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post #61 of 94
love the site! isnt it amazing what an inspiration children are? congrats again and enjoy the REAL life!
post #62 of 94
I wish you could talk to my husband.

We'd been dating for only 8 months and not living together when we found out I was pregnant. He's 26, I'm 30 (29 at the time). Emotionally and financially ready? HARDLY!

We decided to keep the baby, eloped, moved in together, had plenty of struggles through the pregnancy...and now we're the parents of a 5 week old little girl.

I won't lie and tell you it's been easy. At times, it's been harder than I could have possibly imagined. In fact, right now my husband is in a major sulk because he thinks he's losing all his friends (most of whom are childless, and forget to call him, assume we can no longer be invited out, etc). At times, I've wished I'd chosen to do this without him. At times, I'm sure he's wished the same thing.

BUT. Easy is over-rated. I wouldn't trade my new family for all the freedom, money, and nights out at the bar in the world. Most of the time, I know my husband feels the same way.

I also happen to have a 36-yo friend who's been trying to get pregnant for the last 6 years. She finally succeeded, and she and her husband of 15 years are going through struggles and doubts that are remarkably similar to what I went through. So go figure. I think parenting is kind of sink or swim. There is no such thing as ready.
post #63 of 94
I am so happy to hear that things are going so well. Remember pamper her when the baby gets here

I also read your post and felt I could relate I was on BC and got pregnant with my ds I was so so so scared but once he was here all the fears went away. Being a parent is amazing the love you feel is overwhelming and beautiful no words can describe it. You have a beautiful journey ahead of you!
post #64 of 94
Thread Starter 
[QUOTE=mojobot2000;13282566]I wish you could talk to my husband.
Well don't get me wrong I certainly don't have it all figured out. in fact I freak out several times a day. It's normally a flash of freak out :-) yeah crazy how quickly life can hit you and rapidly move when you become pregnant. I think I would love however to talk with your husband. I'm sure we can relate to much!!!


We'd been dating for only 8 months and not living together when we found out I was pregnant. He's 26, I'm 30 (29 at the time). Emotionally and financially ready? HARDLY!

Yep Know the feeling! somehow yah gotta just take it one day at a time. That's how I've been looking at it. That really seems to help. when I start thinking of everything all at once I become completely overwhelmed.

We decided to keep the baby, eloped, moved in together, had plenty of struggles through the pregnancy...and now we're the parents of a 5 week old little girl.

Yep we'll be following right behind yah! We're due ANY DAY NOW!!! WOW!!! By the way I think it would be nice for us all to get together sometime once we settle into life with a baby. I'm sure we can relate on a lot of the past year and much of the same thoughts about the future.

All the best!
post #65 of 94
The website is really beautiful! :
post #66 of 94
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Originally Posted by BrooklynActor View Post
My newest creative outlet has been to build our baby website. Let me know what you think!

http://web.mac.com/jondrama/Pregnancy/Welcome.html
Those were beautiful photos.
post #67 of 94
That's a great website.
post #68 of 94
Okay, I know I'm a pg lady...but I'm in tears...I jut love you to pieces right now, man. You first came here scared, confused and not sure what to do...you were expressive and honest about your feelings and even though some of the things you were saying sounded a bit scary (NO, NO don't LEAVE HER! - I shouted) I still appreciated how honest and raw your feelings were.

Now...to get this kind of update...I'm just floored. I'm so happy to have heard this small snippet of your life...to see such an honest accounting of how it feels to be on your end of the stick. Thank you for your honesty and for your update.

Your website ROCKS and you are going to be a GREAT dad...I wish all the luck, love and peace in the world for you and your awesome and expanding family. As the day of your birth draws near...and trust me on this friend...you are about to become wealtheir and happier than you ever dreamed possible. It will blow you away, I am sobbing now as I write this...sobbing out of love for your situation, out of anticipation for you and your DP....these last nine mos with my DD have been so awesome for us, we weren't planning our baby girl...but oh man, how stale and silly our lives were before she came, looking back now, we can't imagine what our life was like without her, (We honestly don't remember!) she is our everything...we just suck every fiber of her in, she is so precious and fun.

The awesome part is, that it is soooo challenging, too...it's not all gravy for sure...but the hard parts are also the awesome parts, because they draw us closer together, make us a stronger couple. I highly recommend the whole thing...pregnancy, birth, parenting...it's all been so great....

Oh man...there should be restrictions on the posts a pg woman is allowed to read, I'm a real blubbering mess at this point. But that's because it's beautiful...your life is beautiful man...COONGRATULATIONS....:: There is no time more simply and purely good than this....love her up, rub that belly, sleep in together...it all flies too quickly from here, DAD!!
post #69 of 94
Just discovered this thread - wow what a great story! Thank you for being so open and honest. As several PPs have said, it definitely bodes well for your future as a parent. FWIW, DH and I have been together 14 years and were trying to conceive for seven years before I got pregnant, and luckily for us we're fairly stable financially, but we were still in total shock when we found out the news. I remember lying in bed at night and feeling like I was hurtling through space, just falling through the air not knowing where I was going. So yes, I think your feelings are totally normal.

Please do keep us updated with your news!
post #70 of 94
Thread Starter 

I'm a PROUD FATHER!!!!!!!!!!

Where do I begin!? Everyone one said it's would happen instantly, I it just happens when you see you child for the first time. That you truly do deeply and unconditionally fall in LOVE like that! honestly I didn't believe them. I down played it and told myself I hope so. I didn't want to feel like there was something wrong with me if I didn't feel what everyone one else said I would. But MY GOD, the overflow of emotions was unbelievable! The moment I set eyes on my son, I just kept said "OH MY GOD, OH MY GOD, OH MY GOD!" It's true, It's sooo very very true! I consider myself I pretty guarded person with my feeling, but I've never felt anything like this! He's absolutely wonderful, amazing, beautiful, the most precious little thing I've ever set eyes on. his absolute innocence! The world it a different place to me. Everything looks and sounds different through the connection of a son and father!

So to give you the quick update on the epic most intense experience of my life:
My DP was in labor...are you ready....for 60hrs!!! 60Hrs. at home with our Dula and Midwife. unfortunately my Dp's cervix got stuck at 7inch and nothing we could do we get it beyond. The last 15 hrs became torturous. my DP had to fight ever Natural urge to push because she was fully dialated but our baby's head was very large and putting a lot of pressure on her cervix. We tried everything: Birthing Tub, Massage, Showers, Squatting, accu-puncture, physically stretching the cervix. It became the most unnatural natural birth. Finally after 15 hrs. of absolutely no change and complete exhuastion, pain and sadness we tranferred to the hospital and had a C-section. our baby boy Sion was boy at 9:59 PM on Sunday March 22 weighing in at a whopping 9.4 lbs!!! He was lodged in DP pelvis and due to his size the c-section was truly our safest option. We finally arrived home 2 days later, finally just the three of us! Together, alone, away from the florescent lights, the beeping, the testing etc. Just our new family together in complete awe of our beautiful baby boy! and he's absolutely perfect! as I write this he's completely passed out on my shoulder, his cute little face perfect in every way! I have to say once again I'M IN LOVE!!!!

Our dear friends Sarah who is a professional photographer took photos of the entire home labor which came out stunning. Just these few that she has put up capture the raw emotion of the hours! I would love to share with all:

http://sarahtew.wordpress.com/2009/0...on/#comment-25

What an incredible journey from my first posting!!! MY GOD!!! :-)
post #71 of 94
Congratulations!! What great pictures!!
post #72 of 94
OH BrooklynActor thank you so much for allowing us to take this journey with you. The feelings are intense aren't they? I'm just so happy for you and your DP. Enjoy this babymoon. Enjoy this life. Congratulations. :
post #73 of 94
yeah!! cheers!! great pics! what a good looking family!!!
post #74 of 94
Congratulations!!

Enjoy this special time.
post #75 of 94
Fantastic news! Thank you for sharing the gorgeous photos.
post #76 of 94
Oh my goodness . . . precious.
post #77 of 94
Ha! I didn't realize who your partner was! I was just coming to look to see if you guys had had your baby, and realized I'd already seen the pictures! Congratulations! Sion is just beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, and so are his parents!
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post #78 of 94
Wonderful! I'm so thrilled for you both.
post #79 of 94
Congratulations, and thank you for sharing your journey with us.
post #80 of 94
Congrats!
And those pictures are truly amazing! The first one with the baby, he is so gorgeous, and so awake. My little brother is her and saw them with me, he is only 20 and has no kids yet, but he said those pics were awesome.
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