again.
Same story here. If I haven't told you by now, chances are very high that I won't be telling. Get over it.

I also get the crap about the weather. Hello people... it's 101 degrees here today. EVERYONE is hot and miserable. Thank goodness I'm clever enough to stay in the air-conditioning.

I hate people. :
post #39 of 44
Surprisingly enough I haven't gotten any stupid or random comments. Well, actually my boss thinks I shouldn't lift anything over 5 lbs and should have an ultrasound at every appt. but I learned to ignore him a long time ago.
post #40 of 44
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Originally Posted by mamamerle View Post
I also get the crap about the weather. Hello people... it's 101 degrees here today. EVERYONE is hot and miserable. Thank goodness I'm clever enough to stay in the air-conditioning.
Oh, that really made me chuckle this morning. Thanks.

I've gotten similar comments about the weather ("oooh, pregnant in the summer, I do NOT recommend that, it's awful, you should plan better next time, blah blah blah"), in particular from a coworker who had her baby in August a couple years ago. I know for a FACT that she works ALL day in A/C, and then drives in her air conditioned car to her lovely air conditioned home or the air conditioned mall. She is not a person who enjoys or participates in any outdoor activities in any event. So I don't get WHY she thinks it was so awful to be pregnant in the summer. Granted, she apparently had a fairly miserable pregnancy, but I don't see what the weather had to do with that....

Actually, the only thing that bothers me about this summer pregnancy deal is that we're planning a hospital birth, and all the new residents start in July, all petrified and confused and bumbling. So I'm afraid we're going to get some kind of three stooges or deer in the headlights routine, and we're going to have to be careful to keep the newbies in line.
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